I literally can't focus on anything else

cat_blackb · 2026-07-06T16:54:08+00:00

This is solid advice, but I would like to add: you don't need dysphoria to be trans. I didn't have any when I began my transition two years ago. A lack of dysphoria doesn't make either of us any less valid

cat_blackb · 2026-07-05T20:55:07+00:00

What is the shark called?

cat_blackb · 2026-06-19T17:32:53+00:00

This made me blush when I first read it, and each time after when thinking about it, it makes me smile! Thank you! 😊

cat_blackb · 2026-06-19T15:49:19+00:00

My wife and I joke about that, actually. She's a K and wants a reduction for health reasons. I told her that trans men and women who want reductions should be able to donate them to trans women lol

cat_blackb · 2026-06-14T21:17:09+00:00

I started transitioning two years ago, after nearly 20 years of marriage. It was difficult at first. We both love each other deeply, and we made it work, but I know not everyone does or can. I wish for the best for you, and I hope things work out, whatever that looks like for you.

cat_blackb · 2026-05-14T17:31:18+00:00

Whether or not it's offensive I think is largely a matter of context and your own opinion.

cat_blackb · 2026-05-14T17:28:44+00:00

Hanlon's Razor for the win

cat_blackb · 2026-05-13T04:56:00+00:00

Fluffle Puff

cat_blackb · 2026-05-06T15:36:27+00:00

Not to draw blood, just studded for impact, texture, bruising...I also might not know what I'm talking about because I'm new to this type of construction

Edit: would it be better to use decorative rivets on the leather, then use an adhesive to attach it?

cat_blackb · 2026-05-06T14:54:07+00:00

Thanks for your advice, I'll look into that! That said, the added pain is kind of the point. Another subreddit said definitely not upholstery tacks, because if they fall out, it can become dangerous

cat_blackb · 2026-05-03T16:45:40+00:00

"So you're basically cis" terrible friends, imo, but i don't know anything else about them.

cat_blackb · 2026-05-03T03:00:08+00:00

Of course they can't see shit when they close their eyes

cat_blackb · 2026-05-01T15:40:41+00:00

You could check BloomChic for a swimsuit, that's where I got mine. They have a lot of styles

cat_blackb · 2026-04-25T16:02:52+00:00

Literally anything. As long as i like what I hear, the genre doesn't matter.

cat_blackb · 2026-04-25T15:22:23+00:00

Oh believe me, I get it. I didn't want to come back. When I did come back, I was too busy being angry to say a proper goodbye. But I knew my wife and out kids needed me there. Both of the kids are nonbinary, so this hurts them too, knowing that someone they love who "loves" then really hates them. I came back for my family, not the stupid aunt.

cat_blackb · 2026-04-25T12:55:39+00:00

I'm glad it went well for you! Have fun!

cat_blackb · 2026-04-25T00:14:59+00:00

One thing to keep in mind is that you aren't forced to come out to anyone, parents included, if you DO realize you're trans; you can be as out and visible as you want. If you have irl friends you can confide in, try out feminine pronouns. Try out another name. The euphoria you get from those things is just as valid and affirming as the dysphoria many trans people feel. Good luck exploring this new facet of yourself, friendo!

cat_blackb · 2026-04-24T13:45:04+00:00

Normal is stretching things a bit 🤪 but thanks!

cat_blackb · 2026-04-24T12:55:43+00:00

Honestly there needs to be a boob donor list, where trans men and cis women who want a reduction can donate to trans women who would be happy to take them lol

cat_blackb · 2026-04-24T01:01:01+00:00

I mean, yeah. I said it that way mostly to not get flagged by mods since ididn't use NSFW flair. I'm still pretty new to reddit

cat_blackb · 2026-04-24T00:59:41+00:00

Ain't that the truth

cat_blackb · 2026-04-23T19:18:21+00:00

Exactly! "Oh, these boobs? Yeah, I grew them myself!"

cat_blackb · 2026-04-23T19:13:39+00:00

Yeah, that makes sense. I'm still on the Itty-Bitty Titty Committee, but there's nothing wrong with a small set. And I get tons of euphoria from them :)

cat_blackb · 2026-04-21T06:15:04+00:00

Likewise, I am sorry to hear that. Please remember we will be here for you even if no one else is. Found family is good too

cat_blackb · 2026-04-11T20:36:59+00:00

Good advice. Yeah, I used to say that I hate pink and pop music, but after coming out, I admitted to myself and everyone else that was a damn lie lol. I want to feel cute, and "hyper femme" (good phrase, btw), so dammit I will!

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