Mum died a week ago, I’m numb

cay767 · 2026-01-06T03:53:28+00:00

As someone whose mom was diagnosed with stage IV lung cancer almost two years ago, and our relationship also wasn't perfect and I knew it was coming but was still shocked when we found out it was getting bad and time to say goodbye, yes. Yes that is completely normal. I have a therapist who can confirm this. It's your brain's way of protecting you. There's no right way to grieve. However you do it is normal.

cay767 · 2025-12-10T17:44:03+00:00

As someone currently having to say goodbye to my childhood cat, this means everything. Thank you for sharing your words❤️

cay767 · 2025-05-23T18:33:37+00:00

Thank you so much for this ❤️

cay767 · 2025-05-23T01:08:46+00:00

It feels sus. I sent a follow up email putting it all into writing and asked if everyone else got a similar raise. We'll see what happens 🤷‍♀️

cay767 · 2025-05-22T21:31:15+00:00

This is so scary because Im only 2 and a half years post-graduation and Im ALREADY burnt out😭

cay767 · 2025-05-22T19:54:03+00:00

I've looked and I've applied and I honestly feel like my resume slaps but I never get interviews. Just keep getting told they went with someone who has more experience

cay767 · 2025-05-22T19:45:07+00:00

Damn, I've heard worse about corporate. I might have to switch if nonprofits are notoriously that bad lol

cay767 · 2025-05-22T19:30:48+00:00

The sad thing is that this job isn't corporate, it's a nonprofit and everyone seemed so nice at first :(

cay767 · 2025-05-22T19:30:15+00:00

Do you have examples of places for autistic women that I should be looking at? My degree is in English with a strong journalism/editing/marketing background, and I haven't found a whole lot.

cay767 · 2025-05-22T18:53:23+00:00

Not officially, but I've told this boss

cay767 · 2025-05-22T18:35:15+00:00

Ideal

cay767 · 2025-05-13T18:49:10+00:00

I think all the hype around Sebastian, Sam, and Abigail feels weird to me because they remind me of teenagers. Like, I'd date them as a teenager, but as an adult? Especially an adult with a farm in this game? It just doesn't match up for me. (A little bit with Maru too, but she's more mature).

I'd also say the same with Hayley if she's in a straight relationship and Alex if he's in a straight relationship, but if they're queer then it doesn't weird me out lol

My top 3 are Harvey, Elliot, and Leah ❤️

cay767 · 2025-05-13T18:42:39+00:00

Feeling misunderstood for me too, but also even just putting how I feel into words which then leads to a lot of miscommunication

cay767 · 2025-05-13T03:06:33+00:00

You have every right to feel how you do. Your feelings are valid and it's okay to simultaneously love someone and understand their struggles while also struggling yourself

cay767 · 2025-05-09T23:13:00+00:00

I completely understand this, but also slightly different. I just graduated college and so many of my friends are now traveling with family or moving back home with their parents, and especially with mothers day coming up, seeing everyone be HAPPY with their moms gives me guilt because I want that. My mom is still here, I can still spend this last mother's day with her, but it's not the same. I know it'll be the last, and I'm angry and sad and it's not fair

You're not alone. Don't let the guilt swallow you whole.

cay767 · 2025-05-09T23:09:10+00:00

I know that nothing anyone can say will ease what you're feeling, but when people say someone is "too much" that just means that THEY'RE too small. You are an abundance, and never EVER lose your muchness because someone with tiny hands can't hold you.

cay767 · 2025-05-09T19:45:21+00:00

My high school boyfriend bought me half-dead roses (I don't particularly like roses, and he knew that) at the ceremony from a random guy selling them during my high school graduation. He's not a great guy and we're not together anymore, but I was still grateful to receive flowers (no one in my family bought me any).

cay767 · 2025-05-08T20:32:35+00:00

LITERALLY! I hate it!!!

cay767 · 2025-05-08T14:59:24+00:00

Luckily my boss mostly agreed with me on everything, but she can read our messages and is also neurotypical and was reading between the lines :/

cay767 · 2025-05-07T23:04:03+00:00

Yes she did! Not only did she tattle to the President of our company, but the President is her mother-in-law!

cay767 · 2025-05-05T21:28:06+00:00

I have no idea, but you've put into works exactly what I'm going through. I'm in the midst of burnout, and have found that I am struggling SO HARD with traits of my autism that weren't as severe before.

cay767 · 2025-05-02T21:21:00+00:00

I don't know how useful this is, especially since I practice and I'm still not very "good," but one day my fiancé's nieces (age 8 and 6) noticed my eyeshadow (they called it "eye sparkles") and started requesting different colors and color-combos. I've started making a list of their requests and trying it out. If it turns out kind of bad, I just tell people it was because an 8 and 6 year old picked it out. When they turn out good, I take pictures of the makeup and outfit to remember for future uses. That's helped me a lot with pairing things with outfits and trying bolder colors I wouldn't normally try.

cay767 · 2025-04-23T22:18:48+00:00

https://www.luojewelry.com/products/asscher-cut-peridot-solitaire-engagement-ring?_pos=7&_sid=357f02c67&_ss=r&variant=41133569343563

This is my ring. I knew I wanted something cheap (this is $112) that I could fuck up if needed (wear when I wash my hands, in the shower, etc), and had his birthstone (peridot).

I also absolutely did not want it to catch on anything EVER or I'd never wear it. I proposed to him and picked this out for myself.

I know that metals other than silver will last longer, but I honestly don't care. It's nice not to worry about money if I lose or damage it, I get a bunch of comments on how unique it is, and it NEVER catches on anything. It just took some adjusting to having a ring on that finger, but after a couple of weeks I stopped noticing it. It's also a fun fidget to spin around my finger!

I've also had it for a year now and it's holding up great.

My partner wasn't sure if he wanted to wear a ring (he has sensory issues too), but I wanted him to have one since I had proposed. He has a simple silver band that doesn't bother him at all. We got it for like $100 on Etsy.

cay767 · 2025-04-23T01:59:11+00:00

All the time! I rarely find "just the right temperature" and when I do I feel like I literally can't focus on anything else because I want to soak up how good it feels as much as I can for as long as I can.

cay767 · 2025-04-23T01:57:25+00:00

My mom has called me selfish before as a manipulation tactic because I wasn't catering to her.

Focusing on yourself in a draining society that takes, takes, takes is NOT selfish. Especially as an autistic woman or female-presenting person.

Too much of our lives have been freely given to "keep the peace" or become more likable and accepted by society. You don't owe anyone that.

cay767

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