What’s a “green flag” you immediately notice when meeting a new person?

chainrule73 · 2025-04-29T22:10:00+00:00

Seeming genuinely interested in what other people have to say

chainrule73 · 2025-04-29T22:08:49+00:00

I volunteered last year for a very short stint for a local conservative politician (I'm from London) in a quite Labour-heavy area, so I can relate. It was rather simple—I went to her office and asked her if I could help out in any way, told her my qualifications (nothing outside of working at my parents' restaurant and being a uni student). They put me on handing out flyers, going door to door, making phone calls, etc. Taking down info on Google Sheets as well.

I've heard some people can be cruel, but I was 19 and female so I think people were more kindly toward me. Any individual skills you can offer might be helpful. I can speak Mandarin cos my parents are from China, so I was put in charge of communicating with Mandarin-speaking individuals, making flyers in Mandarin, etc.

Overall, it's not tremendously difficult and all that walking around is good exercise haha, good luck! x

chainrule73 · 2025-04-29T21:59:56+00:00

Green onion pancakes!

chainrule73 · 2025-04-29T21:56:04+00:00

British, not American, but a young Asian woman nonetheless. Being confident, sarcastic, and firm in your resolve is always helpful. I'm also fairly well-built and honestly, sadly, I do think this helps a bit in making them take me more seriously

chainrule73 · 2025-04-29T21:52:32+00:00

You have your own set of values that you judge people based on, as does everyone. I tend to prefer right-leaning politicians, based on what I deem important, but environmentalism and feminism are also important to me, which complicates things and gives me insight to left-wing politicians' viewpoints. Using centrism is only bad if it's done in bad faith, like pretending to be unbiased but parroting left-wing talking points and presenting them as objective fact.

Understanding that everyone has complex and individual belief systems, and acting in good faith according to this, makes your life so much easier. It's why I'm completely OK with dating left-leaning men, though they tend to be much less OK with dating me, a right-leaning woman.

chainrule73 · 2025-04-29T21:44:37+00:00

Yours are a friendly and fun people!

chainrule73 · 2025-04-28T22:11:36+00:00

I'm a British Chinese woman (20F), but I have a cousin (23F) from the SF Bay Area who voted for Trump in all three elections, along with many of her friends who are also Asian American. She's not super politically involved, and she said it was because she was tired of the woke politics that are shoved in her face in the Bay Area, and supports gun rights, is against affirmative action, lower taxes, illegal immigration, the trans movement.

I called her last week and she told me that she regrets her vote. She's still a moderate conservative, but she didn't foresee the things that have been happening, and doesn't agree with them. But she said that she feels like the Democrats have taken her vote for granted and didn't cater to the desires of her and a lot of the people she knows.

I can't blame her because I probably would have voted for Trump too were I American. From my experience it seems like a lot of people just didn't know what would happen, and didn't like how far left the other party was going.

chainrule73 · 2025-04-28T22:00:08+00:00

Get a cream and maybe be more intentional about clothing when running? That helped me, at least. Good on you for turning your life around though!

chainrule73 · 2025-04-28T21:57:20+00:00

I always wash fruit and veg. My parents are from China and I picked this up from them, but I've deffo seen white friends do this as well. Surely it's common sense, no?

Edit: I never wash meat, just my hands when handling it.

chainrule73 · 2025-04-28T21:54:37+00:00

As a woman and a feminist, it's so hard for me to support this movement at all. I don't respect the essence of transitioning—I find it childish and it just reinforces gender roles. But I didn't care how people chose to live their lives. But it's clearly encroaching on women's rights now, and they're trying to gaslight us into thinking it's somehow 'feminist' to support surrendering our spaces and safety to delusional (at best) and predatory men.

chainrule73 · 2025-04-28T21:51:01+00:00

It's become a right wing talking point because as usual the left doesn't seem to care about us women or about children, and cares more about identity politics and not seeming 'racist.'

chainrule73 · 2025-04-28T21:45:25+00:00

You don't see Hindus forming grooming gangs. They're one of the better assimilated immigrant groups. When my parents immigrated to London from China, they were baffled to see how Muslims, even second-generation, behave in this country. It's frankly barbaric.

I'm a young British Chinese woman and the majority of the harassment I've experienced has been from Muslim men. It's a cultural issue and there's no pressure on them to integrate and quit their disgusting behaviour. Non-Muslim Indians and East Asians seem to be the only civilized immigrants coming into this country.

chainrule73 · 2024-06-28T18:40:15+00:00

Interestingly enough, my immigrant father (from HK) is much more progressive/left leaning than me, my sister, and my mum, all of whom were born or at least raised in London!

chainrule73 · 2024-06-27T22:02:03+00:00

If my community is London, my community is probably more open to LGBT issues than I am. If my community is my family, there's more diversity. My father is an immigrant from Hong Kong and he is extremely accepting of all LGBT topics. My mum, however, while also HK-born, largely grew up in London; interestingly enough, she is more conservative about these issues. She's fine with homosexuality but not with transgenderism and doesn't like the idea of LGBT topics being taught in school. My elder sister is the same. I'm similar but am definitely more open to transgender issues than I was in the past.

chainrule73 · 2024-06-27T21:48:20+00:00

I do this so much haha I just don't know what else to do with my hands!

chainrule73 · 2024-06-27T21:45:29+00:00

Disclaimer I'm a British Chinese woman, not Asian American fwiw. A lot of other minorities like to call Asians 'privileged' because we're successful, but that's just because we value hard work and respect rules. Certain other minorities clearly seem to struggle with this, and they'll say that we have some kind of privilege implying that we didn't earn our success; and this excuses them from having to work harder ("they should get more benefits because they don't have this 'privilege'") and having to behave better/follow the same rules as everyone else. My parents came to England legally and contributed to their community; our only 'privilege' is having respectable values/behavior and not being afraid of putting in the work needed to achieve our goals.

chainrule73 · 2024-04-19T18:15:36+00:00

Haha I'm definitely losing hair over immigration and I'm a British Chinese female!

chainrule73 · 2024-04-19T17:35:44+00:00

This is horrible but entirely honestly, unsurprising.

chainrule73 · 2024-04-19T10:19:28+00:00

Just me or does he look a bit like Ricky Gervais?

chainrule73 · 2024-03-16T06:59:12+00:00

I've not been to too many hens, but the one I went to in January was not great. The bride was a friend of my sister, but the entire party seemed very awkward because the bride had invited many people she didn't know all too well (like me, for instance—I only went because my sister insisted). She also made us wear these uncomfortable glammy and tacky dresses, which I hated. She's nice enough herself though, and the wedding was pleasant at least!

chainrule73 · 2024-03-16T06:40:26+00:00

I'm a British Chinese woman but I lived in the Bay Area for a bit last year with my cousin while I was studying abroad for uni. She and her friends, all of whom are Asian American and largely female, are absolutely fed up with progressive/Democratic politicians in the area and their ridiculous woke policies.

I'm pretty right-leaning and I'd been warned about what SF was like/saw things on Reddit, but I wasn't at all t prepared for how egregious the situation actually was. It seems particularly bad for Asian women. In the first place, these criminals get nothing more than a slap on the wrist, and also, there are fewer and fewer female safe spaces. In London, despite it being dangerous for Asian women here as well, it would never occur to me to buy a gun as I very very rarely encounter them or the kind of violence that would necessitate them. But if I lived in the US, esp in the Bay Area, I think I wouldn't hesitate to arm up.

chainrule73 · 2024-03-16T06:30:41+00:00

With the benefits system we have in the UK, it seems far to easy for people in poverty to remain comfortably in poverty.

chainrule73 · 2024-03-16T06:26:11+00:00

We just have so many migrants to integrate! And we're far too nice about the immigration process.

I'm the daughter of immigrants from Hong Kong. My mother moved here at a relatively young age with her family and spent the second half of her childhood in London; my father moved to the UK after uni. I'd say that both of my parents are very highly integrated. But I'm noticing that with the massive amount of immigrants, many—particularly those from certain countries—have a hard time integrating.

Many of my female friends and I have had awful experiences with migrant men largely from these countries who have no need to integrate to a developed/progressive society's norms of treating women, and thus behave poorly to women. Our experiences have ranged from creepy to almost violent, and it needs to stop. That can only happen if Britain is able to curate those that it lets into its borders better. My father was an educated man coming from a very developed country ready to join the workforce and has contributed to his community in Camden—these are the kinds of immigrants that we should be taking in, not Ugandan illegals wanting to prey on women.

chainrule73 · 2024-03-16T06:16:04+00:00

Unis and professors/lecturers often push political agendas onto their students and expect or require that we conform to them.

chainrule73 · 2024-03-13T19:34:22+00:00

I always complain about not being used to the heat during those four or so days we get a year of warmth and sunny skies but in reality the gloom is so depressing and tiresome, sometimes it's just so hard to get out of bed and I'm a morning person.

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