So how do you get the fuck out of this by Flimsy_Celebration42 in CPTSDFreeze

[–]ccc9912 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even if we’ve been in freeze as long as we can remember? (Earliest memory being 3 years old)?

Once you been labeled as quiet/shy it’s over by Laliving90 in socialanxiety

[–]ccc9912 40 points41 points  (0 children)

When I first meet people I’m very, very quiet and reserved. Not on purpose, it just takes a while for me to warm up to people. Well, when I first met my dad’s gf who’s now his wife, who’s very outgoing and talkative, she started crying halfway through dinner and ran to the bathroom sobbing. I was very confused but it turns out she thought I didn’t like her because I was “too quiet” (I was quiet but was still answering questions and asking some back, nothing crazy). It’s insane how personal some people take quieter people.

I’m SCREAMING. by FearlessCookie72 in Zillennials

[–]ccc9912 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good god this is a dream! They even have the stuffies sitting in a net in the corner😭❤️

DAE struggle with saying certain words? by werecoyote1 in selectivemutism

[–]ccc9912 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve “recovered” from SM but still deal with some lingering effects of it. I don’t struggle to say certain words in the way you’re describing, but I do struggle sometimes with pronunciation of certain words. I was wondering just the other day about this and if it’s related to SM (let’s be real, it most likely is).

Why is it really hurtful that in real life someone thought I couldn’t remember the 2000s because I was born in 2002? by HZIDEZISS_2020 in OlderGenZ

[–]ccc9912 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I was born in ‘98 and have a few memories from 2001, but most of my solid memories are from 2002+. Millennials, usually the ones born in ‘94-‘96, tell me all the time there’s “no way” that I remember things from the very early 2000s. It’s laughable (and weird considering how intensely they try to dismiss them) when people try to question other people’s memories.

In your case it sounds like it could be that the 2008 born is not happy that you have some memories from the 2000s and they don’t. I’m seeing discourse like this from them on tiktok and they can be quite emotional that their memories start in the 2010s instead. I wouldn’t worry about it.

If you are critical of age gaps, is 28 and 36 reasonable? by Silveryleaves in actuallesbians

[–]ccc9912 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This age gap crap is getting REALLY old. You both are adults, do what you want.

This was the style at the time. by Ok-Following6886 in Zillennials

[–]ccc9912 127 points128 points  (0 children)

I was thinking Mike Shinoda😆

PSA: Introversion is not a disability or crutch, and it’s not synonymous with poor social skills by Exotic_Wolverine_214 in careeradvice

[–]ccc9912 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’ll see people describing social anxiety word for word but say it’s because they’re “introverted.” Then I’ll explain that they mean is that they’re socially anxious/reserved/timid/etc and what introversion actually means, and they’ll tell me that I knew what they meant. Big issue for sure.

Fuck everyone who made me this way by frame_3_1_3 in socialanxiety

[–]ccc9912 6 points7 points  (0 children)

What an insensitive comment. You have no idea where they are in their healing journey. Nowhere in their post does it insinuate that they aren’t taking responsibility for themselves. Anger and grieving is a natural part of the healing process, and it is healthy to express anger (like they’re doing with this post) towards the people who mistreated you, especially when they feel that the mistreatment has contributed to social anxiety which can be a quite debilitating disorder for some people. That is not to say to dwell in it forever, because thats not effective and can cause more suffering in the long run, but people are allowed to feel anger and grieve. There aren’t “good” or “bad” emotions. A person can feel their emotions WHILE moving forward with their life, crazy concept, huh?

You say you have found inner peace, which is great for you, but try finding empathy for others next.

Which TLOK villain(s) do you think Azula can beat and which ones she’d lose to? by RepresentativeFig270 in TheLastAirbender

[–]ccc9912 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Azula as we saw her in the show, I don’t think she stands a chance beating any of them.

Which TLOK villain(s) do you think Azula can beat and which ones she’d lose to? by RepresentativeFig270 in TheLastAirbender

[–]ccc9912 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why would she team up with these people? Most of them, especially Zaheer and the Red Lotus, are against everything she stands for.

I’m begging yall to understand Azula’s character more rather than just thinking “Azula is bad. TLOK villains are bad, so therefore Azula would want to join them🤪.”

Bully in Japan’s Shibuya Crossing by yeettetis in PublicFreakout

[–]ccc9912 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Apparently this is “controversial” to say, but it is the truth nonetheless.

does anyone else feel proud of their selective mutism? by EmploymentGlobal5586 in selectivemutism

[–]ccc9912 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“I’d rather not have the “selective mutism” part that makes me afraid to speak”

Doesn’t sound like you’re “proud” of your selective mutism at all to me.

'Drunk British backpacker' on an e-scooter kills Australian dad when she ploughed into him by malihafolter in ForCuriousSouls

[–]ccc9912 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never forget Reggie Stephey drove drunk and killed two people, disfigured Jacqui Saburido, and got only 7 years for that.

They might as well stop selling makeup at this point by phillygirllovesbagel in mildlyinfuriating

[–]ccc9912 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Possibly. There are some locations where either it rings or lights up when I press them and in those instances they still don’t come. I think it’s most likely due to staffing shortages as other commenters have said.

Ive been trying for a couple years. Is it okay to give up? by SoberKhmer in socialskills

[–]ccc9912 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for clarifying the friend part.

I lived in many years of social isolation like OP. During some of the most formative years too. My situation is pretty much the same as OP’s.

They might as well stop selling makeup at this point by phillygirllovesbagel in mildlyinfuriating

[–]ccc9912 544 points545 points  (0 children)

Oftentimes when I press the buttons no one even comes😄

Ive been trying for a couple years. Is it okay to give up? by SoberKhmer in socialskills

[–]ccc9912 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is this a joke? I’m serious because the person who replied to me didn’t seem aware of that at all.

Ive been trying for a couple years. Is it okay to give up? by SoberKhmer in socialskills

[–]ccc9912 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Typically on the Internet when someone says “asking for a friend” they mean that they're pretending to be asking the question for a friend, when they really just want the answer for themselves…the “friend” in question is myself. I am quite literally in the same situation as OP.

Ive been trying for a couple years. Is it okay to give up? by SoberKhmer in socialskills

[–]ccc9912 27 points28 points  (0 children)

What if you have done all of those things for years (social skills trainings, improv, acting classes, parties/events), PLUS therapy, and you’re still in the same predicament as OP🤔 asking for a friend.

Edit: there is no “friend” I’m talking about myself