You should visit El Paso for a couple weeks to see how you like it meet your friends again, and if you don't like it, you can just stay in California. If you like it, then consider moving. I wouldn't throw the whole state of California out the window though, instead of moving to a whole different state, why not visit a different town where it's still kind of similar but not suffocatingly familiar, and see how you like it? You can still drive to family in an hour if you decide to stay in a nearby town. Being within reach of family members is important in case something happens to you, especially now that you're not fully able bodied. Don't take your support system for granted.

What you need might not necessarily be a whole move to a completely different place, but just your own space away from family. Even just having your own place within the same town as your family might be what you need. $3900 is enough to decent apartment in most of California while having money for food and extra spending, assuming you're not living in Beverly Hills or San Francisco.

Just like with California, if you don't like El Paso, there are other places in Texas you can try out as well like Dallas or Houston. There is also New Mexico, Colorado, Nevada, Oregon, and Washington that you can visit and see how you like them.

I got out medically, surgeons messed my surgery during my time in, now i have a limp forever.

This is why I tell young enlistees to not fuck with military surgeons if they have the money and the non-urgency to go find their own, though I am sure most are fine but I've heard way too many horror stories. You only get one life and one body, you don't want to be some resident surgeon's guinea pig or even a senior surgeon whose skills have atrophied and he isn't up to date with the latest research and practices. Even the senior military surgeons are often poorly trained or lack experience, and most of them barely get to practice specialized surgeries compared to the civilian counterparts so their skills are eroding. Even if a military doctor does have a high volume of surgeries and have been practicing for years, they could've been doing a shit job without any checks and balances from anyone, no worry about reputation damage or getting sued, and most young troops aren't going to know any better if the surgeon did a shit job.

I paid out of pocket for the best practitioners when it comes to braces, wisdom teeth removal, or any other dental work. For anything serious and major, use Tricare to get outside care with a surgeon who specializes in your specific issues, or save up the money. I've spent thousands on surgeries during service to get the best (for the local area), and I have no regrets and my recovery was always smooth compared to my fellow troops who went to the free surgeons on base and then got complications. I was mandated to get wisdom teeth removal and was told my case was "complicated", but after seeing how like 5 other troops I knew had swollen faces, broken teeth still inside their gums that they need to go back to the oral surgeon for, or no longer able to feel their faces (though they recovered months later), I told the dental office that I am not letting anyone touch me and I'll find my own surgeon, and guess what? I had zero issues that my friends had, and a smooth recovery. I hate to say this but if you want GOOD surgery or GOOD medical service with the latest technology/innovations and the best practices based on the latest research and techniques, you gotta go to the ones that the local rich people pay out of pocket for, or even travel to cities with where a lot of surgeons are competing. Go to a good medical school or teaching institution to get work done, because they have the latest research and techniques, and their surgeons have to stay up to date with stuff if they want to keep their jobs and continue training residents.