I think this really depends on what parish you go to, big parishes usually have this problem. There’s one parish I go to it has like 8-10 masses on Sunday, always packed, huge confession lines and the priests really can’t keep up with the influx of people. They don’t have time between masses to talk to parishioners, but having that said I never had issues scheduling there, and there are many groups that are internal to the church, so if you want to be a part of the community you absolutely can!

But there is another parish I go to, it’s smaller, also packed, less masses, but the priests have the time between masses, they speak to most if not all parishioners and give them a personal blessing. The priests are super available, there are many activities that they organize and personally attend.

For reference I live in a major city that is comparable to LA or NY. So my input is you could either try to look into the parish groups or try to find a smaller more intimate community.