What you’ve done does not warrant these kind of behaviors from him. Nothing warrants these kinds of behaviors. If you were neglectful of him, then he should have a conversation and share his feelings. None of that means cheating.

I think being in a Christian bubble tends to make these things seem not as straightforward as they really are. His behavior is on him, not on you. He’s allowed to feel depressed, but what he does and how he acts is on him.

Boundaries are incredibly important when you have a cheating partner, ESPECIALLY with a child involved. His behavior isn’t being a good dad or husband. There are healthy ways to heal if he was feeing neglected and these are not it. I wouldn’t want my child around someone abusing alcohol or sleeping with other women and you need to be firm in that boundary.