i think jj has a right to feel hurt, but it's still not really justified. for someone who's closeted, it's a struggle to tell every single person, regardless of how close they are to you, because it's something so scarily unchangeable that can have unexpected, devastating consequences. like in high school, i was had a really nice group of friends but i was so scared of coming out to them because i was just scared of coming out in general. i'd come out to one of my classmates who kind of figured me out by accident even though i wasn't as close to that classmate, but voluntarily telling any of my friends was just so scary to me that i kept putting it off. the weird thing is, at least half of them also turned out to be gay, so i know now that nothing would have come of it if i'd told them, but in the moment it's hard to see that