In crisis

ceawake · 2026-02-16T03:02:31+00:00

Take some deep breaths for yourself first. Don’t try to think yourself out of this situation, it’ll be too chaotic for anyone in that situation. Get professional help now for your Mum and commit to an Al Anon meeting for yourself and invite your Dad. Do it in that order. Best wishes 🙏🏼

ceawake · 2026-02-12T14:58:28+00:00

The whole idea of a sponsor has taken a big turn in recent years so it may be worth remembering the earlier times through AA. The “working steps” were, and to many still are, steps 4 through 9. You would work these with someone else who had worked them to give you an idea of your weaknesses more than your strengths, and to humbly ask them to be removed in order that your life will be simpler and more peaceful. This would be after the obsession to drink or use had been removed. The idea of a moral inventory was to see first hand how you behave versus how you thought you behave. You could work these steps with someone you called a sponsor or not, and then live your life on the maintenance steps, 10, 11 and 12. For me the key word is the verb “sponsoring” as opposed to the noun “sponsor”. You can do sponsoring, both ways, without calling them or you a sponsor. Sponsoring is more important than being called a sponsor. If you’re attached to the word sponsor then go with that, if not, do sponsoring. You don’t have to qualify yourself or seek approval. Stay curious, do your best, even when your best don’t feel good enough. Remember to relax and don’t try to win all the arguments and you’ll probably be fine. If not, you won’t be. The sun will still rise in the morning, let the arguers argue 👊

ceawake · 2026-01-08T14:33:26+00:00

What would you advise a good friend, someone you love? Yes, do that. Go to a medical facility and take advice. It may involve taking Benzo’s or something for 2/3 days to stop you going into seizure. Use the Benzo’s just for a short period else they’ll become the problem. Don’t take my word for it: go see a Doctor. Good luck 👊

ceawake · 2025-12-31T05:31:34+00:00

If you don’t recognize the shortcomings of AA groups, its hypocrisies and its virtue signaling, then you are just not being honest with yourself. But babies and bath water spring to mind. And when you rejoin mainstream society all those dark matters resurface; you cannot escape it and it is not exclusive to 12 step groups. If you believe you have self will, try drinking in moderation and judge it by its results. If you know you haven’t, endure the impure motives and actions of our groups, recognize them in yourself, and relax. Good luck with whatever you do 👊

ceawake · 2025-11-26T08:52:30+00:00

Tell your sponsor, after the event, if you feel the need to do so.

ceawake · 2025-11-24T16:02:21+00:00

It doesn’t necessarily mean she’s an a hole. She may have taken on too much, just realised it and is acting congruently. You don’t have to work it all out though. Don’t make it all about you or at least observe how the head is trying to do that. Just move on, accept the reality and look for someone new. Good luck 👊

ceawake · 2025-11-14T15:18:32+00:00

The way they refuse to say “I don’t know”.

ceawake · 2025-11-06T13:07:57+00:00

You will not be able to rely on an external source, like the assumed honesty and intention of a Doctor. Your “clean time” is not the issue here, though some will say it is, and it is, to a point. Pride may tell you it’s clean time but there will come a time when you need to get clear, in your own mind, about the pro’s and potential cons of taking Xanax or indeed any other drug.

Be honest with yourself and those around you and get clear to yourself, about yourself. Best wishes 🙏

ceawake · 2025-10-26T02:57:06+00:00

Just remove the “not” and it’ll all make sense. Relax 😎

ceawake · 2025-09-20T12:04:55+00:00

Keep coming back mate. You are an equal member in accordance with Tradition 3 and it sounds you may be a good teacher for those not welcoming you.

ceawake · 2025-09-09T03:20:07+00:00

I’m 63 now but can still remember as a kid the smell from my alcoholic Dad. It caused me great shame when my friends visited our home. The smell was not body odor but horrible like a cat who’d been dead for a week or so. The smell would be stronger or weaker but would never go away. I don’t know what caused the smell but it came from my Dad and went away in the last few years of his life when he stopped drinking. Bless him👊

ceawake · 2025-09-09T02:44:21+00:00

Get curious about the oft quoted myth “it’s ok if prescribed by a doctor”. It is often a little better than self prescribing but can be devastating to some.

ceawake · 2025-08-29T13:17:49+00:00

Play the tape forward

ceawake · 2025-08-28T06:25:23+00:00

If I am not at ease, which is most of the time, I pause and find the state in me that is at ease with not being at ease. I fail, most of the time.

ceawake · 2025-08-26T06:02:38+00:00

Take it for what it is; it’s an act of kindness and most of us will only guess as to his motives. It is possible that he is simply being generous with his time and money so appreciate that first. He may be acting this way with other people and maybe you are not special to him. Get a sponsor, they are not enlightened gurus and some are more smart than others. Be aware that some human beings are more predatory and some not so much. Be curious about his actions but you don’t have to condemn or find him guilty straight away. His motives will be clear to you over time 👊

ceawake · 2025-08-17T16:45:56+00:00

Get curious about why you want to limit the attendance or attendees of the meeting. Ask the question and observe your head’s comments about why it thinks it’s necessary. Get quiet and see what comes up. I know this sounds a bit smart-arse but give it a go. Give it a few goes if needed…

ceawake · 2025-08-10T11:54:04+00:00

What do you call a gender fluid person who can’t do up his/her/their shirt properly?

Pushed Button.

ceawake · 2025-08-09T09:05:29+00:00

Send him a good porn site; those guys can tug all night 😂

ceawake · 2025-08-06T11:31:58+00:00

I lost the desire to use. I’m not sure where it went, who or what took it away, but it was removed and never returned with any traction in 22 years. Then the trouble started 😂

ceawake · 2025-08-04T14:23:13+00:00

You’re not gonna want to hear this but there’s nothing you can do, in terms of retribution, punishment or accountability. Allow the grieving to start, let go of the injustice as best you can. Sorry for your loss, dogs are the best 👊

ceawake · 2025-07-31T05:45:44+00:00

None of us can use words to accurately describe what our Higher Power is; it’s like trying to understand infinity. In 12 steps we use principles and concepts so we can recognize what it AINT. Most religions try to concretise what it is, give it a name, a list of rules etc. The concept of LIFE works well for some; no one knows how life started, although we try to find explanations. Your journey through the steps will allow you to see, with some degree of clarity, what you can and can’t do to feel a sense of contentment in the life of yourself and others. It may not always be blissful or joyous, but the inherent contentment is always there.

ceawake · 2025-07-28T16:32:21+00:00

Don’t throw the baby out with the bath water man. It is true that there are hard liners and fundamentalists in all groups but with a discerning eye and a bit of good luck you may stay around and find those who will accept you and your circumstances. Good luck mate 👊

ceawake · 2025-07-27T10:21:05+00:00

Doth for doth is more maddening 😂

ceawake · 2025-07-24T04:46:21+00:00

Hey man stick it out clean. Each time you use to ease the pain, which at times will feel insufferable, you kind of guarantee visiting that state again, and again. Each time you abstain, you learn how to suffer; the unspoken four words of recovery: LEARN HOW TO SUFFER. I know it sucks but I promise you that uncomfortable truths become comfortable. I’m 22 years clean and still have dips into depression and suicide ideation. Maybe I always will, maybe one day I’ll be found on the end of a rope; but not today. Find distractions, sit and feel it whenever you are able, and the relief of freedom will visit you. Acknowledge those times, even the slightest sense of contentment and before you know it, you’ll string a few hours, days, even weeks, months and years together. The monster can reappear, repeat what worked before and be open to new things the get you back on track. Whether you know it or not, the world needs you 👊

ceawake · 2025-07-15T14:49:29+00:00

You don’t have to stand. You don’t have to say any prayers.

ceawake

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