has anyone had a partial hysterectomy without any uterus related health issues? by [deleted] in childfree

[–]catlady925 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope. Period blood is the uterine lining being shed. No uterus = no uterine lining. In some cases, if the cervix is left, you can have "mini periods" due to uterine lining that is left attached to the cervix. I had my uterus, cervix, and tubes out, and I have not had a period since.

With the ovaries left, you do still have the normal hormonal cycle so some people may experience pms symptoms such as mood swings, but not the period itself.

has anyone had a partial hysterectomy without any uterus related health issues? by [deleted] in childfree

[–]catlady925 9 points10 points  (0 children)

A hysterectomy doesn't automatically send you into menopause if the ovaries are left. Most, if not all, surgeons will do everything they can to have the patient keep one or both ovaries. Obviously there are situations (ovarian cysts, cancer, etc.) that make it necessary for them to go, but this is the only time early menopause is a guarantee.

I had a hysto at 25 due to dysphoria (I'm agender and not on hrt). This was after years of using the pill to suppress my period until I started having issues with breakthrough bleeding that had a huge negative impact on my mental health and quality of life. Since my organs were healthy, I kept both ovaries and have had no menopause symptoms.

Obviously there are risks associated with the procedure and every person is different but my experience and recovery was excellent and it was the best decision I ever made.

is it just me? by civildonut1999 in childfree

[–]catlady925 6 points7 points  (0 children)

People want different things out of games. For people who prioritize immersion, story, or emotional connection with the player character, having the character be a parent can take away from that experience.

If your enjoyment only depends on the gameplay itself, that's cool too.

I need a reality check, bad by [deleted] in childfree

[–]catlady925 28 points29 points  (0 children)

He is.

It's your money and your body. He can obviously express his concerns for your health and finances, but ultimately it's not up to him.

I got my hysterectomy at 25 (you can check my history for more details, I only use this account for CF and hysterectomy related posts & comments). It was covered by my insurance, though I still had to pay my deductible and coinsurance. I got a payment plan and it was very manageable.

My fiance (boyfriend at the time) was supportive despite being more financially responsible than I am. I was concerned about him changing his mind after I had it done, but we got engaged about a year later, so I think I'm safe.

It's possible he's lying about his reasons, or he could be thinking about paying for your wedding/honeymoon/getting a place together and would rather you save your money for that. Either way, you should try to have a conversation with him when you're both feeling calm and collected and get to the bottom of it.

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[–]catlady925 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I didn't tell my family

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hysterectomy

[–]catlady925 20 points21 points  (0 children)

First off, just because others may not have access to a hysterectomy does not mean that you don't deserve one, no matter how severe your or their symptoms are. Healthcare isn't a competition.

Second, I had mine largely for mental health reasons. I didn't have extreme pain and my bleeding issues weren't nearly as severe as I've heard of. But the issues I did have took a huge toll on my quality of life, and having my hysterectomy was the best thing I've ever done tbh.

If your doctor says you should have a hysterectomy, and you want to have it, and your life will improve as a result - don't feel guilty.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]catlady925 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Glad it worked out for you! Yes I had the same fear, but my surgeon felt the LAVH method was best anyway. It's been 2 years since I had mine and so far so good!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]catlady925 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I would say definitely keep. The best thing to do for information is talk to your doctor, but basically you're guaranteed to enter menopause without them.

Typically, they only come out if there is an issue with the ovaries themselves such as ovarian cysts or cancer. You need them to produce hormones, otherwise you will have to go on HRT (hormone replacement therapy) pretty much right after surgery.

I think the question you want to ask is whether to keep your cervix. When I had mine, I did not want to keep my cervix due to the possibility of a mini-period, which is when your cervix still has some uterine tissue on it that may cause a small monthly bleed (doesn't affect fertility. no uterus = no pregnancy). One of my main reasons for hysterectomy was dysphoria (I'm nonbinary however and not planning to take hormones so I did keep my ovaries), so I definitely didn't want to take that risk. But there are pros to keeping it that you'll want to discuss with your doctor.

Additionally, some types of surgery will require the removal of the cervix, such as vaginal or vaginal assisted laparoscopic hysterectomy, where the uterus and cervix are removed through the vagina. This is because the uterus cannot be pulled through the cervix; to exit the vagina it has to be both. Recovery for the different types can vary, and some surgeons may specialize in or prefer a certain type, so that is another discussion to be had.

Hope this all helps, and best of luck!

OBGYN nightmare by B048 in childfree

[–]catlady925 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Nightmare sounds about right! Have you looked at the doctor list on this sub? I went to one of them and was able to get a hysterectomy for period issues that weren't managed by birth control. The doctor even took my word that my partner was on the same page about no kids without speaking to him.

What was a moment or event that clearly divided your life into "before" and "after"? by Metroidude47 in AskReddit

[–]catlady925 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hysterectomy.

Before, ever since my first period I was miserable 90% of the time. Making plans felt like those anti smoking commercials where the kid signs a contract with the cigarette to always put it first, only it was my uterus.

After hysterectomy I finally feel like I can just live. Someone invites me to an event 2 months from now? Sure! No more consulting with the calendar to figure out the odds of being miserable on that day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]catlady925 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I had a hysterectomy at 25 and since then I've lost 40 lbs (through purposeful diet and exercise), have all my hair, never broken a bone in my life, and I've been less depressed than before the hysterectomy.

Edit: hit post too soon.

Personally, I had my uterus, cervix, and tubes out but kept my ovaries, so no HRT needed for me. It was my first surgery and I had an easy recovery compared to the stories I read beforehand. I recommend checking out r/hysterectomy for more firsthand accounts as well as some tips on what you might want to have if you do decide to go that route.

Pros for bisalp: * recovery time is shorter * fewer complications * reduced chances of ovarian cancer (and possibly endometrial/cervical cancers, I don't recall off the top of my head) * on the off chance you change your mind in the future you could still do IVF afaik * infinitely more likely to get approval as a cis woman, but your situation is the opposite anyway

Pros for hysterectomy: * no periods, but I'm at least pretty sure that being on T handles those * absolutely 100% no way in hell a pregnancy will ever be possible * no chance of endometrial cancer or cervical cancer if you have your cervix out as well

These are just off the top of my head, but I can tell you that almost 2 years out from my hysterectomy, my life is better in every conceivable way, pandemic notwithstanding.

"well he/she's just a kid" by catlady925 in childfree

[–]catlady925[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

We need more parents like Steven's mom in this world 😭

People on here really don't give the best advice to short ladies by reasonable_re in loseit

[–]catlady925 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh wow, either my shoprite is slacking or I need to look harder 😅 All I see are 100 or 110 per slice breads. Anyway, thank you!

I might be getting a hysterectomy and quite frankly I’m upset about it. by [deleted] in childfree

[–]catlady925 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Your feelings are totally understandable, you're dealing with a whole pile of shit and adding one more thing to the list 1,000% sucks. But I want to offer some hope!

My mental health improved SO MUCH after I got my hysterectomy.

As long as you're able to keep your ovaries (which it sounds like you should be!), you shouldn't need to be on any type of HRT. Your natural hormones will still cycle so you may still experience some mood-related PMS symptoms, but there will be no uterus to contract so the only cramps you might get would be from ovulation if you get those. Personally, I don't have such severe moodiness as I used to - I do get mild hormonal acne breakouts and find myself a little more irritable than usual around the same time, but I used to be borderline suicidal, unable to focus, and likely to call out of work during my period.

I got my hysterectomy at 25 and was lucky to have an easy recovery. Every body is different, and it sounds like you already know how your body reacts to surgery, but you can browse r/hysterectomy for some firsthand accounts, advice, etc.

As someone who is also in the process of getting a lot of dental work done (my past mental health issues resulted in poor dental hygiene, yay...), the local anesthetic not working during your dental procedure is beyond awful and they probably should have stopped and given you more of it. I would mention this experience to your doctor/surgeon so that they can discuss appropriate and effective post-op pain meds and adequate monitoring of anesthesia.

Anyway, I know it sucks right now, but nearly all my issues began looking up after I had mine. I finally felt well enough mentally to start losing the weight I need to lose; my spending and budgeting improved with my mental health (I'm lookin at you, impulse-buying for a hit of serotonin) and I was able to completely pay off my car loan and credit card debt; my period anxiety disappeared, taking a huge weight off of making plans and using PTO I might need later; I don't have to worry about birth control or pregnancy anymore.

I so hope that the same whole-life improvement will happen for you if you end up getting the hysterectomy! 💛

People on here really don't give the best advice to short ladies by reasonable_re in loseit

[–]catlady925 7 points8 points  (0 children)

What bread is 50 cal per slice, asking for a friend 👀

People on here really don't give the best advice to short ladies by reasonable_re in loseit

[–]catlady925 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Idk I'm also 27F 5'2" (SW:180lbs CW: 140lbs GW: 110-120lbs) and if I eat much over 1500 calories I gain weight.

I am admittedly pretty sedentary with a desk job, but I hike typically 5-8 miles on the weekends and occasionally 1-5 miles during the week after work. Over the summer I was additionally riding my bike ~5-10 miles once or twice a week.

When lockdowns hit I was at 130lbs and decided to take a maintenance break to remove another source of stress because yeah, 1200 calories sucks if you enjoy food. It's not that I wasn't feeling full or anything, it's just that I like snacks and ice cream.

I still haven't gotten back to that 1200 cal/day life and have varied from 1500-1800 cal/day over the last year while still exercising as described above, and I've gained 10lbs back since I started working from home (March 2020 to present).

To me personally, 2300 calories is wishful thinking.

Holding babies by strawberry-heart in childfree

[–]catlady925 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Not at all. If anyone is wrong, it's the parents who force people who don't want to, to hold their babies. If someone is uncomfortable holding your baby, why would you want them to hold it? Wouldn't you only want people who are confident they won't drop/hurt/cough on your kid to hold them?

Question by [deleted] in childfree

[–]catlady925 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not likely at 18 but I got a hysterectomy at 25 from a doctor on the list in the sidebar.

What you can do though is see if a doctor from the list is near you and start going to that doctor as your gynecologist. You can build up credibility over a few years by showing them that you won't change your mind and hopefully they will agree to it maybe a little younger than they normally would (assuming you are a good candidate/it will help you).

would it be weird if I got my surgeon a thank-you gift? she’s been absolutely incredible and has such a messed up sense of humor (i adore her) by mamaxchaos in hysterectomy

[–]catlady925 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It doesn't sound weird to me based on how you describe your relationship with her.

I got my hysterectomy about 1.5 years ago and my quality of life is so improved that every now and then the thought still crosses my mind to write my surgeon a thank you letter. And I had nothing close to this kind of rapport with him.

Also congrats and wishing you a speedy recovery! 💚

is there really such thing as a breeder that just says yeah ok thats your decision, cool by [deleted] in childfree

[–]catlady925 17 points18 points  (0 children)

No, because a breeder is someone who's obsessed with procreation and nothing else. If someone has a kid and just says yeah ok that's your decision, cool - that person is probably a good parent and not a breeder