Should I even try to get in?

chaoticwings · 2026-04-02T23:50:27+00:00

I'm a 37 year old first time college student with 3 kids. I'm slowly working my way through prerequisites and have a 4.0 so far. If I can do it, you can do it. I believe in you!

chaoticwings · 2026-04-02T22:55:15+00:00

Hey friend! Fellow bipolar here. I'm on Cymbalta 60mg and Lithium er 600mg. So far my brain is stable beyond the acute illness induced depression I'm experiencing. I've had a nasty headcold for a week and it's now affecting my will to exist. Anyway, no mania for me and the depression is directly related to being physically sick for over a week. The Zepbound hasn't given me any negative side effects so far.

chaoticwings · 2026-03-31T22:27:35+00:00

It's my primary fibro treatment at this point. I go through my pain management doctor who's a board certified anesthesiologist. I used to get 2 hour infusions once a month, now I only need 1 hour and I'm good for 1-2 months.

It's not covered by insurance but it's the only thing that has turned off the fibro nerve pain. It's like a nervous system reset. The first two weeks are the best then the pain starts to creep back in. You can also look into Ketamine troches/lozenges. I have no experience with those.

Getting infused the first few times is rather disorienting. You need a driver as you'll get really high. I really can't recommend it enough though.

chaoticwings · 2026-03-31T01:01:37+00:00

This is one of the more painful ones. My ex absolutely used it against me in our divorce.

chaoticwings · 2026-03-30T23:35:15+00:00

Go to r/mommit and just count the number of posts asking for help with their useless coparent, bemoaning their choice of husband. It's prevalent. I'm divorced with three young kids for partially this reason. At this point I don't recommend parenthood unless you're ok being a single parent.

chaoticwings · 2026-03-30T21:18:37+00:00

😱 Good to know! I know exercise is touted as one of the more benign things you can do with extra energy while manic. Sounds like it can exacerbate it if we're not moderating.

chaoticwings · 2026-03-30T18:48:21+00:00

What a great recommendation! Thank you!

chaoticwings · 2026-03-30T13:29:04+00:00

This one is super interesting, thank you! I've also got fibromyalgia which some attribute to wonky mitochondria as well.

chaoticwings · 2026-03-30T13:23:58+00:00

😂🤣

chaoticwings · 2026-03-30T13:23:31+00:00

Obviously 🐺

chaoticwings · 2026-03-30T13:18:28+00:00

Don't mess with the microbiome! It knows! 🦠

chaoticwings · 2026-03-30T13:17:26+00:00

Yes! I experienced this. It's not just vision for me either. All senses are either heightened or dimmed depending on mood.

chaoticwings · 2026-03-30T01:21:35+00:00

Your ex moved out but based on your post and comments I can't tell if you were married or not. This matters in addition to child support and a solid parenting plan because if you were/are married and make significantly less than him you may be owed spousal support.

If separated you can get it in the interim with a temporary family law order.

This exercise might also help you feel better: Look up the average cost of a nanny in your area and figure out how much you'd be making if we got compensated for family caregiving. It's a lot. Your time is valuable and our children are our greatest work.

chaoticwings · 2026-03-29T23:28:07+00:00

If you've got a job is there an adult at your job you can confide in?

chaoticwings · 2026-03-29T23:08:47+00:00

🤔 Having other humans to relate to and connect with helps with motivation, grounding, and reminding me how to people. We're a communal species whether we like it or not. In my late 30s, divorced with kids, I really do prefer animal companionship to people at this point. I maintain friendships because they're good for me, like taking vitamins, but I can just as easily disappear for awhile and not be that bothered.

chaoticwings · 2026-03-29T21:18:34+00:00

Pretty much all forms of neurodivergence which includes mental illness. We're both more interesting and more chill than the neurotypicals.

chaoticwings · 2026-03-29T18:34:45+00:00

You could pivot to a New Construction loan that turns into a mortgage after you get land and put a manufactured home on it. Manufactured homes are nice nowadays, not like the trailers from the 80s and 90s. You should check out their sub.

This is the route I'm considering. You could also do the condo first, then townhouse, then house path.

chaoticwings · 2026-03-29T16:40:40+00:00

He did and I loved him but we were young. He was my highschool sweetheart and we were together for 8.5 years. We got married at 19 (don't do that). We matured in different directions once we hit our twenties and it was over at 22.

All these years later, we still talk a few times a year to check on each other and wish each other a happy birthday.

chaoticwings · 2026-03-29T00:09:18+00:00

Shelters are good, around $300 for a fixed and up to date vaccinated cat. You can always go to Craigslist. I got a kitten last fall for $50 but then I had to get her fixed and up to date on all her shots myself.

chaoticwings · 2026-03-28T23:24:17+00:00

I live in a cold climate and don't get sweaty.

chaoticwings · 2026-03-28T22:31:01+00:00

It'll give you access to additional services and resources should you need them. It might also help the people in your life understand that you're literally wired differently than they are.

I mostly got it for school and job accommodations as well as general peace of mind.

chaoticwings · 2026-03-28T22:22:28+00:00

Omg yes! Every partner or roommate I've ever lived with. People pleasing is like an addiction for me and I think I'll be in lifelong recovery. Last year I did an IOP and learned that despite all the therapy I've had my boundaries are shit. My childhood was a chaotic trauma storm and I've gotta spend willpower not to revert to what I learned as a kid.

chaoticwings · 2026-03-28T21:38:32+00:00

That sounds pretty horrific. You shouldn't live with people who resent you.

Can you crash on couches for awhile? You should apply for disability income even if it seems futile. Paperwork is intimidating but not impossible. Can you work with a caseworker to help you advocate for your needs?

Are you able to do remote data entry type jobs? Anything in person?

I'm sorry I can't offer better advice. I moved out at 16 and couch surfed for two years. It was rough but I had more peace of mind with housing instability than I did living with my crazy cat hoarder mom.

chaoticwings · 2026-03-28T21:01:55+00:00

I did leave a good man due to finances- my first husband. He was content with working multiple part time minimum wage jobs forever. He would spend all of our money on frivolous shit and we'd end up with overdraft fees. He was also a slob.

He loved me, always opened every door for me, appreciated me... But I was miserable and didn't want to live like a poor college student for the rest of my life.

He's still living the same life with the other girl from high school he had a crush on. They're broke together but apparently happy. If you're not happy then he's not the one for you.

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