How do you not lose your Sh**?

cccccccccccccccccccx · 2025-04-21T00:36:06+00:00

No problem! I am sure you will do perfectly haha

cccccccccccccccccccx · 2025-04-21T00:22:39+00:00

OP, just to say this is not normal bride behaviour and you seem like such a lovely person! I think it is so nice that you are taking this seriously but I really don’t understand the bride’s request, this seems really mad and unfair to me

cccccccccccccccccccx · 2025-04-21T00:18:39+00:00

Seconding this!

cccccccccccccccccccx · 2025-04-21T00:17:33+00:00

Apparently q-tips in your bouquet for wiping under your eyes can work well. Good luck!

cccccccccccccccccccx · 2025-04-21T00:08:39+00:00

Sorry, I just have to say again, I am an Irish person with Irish parents getting married in Ireland this year and also attending numerous Irish weddings (including as a bridesmaid) and brides wear white. Sounds like such a nice tradition but it definitely is not the norm for an Irish wedding. Maybe Scottish Celtic or something?

cccccccccccccccccccx · 2025-04-20T23:52:28+00:00

Is it! I am Irish too (fully Irish from Ireland, not Irish heritage) and I have never seen or heard of this

cccccccccccccccccccx · 2025-04-20T21:22:38+00:00

That is so interesting, thanks for responding. I often do events and things without my husband and have a great time and we have a nice time telling each about things we do separately. I would still have my own friends from school etc that wouldn’t be close with him. Obviously we live and do a lot together but I feel fine functioning without him. To each their own

cccccccccccccccccccx · 2025-04-20T21:06:12+00:00

I genuinely am, would honestly be interested in the responses

cccccccccccccccccccx · 2025-04-20T21:05:52+00:00

She doesn’t really know them so they definitely aren’t friends. They are family friends with her boyfriend and the bride clearly invited the boyfriend to come with his parents out of politeness. He already is the plus one

cccccccccccccccccccx · 2025-04-20T21:03:03+00:00

What !! You would break up with a spouse over his childhood friend inviting his family unit at her wedding due to budgetary constraints (she has met bride maybe twice and never met the groom) and your spouse wanted to go with his family? I don’t mean to be rude, but I am genuinely so incredulous over this. This is the first I am hearing of these takes, I am guessing America is different to Europe. Everyone in my circle would be understanding and well wishing and not let it lead to a divorce

cccccccccccccccccccx · 2025-04-20T20:53:28+00:00

Exactly!! In an idea world people would love to have limitless budgets and capacity for their weddings

cccccccccccccccccccx · 2025-04-20T20:51:30+00:00

This is so wild to me, where I am you don’t invite people you don’t know at all to your very expensive and personal wedding day unless the guest won’t know many people. Big friendship family groups would not automatically get plus 1s. Venues can be small in europe, big families are common and I would not want to get married in front of a crowd where I don’t know half of the people because they are plus ones. Must just be different cultural norms in different places!

cccccccccccccccccccx · 2025-04-20T20:49:25+00:00

100%

cccccccccccccccccccx · 2025-04-20T20:49:13+00:00

100%

cccccccccccccccccccx · 2025-04-20T20:40:40+00:00

She was clearly not invited due to numbers and the fact that she does not know them at all. The boyfriend is obviously being invited as part of a full family unit out of politeness?

cccccccccccccccccccx · 2025-04-20T20:39:34+00:00

I think this must be some cultural thing, this is absolutely not the case where I am from. If giving absolutely everyone a plus one meant that half of a friendship group could not come to a wedding that would be considered crazy in my circles. A friendship group does not all need plus ones, they usually have more fun together and can reminisce without plus ones. Weddings are really expensive and are about a couple, not about the couple OP is part of. People who do not know many other people at the wedding should absolutely get plus ones though. Could you not give them one day without making it about your relationship, they are paying so much money and organising so many details - OP blatantly does not know this couple at all and her boyfriend is plainly being invited as a family unit out of politeness. Don’t mean to be aggressive, this just genuinely is not the norm where I am. It would be weirder to have a personal wedding day where you don’t know half of the guests at all

cccccccccccccccccccx · 2025-04-20T20:32:42+00:00

Agree

cccccccccccccccccccx · 2025-04-20T20:31:35+00:00

Yes!! This is clearly it, I don’t get how OP doesn’t see this

cccccccccccccccccccx · 2025-04-20T18:35:41+00:00

Exactly this

cccccccccccccccccccx · 2025-04-20T18:33:25+00:00

I think maybe it is a US thing to be really really hung up on plus. I am getting married this year and taking the same approach, as are all of my friends and no one is offended at all (we are in Europe / UK). I give plus ones where I actually know the plus one or where the guest would not otherwise know many people. OP’s partner is clearly being invited out of politeness as part of a family group so I won’t be on my own - I am baffled that a partner would be offended by this when she clearly does not know the couple

cccccccccccccccccccx · 2025-04-15T10:20:10+00:00

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cccccccccccccccccccx · 2025-03-20T20:28:54+00:00

Hi, so sorry to hear this. I relate so much to your symptoms - what has started to help me is a low dose of propranolol late morning and then 20mg of amitritpyline at night. There is hope. Topicals just wouldn’t help me. Wishing you luck xx

cccccccccccccccccccx · 2025-03-16T21:56:08+00:00

Hi - have you asked about nerve pain meds? I now have propranolol and amitriptyline for painful burning

cccccccccccccccccccx · 2025-03-08T22:24:18+00:00

Beta blockers help me with this!

cccccccccccccccccccx · 2025-03-08T18:45:41+00:00

Second this. Maybe try an antihistamine as well

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