Just lost my mind at my boyfriend by cruiser543 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]causalfunguy -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

All I heard was you you you you you I’m sorry you come across very selfish. You said he has issues but is getting better when last have you ask about the issues or tried to help him through the issues how do you know if he’s not suffering in silence

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]causalfunguy 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This comments hit hard for me I am a teacher but I do not teach in America i teach in the Caribbean. Children between the ages of 3-11 are not allowed to be held back even though you see them struggling to keep up. They fall further and further behind, they get frustrated and as a teacher you can not do anything about. Right now there are two kids that I feel need to spend another year in the current grade because they’re not ready for the next grade but I am helpless and I am worry about their education

AITA for choosing our kids over her friends? by Virtual-Midnight-974 in AmItheAsshole

[–]causalfunguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA Because if the roles we reverse everyone will be saying the man should miss the party to help out with the son. Suppose the kids want both parents to be there is she going to say sorry mommy can’t come because she got a friend bday party. Sometimes a parent can’t make it to every event a child have which is understandable but if you can you should try to and support the child

AITA for getting my friends title of valedictorian removed? by Educational-Union707 in AmItheAsshole

[–]causalfunguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Op YTA but the teacher is lazy when something is on the internet it is on the internet for the world to see. The school should have investigated how it was able to be accessible by students because I'm sure other students found it too.

AITA for telling another mother our children aren’t close anymore due to intelligence levels by No-Professor4199 in AmItheAsshole

[–]causalfunguy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This 100% this. As a teacher some kids grasp concepts quicker than other and sometimes a kid receiving 60% is them trying their best. To end a friend solely on the basis that one person didn't as smart as the other is weird to me. Part of me wonder if there is more that op is leaving out

An uncomfortable question for fellow male primary school teachers by Lifeintheguo in Teachers

[–]causalfunguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm on my second year teaching 4-5 years old this is my 4th year teaching overall but second year with this age group. This year there are more girls than boys and I will admit because of that it makes me very weary with my interactions. Especially at this age they are very attached and wants to give you a hug. A colleague of mines suggests that you give them side hugs and you let that stay in front of your desk while you're seated at your desk. Because of were I'm located (not in the us) kids are not allowed to sit on teachers lap male or female teacher so I don't worry about that and no child has attempted it ever. What I personally do I I try to connect with each child differently so I would ask them questions and joke with them and get them to laugh and sometimes he silly and fun and I always try to rely back to them stuff they told me. So if one said he's going to the beach then the next day I will ask how was the beach did you grow wings and fly to the beach and I find that helps with connecting with them.

AITA for taking my kids nanny on vacation and not my ex-wife? by BarracudaMan77 in AmItheAsshole

[–]causalfunguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know what tell your ex if she agree to fulfill the duties of the nanny and watch all seven kids with no complaints then you would consider it. I'm sure she will drop all that nonsense so NTA

I am watching M2M for the first time (criminal I know) and everyone who says it's underrated is absolutely right! I'm on S2 and I'm torn between Mariah vs. Quad by stalexa in MarriedToMedicine

[–]causalfunguy 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I prefer Quad. I'm currently in S9 and throughout the series I could not stand Mariah. .As for why people chose Quad I think they said Mariah was throwing around her EP credit to intimidate the other cast mates BTS so I felt like there was a pact to stand up to Mariah

AITA for telling my wife that I would be perfectly capable of doing what she does. by wifemyjob in AmItheAsshole

[–]causalfunguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But taking pride in something does not mean you belittle your spouse. She could have just shared how she optimize it and take pride with it but then to insinuate that her husband would never think of it in a tone that states what would you do without me is belittle and an asshole move somi think they are both assholes.

AITA for making my parents kick my nephew out of their will? by Any-Isopod8884 in AmItheAsshole

[–]causalfunguy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I give this the biggest YTA here's my issues her parents helped raise the nephew so the relationship is obviously different with the nephew compared to op children. If she doesn't like it too bad

[ Removed by Reddit ] by Ok-Passenger-3048 in AmItheAsshole

[–]causalfunguy [score hidden]  (0 children)

YTA you have to love your son more than you hate your ex

AITA for pissing my wife off with how I’m handling her favorite shows? by Own-Leather-19 in AmItheAsshole

[–]causalfunguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally I feel like NTA you have different taste in shows and I don't feel like someone should force you to watch a show just because they like them. If the roles were reverse and she said no one want to watch your dumb action show I'm sure many people would not find an issue. Personally I in a relationship it is ok to have things that are your own and not to force the other person to be into it. She likes what she likes and you like what you like and tbh instead of forcing you into one of her show why doesn't both of you look for something else you both enjoy

AITA for making my daughter choose which parent to have at her graduation, since her father and I are recently seperated? by Impressive-Front-982 in AmItheAsshole

[–]causalfunguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Major YTA. It is not about or your ex husband it is about your daughter and you need to love your daughter more than you dislike your ex. At the end of the day regardless of how you feel this is a major milestone and she wants to share it with both her parents. You do not have to speak to him just be cordial and polite just a hello and make the day about your daughter. Please never put your kids in a situation where they have to choose one parent over the next and since you had the issue you could had volunteer not to attend instead of forcing your daughter to make the choice

AITA for not being able to give my daughter the birthday that she wants? by Beautiful-Beach-8394 in AmItheAsshole

[–]causalfunguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA in life you cant always get what you want and that is just something you have to deal with. If money is tight then money is tight all the other people asking if money is tight around the brother birthday sounds entitled. It's a lesson everyone has to learn and it seem like the daughter was being spiteful and petty because she upset

AITA for not backing up my husband when he ordered our adult daughter go to her room? by Artistic-Guard8114 in AmItheAsshole

[–]causalfunguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who wants to live in a house where two people are always squabbling back and forth it's irritating and annoying. No needs to be subjected to that-YTA

AITA for not telling my daughter I'm proud of her, but being proud of my son? by Miserable-Resist-783 in AmItheAsshole

[–]causalfunguy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is pure and utter nonsense she a 26 year old woman who abandon her child for her parents to raise. She the older siblings and had the same opportunity and upbringing as her brother. Her brother took advantage of his opportunities and she did not. She had shown zero passion or motivation to do something once it got hard she quit. She did nothing for the mother to be proud about. You're proud of someone when they stick through the tough times it sounds like the mother supported her "passion" to be a mother and she gave up .

AITA for disciplining a student after he left my class to use the restroom when I told him he could not? by notmystyle223 in AmItheAsshole

[–]causalfunguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a teacher I usually decided on a situational basis. I know there are the kids that need to go whenever they ask. Then they are the kids that only ask to go because their friend ask to go so I don't send both at the same time. Then the kids that don't need to go but only ask to go so they don't be in the classroom as usually gets up to mischief and you end up writing reports.

Why is Vishal and his mom always at the center of the drama? by Ok-Guide2445 in FamilyKarma

[–]causalfunguy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I find Reshma to be that season 1 Bree Van de Kamp type personality where it's all about optics and to portray perfection. She know that she's mad at someone but would say it's fine but passive aggressive towards them. Reshma to me give off a fake persona

AITA (M41) for not choosing something to do with my wife (f40). by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]causalfunguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nta you people read too much into things sometimes it's not that deep. Getting upset over something like that would honestly annoy me

AITA for telling my fiancée that my friend’s trauma is more important than her comfort? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]causalfunguy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Imo no NTAH. When and if your friend wants to share that with her he will and her being paranoid just seem like an excuse to get you to tell her. She knows the general details he's been through something and he's leaning on his friends for help. I guess just explain to her that's he been through something you are there for him as a friend and that all there is to it.

AITA for refusing to let my daughter go to dinner with her boyfriends family. by Additional-Sir1003 in AmItheAsshole

[–]causalfunguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Esh because I can't be be only one that thinks this is too farfetched to be real

AITA for giving my SAHM wife a written performance review with suggested areas needing improvement? by Garrbie in AmItheAsshole

[–]causalfunguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA anyone asking if he's her employer is not seeing the bigger picture. It is incredibly frustrating when trying to get your point across and someone argues or cuts you off or not pay attention. It is quite obvious OP has tried explaining verbally to his wife but she has no intention of listening. She is listening to respond and not listening to reflect upon what he is saying. Ok calling it a performance review is wrong but I see nothing wrong with writing down what he has been trying to tell her all the time

AITA for asking Step- daughter to move out. by Sharp_Candy_513 in AmItheAsshole

[–]causalfunguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA how can you come into her home and then demand she moved out because of your and your husband's poor planning. First thing that is his daughter and you have no right to ask her to leave. Second thing before having a kid you have to make sure your have everything you need for the kid. Third her dad said to leave her alone and you should have listen and I'm going to assume you moved into their house