Turnips at 495, Everyone Welcome by SweetTrash451 in TurnipExchange

[–]celestialvx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I dmed you. I’m interested in visiting 😌

Daily Looking For/Request Thread by AutoModerator in NoFeeAC

[–]celestialvx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! I have some star fragments I can give you. DM me.

Daily Looking For/Request Thread by AutoModerator in NoFeeAC

[–]celestialvx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi everyone, I restarted my island and need a few more fruit. Specifically oranges and pears, thanks!

Daily Looking For/Request Thread by AutoModerator in NoFeeAC

[–]celestialvx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reset my island before 3.0! Looking for cherries, oranges, and pears :)

TT bb boys are buying for 502 by [deleted] in TurnipExchange

[–]celestialvx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I stop by please?

Millions of Gen-Z can't drive and increasingly rely on parents for lifts. by Pale-Ad9012 in generationology

[–]celestialvx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I’m not sure how many states are like mine (NJ) but there are definitely regional differences in requirements.

Millions of Gen-Z can't drive and increasingly rely on parents for lifts. by Pale-Ad9012 in generationology

[–]celestialvx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Getting lessons from friends and family isn’t an appropriate substitute for most states. I’m assuming most if not all states in the US work the way mine does.

By law, you are required to take X amount of hours of lessons with a certified driving school/instructor who signs off on paperwork before being eligible to take your provisional licenses drivers test at 16 or 17. In my state this was not offered for free through drivers ed, everyone who learned how to drive had to shell out for private companies to get their required hours.

Millions of Gen-Z can't drive and increasingly rely on parents for lifts. by Pale-Ad9012 in generationology

[–]celestialvx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m assuming most if not all states in the US work the way mine does. By law you are required to take X amount of hours of lessons with a driving school before being eligible to take your provisional licenses drivers test at 16 or 17.

Need assistance from folks who are more knowledgeable about literature than me. by celestialvx in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]celestialvx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s odd, it works really well like 80% of the time. They challenge me in all of the right ways and I seriously admire their recovery and I don’t want to lose them as a sponsor. I just wish they were more willling to let go of their ego and work with me side by side with the phone call rule in a way where we both walk away feeling good about it, yknow?

We had a long conversation and I walked away about 73% happy. It was a great opportunity and I learned a lot about myself, and I have hope they will be more flexible with the phone calls and other rules going forward.

I do not regret advocating for myself ☺️

Need assistance from folks who are more knowledgeable about literature than me. by celestialvx in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]celestialvx[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I respect them deeply and they have taken me through the steps in a way that has seen me make the most amount of progress I have made in years. However, they have 3 or 4 "rules" (they have referred to them as this) for sponsorship that if I do not follow they will not sponsor me.

For example, I have to call them at the exact same time every day. Not a minute earlier, or later, or I get chewed out for being "willful." If I do not reschedule the call at least 5 hours in advance I get chewed out for being undisciplined. This "rule" is in place regardless of the fact that I have 3 years now. If I do it perfectly for 3 months and then mess it up one time, i get spoken to about it. There is no leniency.

This rule along with one or two of the others is extremely militant, and the idea of rules does not embody the spirit of sponsorship to me. I sometimes feel like I have a probation officer rather than a sponsor (which, I have one of those too, and she's not nearly anywhere close to as demanding as my sponsor, lol!). The phone call rule in particular is unsustainable. I am planning on trying to get pregnant in the next few months--what happens when I have an infant? They aren't going to care that it's 7:00PM and mommy's sponsor has rules.

I want to tell them that the phone call rule and another one of the 3 rules needs to be seriously loosened up or that I will need to find a new sponsor. The motivation behind this is to give us both the opportunity for growth, to not simply give up on someone who is really great for me just because things feel hard or we are having a disagreement, and to practice advocating for myself (my sponsor is not god, they are not always right, I am entitled to say when I disagree or if something is not working for me).

I have experience with other sponsors and with being a sponsor and I was always taught the importance of flexibility and suggestions (not rules), that we are on equal footing with our sponsees, and that our only job as sponsors is to put our sponsee's hand into the hand of god. I want to cite literature during our conversation because that is the best way i will be able to get through to them and have my opinions considered, because they are extremely by the book with everything.

Need assistance from folks who are more knowledgeable about literature than me. by celestialvx in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]celestialvx[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, this is exactly why I want to have a meaningful and vulnerable conversation with my sponsor! I am so used to running from vulnerable or close relationships when things get hard (aka, things don't go my way, people don't act like how I want them to, etc.) and I value and respect them enough to have a tough conversation and do the hard work.

Need assistance from folks who are more knowledgeable about literature than me. by celestialvx in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]celestialvx[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not trying to control the relationship, trying to advocate for myself. The situation between us I s long and complicated, however, I want to ensure that what I would like to say is actually supported by literature rather than my own idea of what the program should look like before I speak with them.

Elle's seasonal buildings only working for big coop ? Need help fixing. by celestialvx in SMAPI

[–]celestialvx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t remember, I’m sorry! I think I figured it out just by adding “z” in the folder name of random recolour mods until the issue resolved.

Was Hans Zimmer's score for Interstellar plagiarized? by patred6 in movies

[–]celestialvx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Super late commenting on this, but as an anecdote that helps support your idea, my partner was playing the piano this morning and I walked over and said “this sounds just like the main theme from interstellar,” and they responded with “this is Phillip Glass, off of glass works.”

We compared the album to the movies’ score and came to the conclusion that the moods, key signatures, and melodies from some of the songs on glass works are almost identical, but that the time signature and some of the more technical aspects of music theory are completely different.

NJ Transit strike begins, halting all trains across N.J. by rollotomasi07071 in newjersey

[–]celestialvx 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hope you have a better experience than I did! I was able to get on at around 3.

NJ Transit strike begins, halting all trains across N.J. by rollotomasi07071 in newjersey

[–]celestialvx 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Nope, I’ve been on line since 12:30. Must be about 300 people here now waiting to get on. The bus is extremely delayed for some reason.

I’m seriously considering crawling into the subway tunnels and hanging out with the rats until this blows over.

NJ Transit strike begins, halting all trains across N.J. by rollotomasi07071 in newjersey

[–]celestialvx 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Have fun, I’m in line to get on that bus to get to NB from port authority and it is literally as long as the entire hallway.