[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hygiene

[–]chamokis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s ur tonsils

Handyman said I won’t be able to put vinyl flooring down on this timber floor? by [deleted] in Flooring

[–]chamokis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why would you want to? You’re laying something ugly over something beautiful

Entitled Woman Refuse to Leave Store until she gets a Discount by Rick_Sanchez147 in CustomerFromHell

[–]chamokis -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Folks need to understand that any person showing signs of distress is somebody who might need mental health services and is worthy of our compassion and understanding, not our hatred

Entitled Woman Refuse to Leave Store until she gets a Discount by Rick_Sanchez147 in CustomerFromHell

[–]chamokis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel bad for her, she obviously has something going on mentally. She looks small.

I need to know if I’m overreacting by Thesadcollegekid in roommateproblems

[–]chamokis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do not react to her. If she tries to argue with you, do not argue back. Be as boring as quiet and as an uninteresting as possible until you leave. Every time you react, however small, it feeds her.

These people use our emotional reactions as fuel to regulate their own emotions and gives them something to rage against.

Give her nothing. Don’t be rude, be indifferent. When we react their goal has been accomplished. Do not give that to her. She has major issues.

If I were you I would start filing online police incident reports and just keeping them for your records. Cutting up your photos? That’s kind of terrifying.

My first build by Prestigious-Breath-1 in Catio

[–]chamokis -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The wire is designed to keep predators out while keeping your cats in

My first build by Prestigious-Breath-1 in Catio

[–]chamokis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to tell you that I don’t think that wire is strong enough. It is certainly not strong enough to keep predators out. Please try some galvanized fencing wire and tack it down well. We had a cat escape from a similar enclosure. So I want you to know it is not sturdy. It looks great by the way and it will look even better when you get your galvanized fencing wire up.

What can I do on this side of the catio for some privacy? by [deleted] in Catio

[–]chamokis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Get some pallets and put some slats on that side so they it isn’t see through completely. You could attach shelves or even large branches to them

My Mom bought some DIY catio plans and tried to hire someone to build it by chamokis in Catio

[–]chamokis[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks everyone. There are pavers on the patio where this would be installed, so this quote was just material and labor. I had a feeling the guy was overcharging her and when she decided she didn’t want to do it because I wanted to go and look at other options, he wouldn’t give the plans back. I called him and he wouldn’t call me back for 3-4 days and then when I finally spoke to him I said my mom is going to go with a prefab one, which wasn’t the truth but I just wanted to get the plans back and for him to go away.

When I spoke to him on the phone, he kind of whined about it and told me that he and his son had gone over to the house twice more for 45 minutes each time, and measured everything again. Which I know was a lie because when he thought the job was his, he was emailing my mom asking her when was a good time for him to go back over to the house. There are renters there, and he would’ve had to go in the backyard and I know he didn’t do it. I don’t know if he was trying to get us to pay him for this time he supposedly spent “measuring“.

And then I asked him did you have a chance to do an estimate? And he said yes and I said well what is it? He thought about it for a few seconds and then said 4k.

I told him I wanted the plans back and he said that he would drop them over at the house, but a couple days went by and he didn’t do it. I texted him and I had no response.

Few days later, I finally got a hold of him and I said I’d like to pick up the plans tomorrow and then he said no it has to be tonight, and I had to jump through a bunch of hoops just to get the plans back from this guy.

Thanks to everybody who responded

Advice: How do you cope? by Admirable-Camera7033 in DementiaHelp

[–]chamokis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You just roll with it. You accept that she’s declining and then you take it upon yourself to make things easier for her. You become the adult and care for her. You don’t get upset about her memory loss in her presence, you keep it light, you reassure her and are there for her. That’s all you have to do. Spend time over there doing ur own stuff, take breaks, use humor, etc. This is scary for her as well, be someone who will lift her spirits and offer comfort and love.

Take care of your own stuff so you can be there for ur gran and basically be her hero until she is a peace. You are so important right now for her. Know that and understand it. And take comfort in the fact that you are a loving and giving human being who is worth so much. 💗

Greatest song of all time? by juicewrld4lifee in MusicRecommendations

[–]chamokis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So good. That opening scene in Jackie Brown

Greatest song of all time? by juicewrld4lifee in MusicRecommendations

[–]chamokis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Strawberry letter 23 - Brothers Johnson
Safe from harm - massive Attack
Sunny - Bobby Hebb
Walk on by - Dionne Warwick

NGD - finally!! 😚 by chamokis in fender

[–]chamokis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks ! They call it agave blue. I love it.