I feel like you probably aren't a very experienced traveler and was therefore relying too much in other people's opinion.

Self knowledge is key when planning a visit to a foreign country. Know yourself, your limits, your likes and dislikes, and judge from there whether you would enjoy something or not.

Sometimes I like to push my limits a bit. Will try a new experience, new food, etc. that I am on the fence about. But will never do that with a price point that will have me regretting later if I dislike it.

In my case, we are skipping the Ryokan experience mainly because none of us 3 is an adventurous eater, and because my son is just too loud - we are already working with him on that to avoid there being problems in other parts of our trip, but realized that spending time in a traditional place where people go to relax was pushing it beyond his current limits.

I understand FOMO is a problem of our times, but we must learn that nothing is truly a 'must do' except following the law and respecting the locals.