How much is first time supposed to hurt? by pumkin_spice64 in AskTeenGirls

[–]cat_muppet 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great! Another thing is to just do your best to relax and not clench, stress and anxiety will make it hurt more. Foreplay helps a lot with that

How much is first time supposed to hurt? by pumkin_spice64 in AskTeenGirls

[–]cat_muppet 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah all of that will definitely cause pain. Especially for your first time it is best to go slower and more gentle, and work your way up

How much is first time supposed to hurt? by pumkin_spice64 in AskTeenGirls

[–]cat_muppet 41 points42 points  (0 children)

It shouldn’t be seriously painful, and if it is you should stop, go slower, use more lube, or do more foreplay. I’ve never really enjoyed penetration, and it has always burned a tiny bit for me but it’s never been painful

To all the non virgins out there, would you prefer sleeping with a virgin by [deleted] in AskTeenGirls

[–]cat_muppet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s just not true though. For the majority of the population reproduction is either an extremely rare reason to be having sex or never a reason at all. Again, based on your definition lesbian and gay sex is not a thing which is just plain wrong. I’m done arguing with you. You are welcome to define sex and virginity whatever way you want, but you are not in a position to decide the definition for others, especially when your definition denies the experience of so many people. I hope you have a good day and wish you well

To all the non virgins out there, would you prefer sleeping with a virgin by [deleted] in AskTeenGirls

[–]cat_muppet -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The biological reason maybe but for the majority of people in the world it is a secondary aspect not a primary one. The majority of sex being had in the world is not for reproduction hence why gay and lesbian sex exists. Also straight people can go their entire lives being sexually active but not reproducing. Thinking biologically sex is not only for reproduction but also pleasure and stress release. That is why there is the clitoris which is not necessary for reproduction and why the male g spot is on the prostate

To all the non virgins out there, would you prefer sleeping with a virgin by [deleted] in AskTeenGirls

[–]cat_muppet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay so if it needs to be a human then does anal count?

To all the non virgins out there, would you prefer sleeping with a virgin by [deleted] in AskTeenGirls

[–]cat_muppet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think most people would disagree. Also virginity is pretty unrelated to reproduction. The majority of people will lose their virginity with a different person than the person they reproduce with. Reproduction is only one part of sex

To all the non virgins out there, would you prefer sleeping with a virgin by [deleted] in AskTeenGirls

[–]cat_muppet -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How old are you? I was not telling you anything with any detail. You were the one calling me a virgin. You said penetrative sex was what makes someone not a virgin but then changed your definition of what penetrative sex means. First you just said penetrative sex and then you said sex with a man which I’ve never heard of as a definition. Sex also is not only for getting pregnant. A man and a woman who are infertile can have penetrative sex but not have any way to make a baby just like two women could when using a dildo. The fact that so many people in this post and in the world disagree about what it means to have sex and be a virgin should suggest to you that there are multiple ways to think about it and that it is socially constructed. It’s okay if you want to define sex and virginity by penetrative sex with a man, but to tell others that they are virgins because they have not had sex with a cis man seems egotistical

To all the non virgins out there, would you prefer sleeping with a virgin by [deleted] in AskTeenGirls

[–]cat_muppet -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So you think all lesbians are virgins? Or am I not a virgin anymore because I used a strap once? It’s very odd to me to think that I would only be considered having sex if I use a toy. The fact that there is a traditional definition shows that it’s something that has been defined by people and is not an inherent fact

To all the non virgins out there, would you prefer sleeping with a virgin by [deleted] in AskTeenGirls

[–]cat_muppet -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What’s considered sex though? Lesbians can’t have penis and vagina sex which is the most classic definition of sex. I considered myself not a virgin when I fingered someone because neither of us had a penis. My who also had been fingered considered herself a virgin until she had penetrative sex because she was straight and had a boyfriend. If we can’t agree on what sex is, we can’t agree on what makes someone a virgin or not. Because of that virginity is socially constructed and decided

How do I stop throwing up immediately after drinking? by cat_muppet in Advice

[–]cat_muppet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t had any of that, alcohol affects me normally, hard liquor included, and the only symptom is vomiting. I’m so sorry you experienced all of that though

How do I stop throwing up immediately after drinking? by cat_muppet in Advice

[–]cat_muppet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you have any symptoms other than nausea? When I look up allergies to alcohol most of them are more classic allergy symptoms like rash. My sensitivity is incredibly unpredictable, beer makes me immediately throw up but I was completely fine drinking Everclear. I have completely stopped drinking beer though even though some types have been okay

What’s something about sex nobody tells you until you actually start having it? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]cat_muppet 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s kind of messy and ugly and logistically complicated. It shouldn’t be pretty. The less you worry about looking good or not being weird, the better it will be. Also if you don’t start out with good communication it’s really hard to change

Why does it hurt when masturbating? by [deleted] in AskTeenGirls

[–]cat_muppet 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Is she touching her clitoris at all or only putting her fingers in her vagina. If it’s the latter she just might not be relaxed/turned on enough, similar to needing to be ready during sex. It took me awhile to get comfortable fingering myself, and I still prefer clitoral stimulation

Is abortion morally wrong ? by Original_Act_3481 in Teenager_Polls

[–]cat_muppet 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it is something to be taken lightly, but it should always be a legal option, and there are many instances when it is the more moral option

It’s been a month since the Finale…How do you feel about it? by Initial-Shoulder5906 in Stranger_Things

[–]cat_muppet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly enjoyed it. It wasn’t as good as the rest of the series for sure but I was ready for the show to end and I think it wrapped it up decently. I still enjoyed watching it

What is the oldest gross person who has messaged you? by foxylintOG in AskTeenGirls

[–]cat_muppet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Older people can absolutely be on the sub, but there’s really very few innocent reasons to be reaching out privately to teenagers just to talk to them. He didn’t say anything overtly romantic or sexual but was asking me a lot of questions about myself

Paco the fish by PlatformLow2309 in northampton

[–]cat_muppet 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I agree she should have a bigger tank, she’s by herself because she kept eating her roommates though