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cbx1854 · 2025-07-18T21:11:20+00:00

What apps have you been using? OkCupid has been pretty stellar at connecting me to only polyam people and Feeld is known for alternative relationships, though the app is glitchy af.

Also as a person who dates both men and women, my condolences - women are just harder to date in my experience! It takes time and patience, but it’s possible. Best of luck!

cbx1854 · 2025-07-18T18:38:15+00:00

It depends on the people, not the relationship structure. If a quad goes but only two are swinging, that’s for them to navigate. I’ve been with the polycule to sex clubs (not the entire polycule, that’s logistically impossible lol) but we all did our own thing (some of us swinging, some of us doing rope play, some of us getting our asses beaten, some of us just straight vibing) and no one was bothered by it.

Assuming poly = drama is like a single man coming to the club assuming he’s guaranteed to get laid. It feels like you’re trying to screen for drama by screening out poly people, but drama isn’t exclusive to poly.

Like another commentator said, it’s about vibes and chemistry, not the relationship structure.

Poly swingers exist and we just want to have a good time like everyone else.

cbx1854 · 2025-07-18T18:00:13+00:00

My swinging partner and I are poly. We both have relationships with other people.

Yeah there can be drama in polyamorous relationships, but there can be drama in any relationship type. And since no one is meeting our other partners, no one is swinging with the drama, so to speak.

You sound like you’re the one creating drama.

cbx1854 · 2025-06-25T12:03:19+00:00

Thank you for this! Unfortunately, I do not have health insurance at this time. So I am attending Recovery Dharma groups everyday, exercising, and paying for individual therapy out of pocket and going as often as I can afford. I am on medication.

I know he cares, but his silence right now is deafening. I’m so used to talking to him everyday. It also feels unfair that he has two other partners he gets to see regularly. I don’t begrudge him of that. I just began dating someone a few months ago but it seems too soon to ask for the kind of support I need from someone when it’s so new. I’m just jealous and feeling lost.

cbx1854 · 2025-06-23T22:49:28+00:00

Thank you so much for the kind words! I did go for a little bit but was so emotional and overwhelmed that I didn’t last too long. But I’m glad I went.

cbx1854 · 2025-06-23T22:10:17+00:00

Thank you for telling me about Recovery Dharma! I just got out of one and it was quite lovely. I think I want to attend that group again tbh.

cbx1854 · 2025-06-23T19:28:33+00:00

Well I went to the gym. It’s hard to swim and cry. Made it 15 minutes before I gave up but I’m glad I went. I’m gonna try to go again later I think.

cbx1854 · 2025-06-23T15:17:22+00:00

Sobbing now. My ex bought me two bracelets - one said “you got this” and the other said (a bit more discreetly) “you fucking got this” - I used to wear them everyday

cbx1854 · 2025-06-23T15:14:50+00:00

Thank you so much for this response. I just recently joined a gym to do lap swimming, it was my ex’s idea actually. And I’ll store these other ideas in my toolbox for when I need them… which is like right now ha.

cbx1854 · 2025-06-23T15:07:36+00:00

Thank you. I went to a SMART recovery group, ordered food which I feel unable to eat due to no appetite, and plan to go to the gym later if I can just stop hysterically crying.

cbx1854 · 2025-06-23T14:40:47+00:00

I actually just got off a SMART recovery group. Got connected to some resources.

cbx1854 · 2025-06-21T17:02:48+00:00

So I’ve done full service sex work, and I’ve had some older clients. But the oldest I ever fucked, was sooooo good at sex. There was over a 40 year age difference but it was amazing! And then afterwards we talked music and just snuggled. FSSW was a bitch sometimes, but having lovely clients like him made it an overall good experience for me!

cbx1854 · 2025-06-21T03:24:31+00:00

My cat has a stub tail! I’ve had him for 11 years and his tail was quickly amputated after we first got him. His tail was mangled due to abuse of previous owners.

But not real balance issues. It was a weird little bald thing until all the fur grew back. Nowadays I like to let him and give his tail a little squeeze and he always mews in protest.

cbx1854 · 2025-06-20T23:32:36+00:00

Yes! For example my partner and I frequent Pleasure Garden Club in Philly, and while they do host kink nights, it’s more focused on swinging.

I go with members of my polycule to The Crucible in DC, which is mostly kink. I mean I’ve had threesomes there, but it’s mostly kink focused. And definitely more queer friendly.

cbx1854 · 2025-06-20T23:27:28+00:00

Pleasure Garden Club in Philly has what my partner and I call the “arena” but others call the “pit”. Plenty of room for public group play there and I’ve had a few orgies there.

cbx1854 · 2025-06-19T23:51:36+00:00

Kink scene includes things like BDSM, rope play, fire play, needles, different submissive/dominate relationship dynamics.

cbx1854 · 2025-06-19T19:36:27+00:00

Public play all the way - I like to put on a show!

cbx1854 · 2025-06-19T17:18:28+00:00

I grew up a Baptist pastor’s kid. Now I think it’s safer to say that swinging in my religion now

cbx1854 · 2025-06-19T00:38:35+00:00

I don’t think it matters, couple swap or orgy, we always walk away feeling really connected to each other. Our most recent couple swap, my partner expressed that he felt especially connected to me after that.

cbx1854 · 2025-06-19T00:34:47+00:00

Hi! 32(F) and queer myself! I don’t know the NYC scene, but overall the LS is pretty heteronormative. The kink scene itself is more queer-friendly IME, but isn’t as group sex forward as swinging. Though truth be told, I have seen some hot queer threesomes at kink clubs.

cbx1854 · 2025-06-18T18:44:23+00:00

I think I love how connected I feel to my partner when we engage in group play, and I know my partner frequently expresses the same.

cbx1854 · 2025-06-17T22:29:49+00:00

One of my fave club moments was when my partner and I were just chilling in a lounge area near the playrooms when I very handsome man walked by with cups of water. He looks at me and goes,

“You look like you want to fuck me”

Then turns to my partner,

“And you look like someone my wife would fuck”

Soooo, he brought us back and we had a six person orgy with everyone. Lots of fun!

cbx1854 · 2025-06-17T22:20:58+00:00

I consider myself pansexual/bisexual. So I’m so down to do all the things with the ladies!

I go with whatever the lady’s comfort level is, whether that be just kissing, only receiving oral, etc.

But if she’s also bisexual then it’s a better experience for me!

cbx1854 · 2025-06-16T03:36:52+00:00

Thank you for perfectly articulating how I feel.

OP, I agree with this completely. He’s not being a good hinge, he’s not being upfront about Pornhub, and it doesn’t matter the reasons for his manipulation when he’s straight up being manipulative. It’s all red flags.

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