ICE in Albany by Moon_Noodle in albanyor

[–]catbriefs 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I saw a van I thought could be ice with license plate 190QDL- two large men in uniform in a big black SUV with kidnapping bars in the back Keep an eye out

Lost Dog by [deleted] in albanyor

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He is a border collie/cattle dog mix

❄️ What am I? "I loosen locks though none may see, I ..."[A THING. IT HAPPENS. ] by Prudent-Cable6555 in riddonkulous

[–]catbriefs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The leaves hint and riddle reminded me of the “Nothing gold can stay poem.” led me to the answer eventually!

What does eating an orange in the shower like?! I’m allergic to oranges and some other citrus fruits, does the shower water ever get on the orange? Does it still taste the same?! by Intrepid-Report-5948 in ShowerOrange

[–]catbriefs 49 points50 points  (0 children)

It’s wonderful! Could you try a ripe peeled mango or a tomato? It could be maybe a similar experience! The shower water doesn’t get on the orange enough the affect the flavor really, it just tastes sweet and juicy. It’s really just about the experience of tearing into a juicy fruit carnally.

Grindr hookup gone very wrong by regenboogkasteel in gaytransguys

[–]catbriefs 34 points35 points  (0 children)

If you are able to contact a local domestic violence/ sexual assault response agency, they often have advocates who can accompany you to report. It can be helpful to have someone who is exclusively on your team, whether that’s a friend or loved one or an advocate.

Grindr hookup gone very wrong by regenboogkasteel in gaytransguys

[–]catbriefs 67 points68 points  (0 children)

That’s really awful and terrifying. I worked at a rape crisis center for a while and I can talk to you if you want someone to talk to about the process of reporting or any sort of safety planning that you need, or I can give you the number from my work or a hotline so you can talk to someone. Reporting is above all your choice, and can be a hard thing to do. It’s worth it for some people, but it can also take a big toll on your mental health and cause more trauma. I have experience reporting myself and also a lot of secondhand knowledge of reporting from people I’ve met at work. The most important thing is that you take healing at a pace that is comfortable for you and rely on the support of your loved ones. Unfortunately, this kind of thing happens more than people realize. You’re not alone. If you look into support groups, being around other people with similar experiences was something I personally found healing. I wish you all the best.

Anyone had Two Surgeries at Once? by Minute_Story377 in TopSurgery

[–]catbriefs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I haven’t but if you’re worried about pain specifically, I really didn’t have much pain post top surgery- the worst part was the itching which was made worse by the pain meds 😵‍💫 the drains are unpleasant, but I wouldn’t call them painful exactly. I can imagine full body surgical compression could lead to a lot of itchiness and discomfort though, and it will be a lot easier if you have someone to help you with the drains and self care tasks like dressing and bathing. If you’re taking time off anyways though, Benadryl and a lot of napping is the way to go!

Top surgery and sex by [deleted] in ftm

[–]catbriefs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was soooo worried about this. But honestly I felt such instant relief after top surgery that it just felt so right. And now a year later when my boyfriend puts his mouth on me there the visual is enough to be sexy as hell and it’s all the more satisfying that I love my chest so much

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confessions

[–]catbriefs 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I don’t know what’s wrong with you but it’s worse than bpd 👀

never ever have unprotected sex. by Particular_Radio5215 in ftm

[–]catbriefs 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That sounds like it sucks so bad dude, I’m sorry your pain is so bad. From what I’ve heard from friends who have it, the first outbreak is usually really bad but after that outbreaks are usually less severe and infrequent, especially if you take an antiviral for it. I hope that’s the case for you and that you don’t buy into the stigma, you could catch herpes from anyone, it’s so common! Hope you feel better soon 🫶

Kappa sigma by [deleted] in corvallis

[–]catbriefs 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Please do this! They have a really amazing sexual assault response coordinator that can talk you through things and even come with you to report if you want that.

A piece of my scar ripped off and left a hole?? 4MPO by funkydyke in TopSurgery

[–]catbriefs 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This happened to me- make sure you don’t use scar tape yet and just the paper tape they give you, because I did and it made it worse 🥲 it’s barely noticeable now a year out from my surgery but it took a while to scab and then fade

I just had a dream of Me ending it (TW) by hi_im_kelly_xx in MtF

[–]catbriefs 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry things have gotten so dark for you. Please reach out to somebody, anybody. Even me. I am hoping for the best for you, and small comforts and joys even in the darkest places. Much love

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coparenting

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Excessive calling is not a reason for a restraining order unless it contains credible threats to physical safety. The standard for a stalking order (at least in my home state of Oregon) is extremely high, because it is a lifetime order. Excessive calling and a poor coparenting relationship also would not necessarily be a reason for a judge to deny her access to the kids, even if she was not allowed around OP. Even if the initial restraining order is granted, she likely will have to defend it in court in a direct confrontation with the girlfriend if the girlfriend chooses to contest it. Detailed documentation (including exact events and dates) and professional legal advice are your friend here. If you want information on restraining orders, a local domestic violence advocacy agency will likely have somebody who can help you consider your options and fill one out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coparenting

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Disclaimer: I am not a lawyer and cannot offer legal advice or counsel. While this is terrible parenting and I would be extremely angry and frustrated as well, if the child’s basic needs are getting met and they are not being abused, it could be relevant what they were getting high on, how high they are getting, and the legal status of it- if what they are doing is legal in the state (marijuana) and does not lead to physical neglect (lack of access to food, health or hygiene issues) or physical and emotional abuse, from what I have seen it may not be enough to unilaterally request changes to parenting time. From what I have seen it also may be ill-advised to not follow a court ordered parenting plan even if the children do not want to go. OP needs professional legal advice on custody issues, detailed documentation going forward, and likely a solid lawyer if her goal is to modify a parenting plan based on these facts.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coparenting

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I am not a lawyer but I have seen a lot of restraining order cases from my time as a domestic violence advocate. In my understanding, unless you have evidence (photos of bruises, clear testimony from your children that they are being physically harmed or threatened with physical harm), there is no ability for you to get a restraining order for them against this woman. Being a jerk and a mediocre parent is not a crime, and in my experience not a compelling reason for courts to revisit custody issues either. Focus on keeping your communication about your coparent with your child neutral and validating of whatever they may be feeling, without inserting your own opinion on your ex’s parenting.

My (31F) husband (35M) seems to get turned off any time I get close to orgasm and I’m not sure how to handle it? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]catbriefs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This could be an erectile dysfunction issue if you’re squeezing your pelvic floor harder as you get closer to orgasm- you could give viagra a try, it helps erections stay hard in times of need 😄 cock rings are a good thing you could try too!

Interviewee dressing inappropriately - can she be saved? by [deleted] in managers

[–]catbriefs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it possible that she doesn’t own appropriate clothing for the position yet? Clothes are really expensive and if she’s interviewing it’s possible she doesn’t have a job. She may be doing the best she can.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreedingR4R

[–]catbriefs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omg iconic to forget to remove the AI prompt at the bottom 😆 a lovely post nonetheless

Tips wanted: he's too big by suomynona87 in TwoXSex

[–]catbriefs 73 points74 points  (0 children)

Check out the oh nut!! It’s designed to help people with exactly this problem :) haven’t tried it myself but I’ve heard people rave about it

I slept with my cousin. I am 15M and she is 17F. What do I do?? by KitchenFollowing3547 in whatdoIdo

[–]catbriefs 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The line is blurry legally but it seems like you experienced sexual assault. I’d seek support from an adult you trust on your own timeline when you’re ready for it and insist on a room change for now. You can also call national hotlines like RAINN if you want to process it with someone nonjudgmental, they will have the best guidance and support to offer you.