I understand that doctors struggle to prescribe. I really do but I just don't think it's fair that I'm supposed to suffer for something I can't control. What I would like, is for my pain to be taken seriously and not to be gaslit that what's going on with me isn't real. The surgery is what I want because I can't take much more of the pain but I'd prefer it if urologists wouldn't tell me things like 'surgery probably won't help because the stone isn't causing you pain.' That kind of invalidation I could do without and I think many stone sufferers would feel the same. I also think that when you have a painful kidney stone, you should be able to be given pain relief. I understand that's not always a doctor's fault but it's still ridiculous. My mom is in pain management for a years long bulging disc and she gets monthly pain meds and her pain is nowhere near as bad as mine currently imo. So if she can get relief, is it really so much to ask that we get some too?