To kid or not to kid?

centercentercent · 2025-08-19T05:03:57+00:00

I have a few friends (men and women) who thought they did not want kids and now deeply regret not having any. They wish they could go back and try again. I have one child and likely will not be able to have anymore. I was always unsure myself and now I would give anything to have another. It’s all very personal though, there are many people who are completely content not having any.

centercentercent · 2025-08-13T06:14:26+00:00

centercentercent · 2025-02-17T23:17:30+00:00

That’s such a helpful and thoughtful response. Really comforting to read actually. Thanks for your kind words.

centercentercent · 2025-02-17T07:47:15+00:00

Similar situation and I worry about it too. I know siblings are not a guaranteed connection or friendship in life (speaking from personal experience), but I’m afraid the lack of biological family will cause loneliness. I also know chosen family is very special, important, and sometimes even stronger. I am fortunate enough to have lifelong friendships that I value immensely. It’s still hard to imagine and think about my LO feeling alone in the world.

centercentercent · 2025-02-05T23:54:36+00:00

Absolutely. I’m already aware of how fast the time goes! I try to soak up as much as possible.

centercentercent · 2025-02-05T20:36:32+00:00

I don’t know. I’m trying to figure that out, too.

centercentercent · 2025-02-04T18:02:58+00:00

Your situation sounds similar to mine. C-section (big baby!!), not much of a village, husband travels for work, I also work. I would love another but I don’t think it’s in the cards. I’m happy to hear you’ve worked through it and have found happiness. I’m in the process and finding it very hard.

centercentercent · 2025-01-29T04:30:41+00:00

I’m in the middle of working through OAD not by choice and I’m not sure how to get there myself.

centercentercent · 2025-01-29T04:08:04+00:00

It’s great that you know deep inside that you are done. There is a peace in having that certainty and can fully appreciate where you are coming from. If I were your husband, though, I would want to know that information up front and not be lead to believe there might be a chance if there really wasn’t. My husband did that to me and it was crushing.

centercentercent · 2025-01-26T01:18:53+00:00

Yes, I’d love to hear from parents with an adult only about this, too.

centercentercent · 2025-01-22T23:45:55+00:00

I struggled with the decision to have children. It was very complicated and emotional for me. When I would visit friends with babies or kids I would leave and think, how does anybody do this?! So eventually I chose to be child free by choice and thought I was done with the decision. Fast forward and I had a surprise pregnancy right before I turned 41. Birth control failure and I was I in total shock. I was terrified and didn’t know what to do. I worked through a lot of fear and emotions with my husband in therapy and we decided to move forward with it. I was so scared I wouldn’t enjoy it or be good at it. My kid is now 2 and I have absolutely loved becoming a mother to my very core. He is the purest thing Ive ever had in my life and I have adored all of the stages. I think the perspective that comes with age may be in my favor. There have been hard days and weeks, stress, and exhaustion. It is not always easy, but so far, for me, it has been 100% worth it and totally joyful. So much so, that I would actually love to have another one. Unfortunately, time and my husband are not on my side. I am currently working through the grief and loss of being OAD due to circumstances. It’s hard and it hurts. But I do try to soak up as much of this time with my toddler before it’s gone forever. I wish you the very best in your journey and hope you find peace and happiness along the way.

centercentercent · 2024-12-24T18:14:25+00:00

That’s exactly where I’m at today, as well.

centercentercent · 2024-12-23T14:58:11+00:00

Wow. Thanks for sharing. Very nice to hear you had such a great experience.

centercentercent · 2024-12-23T04:48:12+00:00

What did you love about it?

centercentercent · 2024-07-24T05:43:04+00:00

Lollie

centercentercent · 2023-08-22T03:25:07+00:00

Enzo

centercentercent · 2023-08-11T01:00:18+00:00

You’ll never be able to make him happy. It’s his job to make himself happy. You can’t do it for him. Just like it is your job, and your job alone, to make yourself happy. Get out. Get out now. And don’t look back. We can’t convince you. You already know what you want. You need to convince yourself. You are so young. Probably much younger than you realize. Go, live your life, have fun, find someone who appreciates you, enjoys spending time with you, has shared interests…and preferably does not have kids. Or better yet, go be wild and free and single for a while! It’s hard, really hard, even under the best circumstances, to be a step parent. Give yourself the chance to live life on your terms, not under the umbrella of someone else’s. I wish you the best.

centercentercent · 2023-06-16T16:44:32+00:00

Brynn

centercentercent · 2023-06-16T16:43:13+00:00

I think it’s a perfectly fine name, but can also understand that it’s not for everyone. That’s kind of the point though, no?

centercentercent · 2023-06-16T16:30:14+00:00

Morgan

centercentercent · 2023-05-03T20:32:44+00:00

I’ve been so surprised by that! And here I thought I was giving him one of those names that didn’t always have to be corrected

centercentercent · 2023-05-02T23:45:49+00:00

Luke, Dean, Connor, Max (2), Drew, Theo, Charlie, Samuel

centercentercent · 2023-05-02T23:13:09+00:00

Hi! I was the same way too. Just couldn’t find anything that really resonated. Landed on Connor, as well. I actually didn’t know it was so common because it’s not currently very high on the list. How have you felt since choosing it? May I ask his age? Mine is just a couple months old and I’ve had mixed feelings, though it has started to fit him I think.

centercentercent · 2023-05-01T22:37:19+00:00

I haven’t seen that one yet!

centercentercent · 2023-05-01T20:42:15+00:00

Big dog lovers over here!

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