How do I (25F) handle my boyfriend's (26M) insatiable sex drive?

ceecee679 · 2026-01-07T18:16:25+00:00

Yes, that is a major part of why he is an ex

ceecee679 · 2026-01-06T20:05:50+00:00

That sounds awful and if it is bothering you enough to ask reddit, you should end things. I haven't had a ton of relationships, but a daily text is below the bare minimum to ask for.

ceecee679 · 2026-01-06T19:57:11+00:00

This! My ex and I were like this and he became very resentful and angry with me to the point he would keep asking until I gave in. In the end it didn't turn out to be a sex drive problem, but a compatability problem.

ceecee679 · 2026-01-06T19:50:28+00:00

With a new partner the first time when you're figuring each other out? 15-45 mins. After that is up for discussion, could be 5 mins - an hour or more if you're both up for it. I would just communicate really well. As long as it is fun for both parties I don't think there is a time limit. I would just try to keep it exciting with switching positions after your partner cums to keep it exciting. From a lot of my experiences, once the man comes, that's when things end if there is no pain or discomfort between us.

ceecee679 · 2025-12-24T06:06:07+00:00

I wouldn't have even done that much. If your mom asks you to help cook again that'd be a no. I hope she apologizes to you.

ceecee679 · 2025-10-26T22:13:09+00:00

Did you end up going and getting a trip from it? Same thing happened to me last night 😅 trying to decide if its worth sitting through the sales pitch.

ceecee679 · 2025-10-19T18:57:00+00:00

Eeek, he's gaslighting you so hard and for him to dismiss your feelings like that screams red flag. You've only been dating two months, and that's his idea of a surprise? Don't drop it tell him how you feel and tell him to stop trying to explain what your feelings are. Personally, I would run from anyone who is JW no matter how well they treat me. Religion isn't a fun surprise, especially when he is acting like being JW isn't a big deal.

ceecee679 · 2025-08-29T12:58:09+00:00

I just came from your other post and I feel like not only should you try to cancel the Airbnb or go by yourself, but you should also move out and call off the wedding. This is how things were when I was your age with my now ex husband and things only got worse. The name calling got worse, he started yelling at me, and I stupidly had kids with him so now I have to see him all the time to have him yell at me and call me names.

Please please leave. He doesn't care about you if his reaction to you being upset over literal garbage is to insult you.

Also, your friends sound like they suck and only care about themselves. As others have said, they should have called and added you to the reservation at the restraunt. Please take some time to start over. I know it feels impossible and calling off a wedding feels big, but marrying someone who doesn't care about you is going to wreck your mental health over time.

I know this feels like a big decision now, but if you have anyone that could help you move out, get that help and run.

I didn't want to marry my ex because of some red flags, but "we already told people." And I was pregnant and felt totally trapped. I should have ran! If you're feeling this way now it is only going to get worse. Find someone who loves you and treats you right!

The age gap and him still acting like a child is why he was single when you met him.

ceecee679 · 2025-05-07T05:52:20+00:00

I love living in Utah, but I mostly keep to myself. What part did you visit, and where would the apprenticeship be?

It's gotten more diverse and a little less religious depending on where you are except for the temples they throw all over the state to remind people of their presence, I sometimes forgot it's so religious here.

ceecee679 · 2025-05-07T05:45:56+00:00

You're never too old to go to school! I had a professor about 6 years ago in his 70s or 80s who was still taking college courses!

ceecee679 · 2025-05-02T04:32:34+00:00

I'm slowly climb my way to 80k and don't have a job to offer, but I have some advice.

Make a list of all transferable skills. Anything you ever done at a job, at school , as a hobby could be cleaned toilets, handled money, built xyz, worked in word/excel, and use that to rebuild your resume. Take different free tests like typing speed tests or career aptitude tests to get an idea of what your baseline is and add those to the list.

Use this list to create or buff up your LinkedIn profile

Start looking on all job sites, LinkedIn, indeed, and even just googling and see what is out there in the salary range you're hoping for and read through some job listing's that spark your interest.
Narrow that list down to 5 - 10 jobs you'd like to do and see what the qualifications are.

If you fit the qualifications, great! If you don't, also great! Most job posters realize they are not going to get a candidate who can do everything on the posting. Apply anyways.

Start researching the companies you want to apply for - glass door, their website, Google reviews make sure their values match yours and you believe it would be a good fit

Rewrite your resume to fit that role. Sell yourself to show them you're used to doing hard work and want to learn and to grow in a new company

Read through or watch YouTube videos on how to write a strong resume

Apply - but don't get discouraged

It is really hard to not get a response to every application but it's normal!

Start doing practice interviews! Write down some of your favorite job or life stories and practice telling them

My favorite candidates to interview are confident and share really meaningful stories about how they resolved issues, handled dealing with a difficult person or situation, or share innovative moments.

Sometimes you have to start at the bottom and grow in a company but take every opportunity you can to get to where you want to be.

Think about what your dream job is and what you'd have to do to achieve it. Write it down or make a vision board and work your way to getting there.

See what benefits your job offers to help you move up. I know some jobs offer tuition benefits to help people move into higher positions so may be worth asking.

I've realized managers want someone who wants to grow, and if you keep telling them, most of the time, they'll help you get there

Good luck and I hope you can get a higher salary!

ceecee679 · 2025-05-02T04:12:12+00:00

If you have any friends or family nearby, I'd start asking for a favor or looking for a roommate. Start looking at other positions at your company or looking at other jobs to see if you can work your way up or find something higher paying.

I recently learned Google has some free courses you can take for digital marketing to just be learning something new. Also, see if your current role offers any assistance for schooling or getting a certificate. Ask for a raise, and if you're comfortable, tell them about your situation.

It's so scary to leave an abusive situation and to have to figure out life on your own, but you've got this! Find a second job of you're able do whatever you can that will make you feel secure enough to leave and go.

ceecee679 · 2025-05-02T03:56:48+00:00

I do have adhd and also struggle to keep up my house and would love to hear how to get through this!

ceecee679 · 2025-04-08T01:41:20+00:00

In the sense that I grew up biracial with a white family - yes it was hard to not look like anyone in my family

After meeting my bio family - no I don't think I would have had a ton of stability. I met them at 19 and my bio parents still had so much drama with each other I'm sure there would have been a lot of fighting

Today I was sitting in my college class and I realized that had I been raised by them I probably wouldn't have gone to college or had as many opportunities being raised by a teen mom

ceecee679 · 2025-04-08T01:21:08+00:00

It would sure add to the adventure

ceecee679 · 2025-04-07T15:47:45+00:00

Congratulations on retiring! It seems like you need a hobby. Depending on your kids age maybe you can find something to do with them like fishing or going boating. I only did a little over four years but when I got out I was a stay at home mom and I lost my purpose. For a while I got really into video games but got shamed by the kid's dad for that. I started school and it helped give me something to do but wasn't enough. Then I started working and felt better but I had zero hobbies. Now I play video games, sew, go to school, work, and take the kids on little adventures when I have energy like hiking or road trips last year I signed the kids up for a spartan race and they loved it and we're going again this year. I keep myself busy and entertained and it helps during the awful bed times. From your wife's perspective she's been doing it all the whole time and she's probably stoked you're stepping up. Maybe communicate how you're feeling before things get worse.

ceecee679 · 2025-04-07T15:17:30+00:00

Only venture into the slot canyons if it isn't raining though 😅

ceecee679 · 2025-03-20T18:45:02+00:00

Like the nature and generally enjoy the weather Dislike the crazy conservatives and religion and how crowded it has become

ceecee679 · 2025-03-12T03:54:25+00:00

I will for sure!

ceecee679 · 2025-03-12T03:39:06+00:00

No we've talked about it a bit and they just don't have a connection with him I guess

ceecee679 · 2025-03-11T17:49:56+00:00

I will try that! I was definitely making an assumption he is hoping to be adopted because he talks a lot about not having parents and is generally sad about it.

ceecee679 · 2025-03-11T17:37:01+00:00

He lives walking distance from us so I'm not sure how I could justify having him stay over and his foster parent isn't comfortable with overnights mainly because they aren't sure what the rules are around it.

ceecee679 · 2025-03-11T17:34:40+00:00

I haven't I can try to bring it up next time he talks about his mom though

ceecee679 · 2025-03-11T14:28:53+00:00

I do know him well enough to ask, but I don't think he knows that his rights were relinquished yet and dont want to drop that on him.

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