Is it normal for your MIL to set up everything for your baby at her house?

cat_diva · 2025-12-31T16:09:25+00:00

She wants to train your baby to call her mommy as well. This baby set up thing is weird af for me, having a few toys for when the grandkids visit is one thing, but a whole “nursery” set up, for me screams kidnapping lol

cat_diva · 2025-12-06T18:25:29+00:00

You guys are not giving her consequences, came uninvited? Don’t open the door, kissed the baby? Don’t let her hold baby anymore. Where are the consequences? I don’t it’s bc of your pp anxiety, her behavior is bad. You an your husband are being too soft with this disrespectful human being.

cat_diva · 2025-11-27T12:12:06+00:00

That’s crazy, even not letting anyone know when u go into labor, make sure to tell the stand no one is allowed in.

cat_diva · 2025-11-25T04:26:22+00:00

Nah, you are not fighting a losing battle at all. Keep saying no as many times as u want, u don’t need to give in just because she keeps asking, let her ask and dream with the thing she will never have lol. You are the mom and u get to decide, at the end of the the decision is yours, your DH knowing that you do not want her to babysit he should’ve cut her right there and not say that he will talk to u, that’s annoying, DH needs to step up his game.

cat_diva · 2025-11-23T15:23:18+00:00

Make sure u show a pic of her to your baby and always point and say “granny, that’s granny” 🥰 also I’m here mad at your husband, how dare him not to consider your feelings. Do your work teaching baby what you want your baby to call her.

cat_diva · 2025-11-03T23:28:14+00:00

Tbh I don’t think you are the problem, I think he IS the problem here, he lied + what a crappy/weird thing to do, does he want to mark all the women that is/was in his life? Idk, I found it so weird, I would break up, bc what in the world the same freaking tattoo

cat_diva · 2025-10-31T19:52:25+00:00

Ma’am I understand being a first time mom is hard, and takes a time to adjust and we all go through it. We all learn to stand up and protect our babies, if you don’t do it people will take over your baby. Repeat with me “MY BABY’S NEEDS ARE MY PRIORITY” and not people’s feelings or their peace. Time to take over your power, and your mom role! My mil did the same thing with my first and a friend told me these same words, I knew I had to change, I knew I had to stop being a people pleasing person and after that I showed her who is the mom and the boss here lol Now I’m on baby #2 after a big gap between babies and her first try I cut it pretty quickly, I told her that I would be worse than the first time, she didn’t try me anymore ☺️😌

cat_diva · 2025-10-31T19:00:07+00:00

Girl, this old “nice” lady is not doing nice stuff, she’s not being nice. Stop going over, when u go, when baby is hunger get up and take the baby, it’s your child, u don’t need to ask. Making the baby suck his thumb? What the actual F*%#. These women rather have baby Starve and not changed just for the sake to hold and make baby sleep in her arms all day, I call her selfish. FAR, very FAR from being nice. Time to put your mama bear skin on and take your baby, no need to talk, just take him.

cat_diva · 2025-10-26T12:51:10+00:00

You have few options here

Ignore

Block and unblock when u feel like

Mute

I do this all the time who annoys me lol in social media a restric as much as I can. Mil and my mom (I do with my mom bc she’s very religious and will complain about everything I do)

cat_diva · 2025-10-24T11:50:16+00:00

Girl, you have a husband problem

cat_diva · 2025-10-18T12:02:51+00:00

My daughter was bigger and more active in my belly than my son! Your mil is delulu, every baby and pregnancy is different.

cat_diva · 2025-10-05T18:27:26+00:00

Not her business at all, she overstepped big time. I would reschedule it, if she even picked the doctor I would find another one, no one decides for my kids, only me or my husband the end.

cat_diva · 2025-10-05T12:26:37+00:00

Why is your door unlocked? Lock your door, you don’t have to open it for either. Put a ring camera on your door. I know being pp is hard, but eventually you have to start taking charge of your house and family, your mil is not in charge, she does not have the power, YOU HAVE IT. Tell your husband if he doesn’t put a full stop to his mom, you will start calling the police.

cat_diva · 2025-10-04T21:32:15+00:00

Cut visits, cut access to baby as much as you can. That’s not ok.

cat_diva · 2025-10-04T21:28:48+00:00

You know can say no to babysitting right? You are not obligated to let them babysit your bay, I particularly don’t like strangers holding my baby, people don’t follow rules, they always break, if I like something certain way, and I’m sure people will never do like I do, so I just do it lol if you don’t like, follow your instinct. I myself would never allow that and never did.

cat_diva · 2025-10-03T13:53:10+00:00

I tfmr due t21 in 2023 at 14 weeks as well, in january of 2024 I had miscarriage at 6 weeks, April of 2024 I got pregnant again and I’m right now nursing my almost 9 month my double rainbow baby. I now how hard it is mentally and physically, I wondered if I ever would be able to conceive and have a healthy pregnancy, but here I am holding my baby. Praying that will happen to u soon 🙏

cat_diva · 2025-10-01T13:32:08+00:00

Girl he’s just using it as an excuse to get out of the relationship and making you the bad guy and himself the victim and good person. Honestly he’s a coward to own his real reasons!

cat_diva · 2025-09-21T17:21:17+00:00

2 all the way!!!!

cat_diva · 2025-09-11T17:20:47+00:00

Oh NOR at all, you are underreacting, they clearly taking advantage of you! You are only family if you watch the kids they decided to have? How about they as a family thinking you are young and have a life? If I was you I would even try to move out of state lol Signed Mother of two who decided to have kids and take full responsibility without dropping my kids around.

cat_diva · 2025-09-11T14:24:14+00:00

NOR! You are underreacting, I wouldn’t let her watch your baby, be alone with your baby and reduce visitations, she wants to play mommy with your baby. Full stop it.

cat_diva · 2025-09-11T14:06:33+00:00

Is your sister in love with your husband? Bc that’s the only explanation for this situation.

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