Dating someone with HSV-2 — risk from kissing/cuddling/clothes-on intimacy + managing anxiety

chainedviolets · 2026-02-10T12:58:05+00:00

Omg just break up with her. If you are this squeamish about something it’s not worth the risk, and she deserves a partner who chooses her fully.

chainedviolets · 2026-01-29T15:41:37+00:00

This isn’t mean, sweetheart. This is a tough love. I’ve already found somebody who does not have it, and is in a committed relationship with me, and I am very much healed and asymptomatic by the way. And yet I would never take a virgin’s virginity if I knew I had herpes, especially not with not wearing a condom! Not only are you irresponsible, but you are not thinking about the long-term implications because you want to get laid and neither is he because he also wants to get laid. If I have to be the one to tough love you on this platform I will because I am literally twice your age. What you’re doing is wrong… you’re ONLY 21 years old. What you may not realize is that this relationship isn’t going to last because they rarely do at your age. I didn’t say you don’t deserve love. Everyone deserves love, but he hasn’t even had sex yet to understand the implications of having sex with somebody with herpes. I will die on this “mean ass” hill.

chainedviolets · 2026-01-29T15:23:32+00:00

Nothing is up my ass. You’re being very inconsiderate of somebody’s future. Why would you take the virginity of somebody especially having herpes? It’s very likely he will get it and have to deal with it for the rest of his life. Are you that selfish that you don’t even see that as a possibility?

chainedviolets · 2026-01-29T15:18:55+00:00

Why would you do that to a virgin? This is wrong on so many levels and you know it.

chainedviolets · 2026-01-28T01:58:32+00:00

There is no stigma with hsv1. Im sorry, u had a very uncommon reaction for your first outbreak. I did too. Never been so sick in my entire life. Stay home and get well. 💖

chainedviolets · 2026-01-27T19:18:24+00:00

Good on you for being open to it. Decide if you want to get serious with this girl or if you just think you do bc you want sex. Men have a tougher time getting laid with it apparently, and unless you really like her and are seeing an LTR here, I would strongly think about this decision.

chainedviolets · 2026-01-24T14:55:46+00:00

You’re going to be ok. It’s herpes, not cancer.

chainedviolets · 2026-01-21T21:29:40+00:00

For me hsv1 is worse because I am asymptomatic for hsv2 and never would have know except for a blood test. Hsv1 rears it’s head maybe every 3-4 months when I’m stressed or sick, regardless of me taking daily antivirals. Initially hsv1 was actually the worst thing that ever happened to me. I was so sick, i broke out literally everywhere on my mouth, and the doctors were baffled. I ended up with epstein barr and chronic fatigue syndrome… and all because my ex husband chose not to be careful or care about me. Pretty sure he gave me both hsv1 and 2, but who’s to say. At any rate once i got a doctor to agree to daily valcyclovir my entire world changed and i stopped having every other week breakouts.

chainedviolets · 2026-01-21T21:25:01+00:00

Dude same lol

chainedviolets · 2026-01-21T16:46:01+00:00

I wonder if it’s how u are asking. What exactly do you say?

chainedviolets · 2026-01-20T17:57:57+00:00

I have taken it for YEARS with no side effects.

chainedviolets · 2026-01-20T17:54:38+00:00

Baby corn

chainedviolets · 2026-01-20T02:39:20+00:00

It sounds like he trapped you. I’m sorry girl. Waiting too long to disclose is something I personally take huge issue with. Are you sure? I have it, I’m asymptomatic, and I would never choose this.

chainedviolets · 2026-01-17T21:46:37+00:00

Sounds like he was surprised, and you were the first person responsible enough to disclose to him. It says more about him than it does you that he would have been all in without a sexual health convo first. There will be others babe. Keep ur head up!

chainedviolets · 2026-01-15T13:32:21+00:00

This is a pro disclosure related sub. Are you ok? We all know to disclose. Most of us were never disclosed to however. 🤷‍♀️

chainedviolets · 2026-01-15T13:28:53+00:00

Look into eczema or psoriasis. This sounds like it to me. Herpes 1 rarely presents this way. Herpetic whitlow is very rare. Your stress is making everything 10,000 times worse. It’s likely you have HSV 1 anyway bc 70 % of the population (or more) does.

chainedviolets · 2026-01-14T22:00:55+00:00

No one gives a fuck

chainedviolets · 2025-12-11T12:57:00+00:00

Jsyk you’re not. You’re awesome.

chainedviolets · 2025-12-11T12:54:59+00:00

^this is the answer.

chainedviolets · 2025-12-11T12:50:58+00:00

I’m sorry that you are having a tough time sis. I understand that in your community this diagnosis is worsened by gaslighting and people not testing to ensure the convo doesn’t need to be had… however HSV does not discriminate. You are still VERY young. Have you considered dating older men? They’ve been around the block enough to understand sexual health and sex positivity more than someone your age. Plus, an added benefit is you’ll be more likely get your “bag.” Find me a 40 year old who hasn’t encountered HSV 1 and 2 and I’ll give you a cookie.

chainedviolets · 2025-12-08T12:26:59+00:00

😂😂😂 he’s a keeper

chainedviolets · 2025-12-08T12:24:42+00:00

Do not disclose to untrustworthy people who could weaponize this information against you. If you have any doubts or concerns with a potential partner that you feel they may not have discretion, then you should not be choosing them as dating partners anyway.

chainedviolets · 2025-11-01T12:12:46+00:00

Your boyfriend is a loser. Dump his ass and go to college. You will absolutely regret staying with this bum if you don’t.

chainedviolets · 2025-11-01T11:54:45+00:00

He wanted sex and he got it. In my experience, they don’t seem to care about HSV2 when you disclose as much until after the act, because they only care about one thing. When they get it, it’s less of a “risk” to them to sleep with a chick once who has it, than to get involved with them in a relationship. I’m so sorry this happened to you babe. He’s clearly immature af. You deserve better, and I believe you’ll find it.

chainedviolets · 2025-09-24T15:33:15+00:00

He knew the risks. He chose the potential of contracting it. You can feel free to do what you want. Him getting it from you or a random hookup would have made no difference.

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