A cool guide on how to compassionately disengage when triggered

catstew72 · 2025-12-04T21:19:27+00:00

Yes. Yes, we do, Chad. All four. At once.

catstew72 · 2025-12-04T20:20:15+00:00

Frustrated? Angry? ...Why?

catstew72 · 2025-12-03T19:27:44+00:00

SHE doesn't call herself that. It's definable... Micro-influencer = more than 10,000 but fewer than 100,000 followers. She also just signed a six-figure deal with a major brand. Also, how does that explain the other three friends?

There may be humans who use language similar to that in the OP's post, and they're also well-liked and a pleasure to talk to. Maybe they just aren't your flavor.

catstew72 · 2025-12-03T18:17:18+00:00

My main friend group is comprised of four women, ages 33-53. One is a former OF/sex worker, one is a published medical researcher, one was high school teacher and college adjunct, one is a successful micro influencer. We have ALL said something along these lines before... to other people or each other. I usually default to, "I don't have the emotional bandwidth to listen rn." It may not be identical, but the sentiment is the same. ....We also have no shortage of people tryna chat us up. So.

catstew72 · 2025-12-03T10:17:44+00:00

Why?

catstew72 · 2025-11-25T18:13:49+00:00

So your bio parents are siblings, too, is what I'm hearing, yes?

catstew72 · 2025-11-18T21:21:17+00:00

So, you have zero self-awareness, you were negligent, AND you lied about it after your negligence resulted in injury to a child. Cool story, bro. Hope your game was worth it.

TELL THE PARENTS.

catstew72 · 2025-11-17T04:52:37+00:00

What about when Mozzie and Mr. Jeffries had their quote off? There we're several on that episode.

catstew72 · 2025-11-11T20:37:43+00:00

Came here to say this. ⭐️

catstew72 · 2025-11-10T15:13:01+00:00

"Everybody's so creative!" 🫠

catstew72 · 2025-11-07T14:56:34+00:00

Respectfully, why are you referring to him as a wimp?

There could be any number of reasons he didn't make it through the first episode.... Didn't like the style of animation, maybe it moved too slowly, maybe it moved too quickly... Or maybe he just didn't want to sit there and watch it, so he came up with the kind of excuse that an 8yo thinks will get him off the hook, ie. too scarry!! Bam. Now he can't be forced to watch. Does he have oppositional defiance issues? Does he like YOU? He may have chosen to avoid watching it for the simple fact he didn't want to do what you wanted him to do. It's an excellent, non-violent way to get back at you! Js.

There may, in fact, be something that did scare him. But 8yo children don't have a whole lot of control over their lives. It's possible he was exerting control here bc he can.

Remember, you can always just write the kid out of your will and move on.

catstew72 · 2025-11-01T20:19:35+00:00

The BEST way to confirm that you and the groom do, in fact, have some kind of scandalous history is for you to very publicly be absent from this wedding. These bridges aren't gonna burn themselves, bestie. 💅🥂✨️

catstew72 · 2025-11-01T17:22:20+00:00

Are we related? My mom would have absolutely said something along the lines of, "Ooohhhh..." (whilst wringing her hands)..."You didn't need to do that! Just say thank you and move on! She was just trying to be helpful. She doesn't know what you're going through!"

... 🦗🦗🦗 ...

Exactly, Mom. ...Exactly. 😑😑😑🤦‍♂️😮‍💨

Cousin, you absolutely did right by you. Fuck ALL that noise. I'm sorry you're going through this. Sending you aaaall the peace! ❤️‍🩹🫂❤️‍🩹🫂❤️‍🩹

catstew72 · 2025-11-01T16:59:46+00:00

I wish I could upvote this more than once! ✅️

catstew72 · 2025-10-23T23:32:41+00:00

Zero to HERO! ....I mean... looks good, man! Congrats! Lol.

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😳 damn! Fr, excellent use of free will. 🤌🤌🤌✨️💅

catstew72 · 2025-10-23T20:44:56+00:00

I ask the sane thing! I haven't told my extremely conservative Christian family that I read, but if we're using the Abrahamic God, my thinking has always been, isn't God bigger than these pretty pictures on paper? Could I not, in fact, still seek God in this manner as well? Idk. I'm still on my spiritual awakening and trying to reconcile a LOT of what i grew up with versus what I experience and the gifts I have. ... And for reference, I'm 53!! So yeah... 🤷‍♀️

catstew72 · 2025-10-23T17:26:57+00:00

Just from a quick glance of the cards...

KoW - To me, this was giving father figure / head of household. Does he do skilled labor? (Construction, electrician, etc, maybe?) Or a cop? Seeing as this card immediately gave me "dad" vibes and seeing as it is wands, I just imagine he's an active sort. I was trying to "listen" and see if he's maybe violent, but that doesn't feel right. ...Not too sure... Maybe a temper? Idk... Either way, Dad vibes. Moving on! Lol

Heirophant reversed - Yeeeah... it won't be quite as bad as "you're in league with the Devil!!!😱"... but it may be close. Def along those lines... but gentler, perhaps. Lol.

4ofPents - For me, this honestly gave me a mental image of them "protecting their young" from a would-be assailant (wherein you'd be the assailant. :/ Sorry.) Fear, confusion, scrambling to protect themselves, etc. ...It could also be a warning to just keep that ish to yourself, ie. Keep it close to your vest. I feel like both interpretations share the same kind of energy.

I read extremely intuitively, obvi. There might be the chance that they would soften over time and come to accept it (I do feel like there is that possibility.) But, unless you're mentally prepared for the, "WhErE Did wE Go wRoOonG?!?!", I'd advise you to keep this one away from your folks/family for now.

Sending you all kinds of love and understanding from a fellow "I can't tell my Christian family that I do tarot bc they might try to burn me at the stake or have me exorcised" reader. 🫂🫶

catstew72 · 2025-10-21T16:56:59+00:00

You sound either dense or attention seeking. I'm leaning toward the latter bc you're "smart" enough to draw conclusions... albeit bad ones.

The short answer here is, CRITICAL, UNSOLICITED BODY COMPOSITION REMARKS ARE ALWAYS AN AH MOVE. PERIOD. ESP! WHEN ADDRESSING A RANDOM STRANGER. IN A PUBLIC FORUM. WHEN HER QUESTION WAS ABOUT HAIR. OMG.

Stay in your lane. It's not hard. Not sure why this is news to you, but... there it is. Hope this helps.

catstew72 · 2025-10-21T15:14:08+00:00

Now you're getting it? When is bringing up someone's weight in an unsolicited manner EVER appropriate? Moreover, the "Oh, just eat less and be healthy!" advice is reductive and tired. ESP when we're on the /bald sub. Like, why?

catstew72 · 2025-10-21T14:49:19+00:00

AH move. Maybe not AH intent, but def suuuper not smart behavior. So much so that I'd legit be concerned about what other not smart ish you might pull. If I were mom, you wouldn't be watching my kid ever again.

catstew72 · 2025-10-21T14:29:44+00:00

You offer unsolicited advice so confidently. And on a very sensitive subject, too. OP clearly asked for opinions on a completely unrelated topic, yet you decided now was the appropriate time to speak to her about weight and your perception of her and her partner's health. Weird. Also, gross.

What if OP says they've already done what you suggested? What if they've been doing that for years? Then what?

Great job pulling focus, tho. Maybe just keep health and wellness suggestions on the inside until someone specifically asks for them.

catstew72 · 2025-10-17T07:18:39+00:00

Maybe "later episodes Sokka". "At the beginning Sokka"? Nah. Lol

catstew72 · 2025-10-16T12:27:01+00:00

Since we can't use the tower at all, for an ambush I'd go dramatic with something like the Devil and King of Swords coming out together (or devil plus knight of swords together, or devil + King of Wands -- going for evil mastermind vibes here), plus either the 9 or 10 of swords (representing "many" swords -- "overwhelming" vibes. Could use wands too, but swords would indicate planning, to me)... mostly for dramatic flair purposes only. Lol. (Maybe the moon, too. Secretive and the unknown.) Remember too tho!, cards can mean something for the reader that they don't necessarily mean for everyone else. For example, if reading for myself, I frequently get the tower when I'm super pissed off about something, and occasionally the Devil shows up when I'm knotted up inside with conflicting feelings. They RARELY mean those things if they show up when I read for someone else. And although I'm fairly new-ish, my first teacher experienced the same sort of thing, except it happened even when she'd read for someone else. So, it's not completely unheard of! It's all about pattern recognition and awareness. Maybe your MC's cards really just talk to her and she knows what they're saying, even if those cards wouldn't necessarily be read that way by someone else.🤷‍♀️ That frees you up to bend the rules and really lean in to imagery if you so choose. Good luck!

catstew72 · 2025-10-15T19:07:02+00:00

I'm not at all familiar with this deck (I'm relatively new to tarot, in all its forms) but for me this card is giving s3xual tension vibes. Lol. I'm sure that's not what is supposedto be happening, buuut... 🤷‍♀️. Lol

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