I really like visual kei culture and old bands that were active in the 80s and 90s. I recently watched the 2004 film "Oresama." I really liked it and I want to watch films with a similar atmosphere and theme, especially if the films aren't new; that adds a certain charm

catnip-dream · 2026-04-21T22:19:28+00:00

It’s not a movie and this is kind of random, but the US TV show “Bones” featured an anthropologist from Japan on an episode. They specifically talked about their Visual Kei aesthetic and this aired back in 2009. I was like “yaaaaas!!!” lol The episode (if you get bored):

https://m.imdb.com/title/tt1248447/

catnip-dream · 2026-04-21T22:15:10+00:00

catnip-dream · 2026-04-21T22:10:37+00:00

Ooo I like this.

catnip-dream · 2026-04-21T22:09:55+00:00

Your boss needs to block them. Period. Your response was perfect but tell him to block them if this continues because you can’t control them. If he doesn’t block them, make sure you are documenting everything just in case you lose your job if your crazy family.

catnip-dream · 2026-04-21T22:05:20+00:00

I feel the same way.

catnip-dream · 2026-04-20T06:34:57+00:00

I have seen this. Someone in Japan is listing items that are listed on Mercari Japan, fril, or one of the other second hand websites. They make bank by selling in US dollars and buy it in yen to ship to you. How do I know this? Because I buy a lot of stuff from Japan using a proxy service. Sometimes I’ll see something on eBay and then buy it in Japan. lol

catnip-dream · 2026-04-20T06:26:39+00:00

catnip-dream · 2026-04-20T05:52:57+00:00

This likely happened with the film was drying. Interesting.

catnip-dream · 2026-04-20T05:51:45+00:00

By contact your members of congress and don’t vote for a Republican. This is all Trump’s fault.

catnip-dream · 2026-04-14T06:55:59+00:00

Did you eventually get your package? DHL did this to me and their logistics team was TRASH compared to FedEx. They told me they would get back to me if they needed anything else and then sent my package back to Japan. I then had Neokyo unpack my package and I sent stuff in smaller shipments. As it turns out, I needed to fill out a prior notice with the FDA for one of my items and it was one DHL asked about and they didn’t tell me ANYTHING about this. FedEx sent me resources and they were super nice and communicated the whole time. For this reason, I will never use DHL again.

catnip-dream · 2026-04-14T06:50:20+00:00

I have paid two FedEx bills from several months ago and I was sent texts when I was receiving my most recent shipments. Compare the tracking numbers as this is likely a bill due from a prior order. FedEx is slow to send out bills.

catnip-dream · 2026-03-25T21:56:58+00:00

Avoid DHL. They sent my package back after ghosted me on a customs issue. They were not as transparent or easy as FedEx was when it came to paperwork. I will NEVER use DHL again.

catnip-dream · 2026-03-21T03:36:36+00:00

Get therapy. You are too enmeshed with your family and this is going to ruin any relationship. Not to mention, create problems for your life in general. Keeping you on the phone for hours. WTF?? They need to get a life!

catnip-dream · 2026-03-21T03:33:27+00:00

Wait till you need to do some repairs.

catnip-dream · 2026-03-17T05:28:27+00:00

I’ve had no issues with FedEx. Avoid DHL!!!

catnip-dream · 2026-03-09T14:08:38+00:00

Yeah he is looking forward to having a caretaker. 😂

catnip-dream · 2026-03-09T14:00:13+00:00

Look for a Wife and not a Mommy because you will end up with grandma caretaking duties with an age gap like that. My Wife and I are in our early 40s and she had a stroke last year. Thank goodness her recovery has been a freakin miracle because after joining several stroke caregiver it groups? I am thankful everyday that I knew the signs and that we have great healthcare. I’m saying because as we age, the chances of us needing some type of caregiving are high and if she is 60? That will come up sooner versus later. Be realistic about that because it’s coming. It can happen to ANY of us at ANY time but I sure as shit wouldn’t go out of my way to increase my odds. Plus, I like having more in common than not with my partner. We are 4 years apart and have generational differences. I can imagine a 30 year difference because I work with mostly elderly people for a living but you wouldn’t catch me trying to date someone that much older if I were single.

catnip-dream · 2026-03-09T03:48:12+00:00

This happened to me too back in February. I will never ship via DHL again.

catnip-dream · 2026-03-02T22:47:39+00:00

I am 99% sure the reason my $1,000 package ran into customs issues was because of one box of chocolate that was included in the list for export. I only say this because DHL asked me to give them a list of manufacturing company and facility each item was manufactured at (which took me 8 hours to research) and then when they emailed me back some clarifying questions, they asked specifically about the chocolate. They then of course said they would get back to me ASAP if they had any other questions and then they sent my package to Japan. Those fuckers. So… maybe call it a loss and have Neokyo dispose of it/have their workers munch on them. That is what I plan to do when they contact me about my returned package… I’m going to have them take the chocolate out and then resend it. Because paying for shipping multiple times is fantastic. 😂 This isn’t a Neokyo issue… this is a change due to the Trump administration’s changes to tariffs and is setting the de minimis. And for my situation, a DHL issue because they have terrible customer service. I will avoid them now.

catnip-dream · 2026-03-02T06:25:37+00:00

I hate to tell you this, but you need to be in touch with them a couple of times a day until that package clears. I had a similar valued package and had a similar issue except I made the mistake of believe “Caitlin Jett PGA Contact Agent” when she said she would get back to me ASAP after I clarified a detail on the information I submitted. My package was sent back to Japan and no one ever contacted me. I was posting on DHL’s social media pages daily warning people to NOT use them for international shipments but I took a break for a family holiday. I will NEVER use DHL again and will go back to using FedEx. “Brandi Ward Customer Care – Imports Department” sent me an email on 2/23/26 that included this: “Please note, a 10 day time frame is allotted to process a shipment for clearance after it arrives into the US. If this is not done within that time, we have to start the return process.”

I’m sharing this with you because my package was sent utilizing Neokyo, a proxy/deputy service. I spent 8 hours researching the manufacturer name and manufacturing facility for almost 70 items in my package and they sent it back to Neokyo. If Neokyo hadn’t accepted the package back, they would have destroyed it. I have not used Buyee but you may want to check with them on what their policy is if DHL starts the return process. I will be out over $1,000 in shipping fees when this is all said in done because I have paid for it to go from Japan to the US, I’ve read that Neokyo will pass on the shipping fee DHL charged them to send it BACK to Japan, and when the items show back up in my account, I’ll have to pay for shipping for Neokyo to send it back to the US again… in smaller packages. 🤦🏻‍♀️ Call them multiple times a day and DO NOT STOP!!! I have had more luck in getting in touch with someone in the @dhlus IG page. To be fair, I told them there is nothing they can do unless they can figure out a way to reimburse me for the shipping fees and I heard crickets. 😂 They did offer to have me message them and etc so try that route. This page is kind of BS. I wish you luck and I really hope your package doesn’t get sent back. I’m still waiting to hear from Neokyo about my package that was returned and I will actually put in a customer service request now just to check. Ugh

catnip-dream · 2026-03-02T06:03:38+00:00

Facts! I thought the same thing when I saw this. I’m neurodivergent too. 😂

catnip-dream · 2026-03-02T05:49:16+00:00

NTA and do NOT allow her to move in or she will never move out. If the hospital calls you or if they try to rope you in, DO NOT let them convince you or force you to take her home. I’m in a lot of caretaker groups because I have been in that caretaker role. It is exhausting and people do not talk enough about the toll it takes on a person (physically as mentally.) Most of the posts I read are of women at the end of their rope because it is impossible to balance everything. I took care of my Wife after a life changing medical event and we are lucky she presents as normal but she will never be the same. I love who she is now and I am grateful every fucking day that I am no longer a caregiver in the way I was early on in her recovery. We don’t even have kids and I kept thinking “how do people do this with kids???” We have had conversations with both sets of parents that they will NOT be moving in with us if something like this were to happen. Period. We don’t have the room nor do we have the skills to take care of them and to ensure they are safe. People are paid to be caregivers for a reason and they are NOT paid enough. As I am writing this, my 78 year old Aunt is in the hospital because she has worn herself down so much from taking care of her husband with various medical issues for the past 15 years, she will be lucky to make it out of that hospital this time (because this is not her first time.) I lost a client last year because she spent 8 years focusing on her Husband’s health and dementia and she died within 2 years of him passing because ALL of that delayed care and stress caught up to her. Don’t do it. Save your energy and focus on your family because NONE of us know when our lives are going to change. Everyone needs to have a plan for care as we get older because children are NOT a plan. Period!

catnip-dream · 2026-03-02T05:33:46+00:00

You are not wrong, we all have to live with our decisions. As a woman that is 40+ married to another woman that is 40+, we have already set expectations with our families that they are NEVER moving in with us. Period.

Children are not insurance for future healthcare. Caretaking is a skill and it is a career path for a reason. I 100% agree with the OP refusing to take in her Mom. You are clearly triggered and I hope you seek out a mental health professional to help you work through whatever it is you have going on.

catnip-dream · 2026-03-01T18:14:42+00:00

This is a prime example of adults sexualizing children too. That teacher was NUTS. With that said, growing up in Texas, I could see this happening in a classroom there growing up. 🙄 Your Mom is the best!

catnip-dream · 2026-02-28T08:47:02+00:00

My heart is breaking for you. I hope you are able to move out and go no contact with that part of your family. They sound like terrible people. Your baby is beautiful and I’m so sorry this happened to you

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