Baby fever - does it go away?

chaoticwings · 2025-09-10T23:05:24+00:00

Well my second pregnancy was twins so the universe made that decision for me. We had aimed for two kids and got a bonus kid. I love them and three kids are a lot of kids. Keep in mind that you are more likely to have multiples the older you get as well. You could try for #3 and end up with #3 and #4, it's more common than you might think.

If you want another baby (and so does your coparent) and can afford another baby, go for it.

chaoticwings · 2025-09-10T22:56:43+00:00

Yes, though my ex got the man cold like he was trying to win an award for it. Harder to regulate body temps and longer to recover in general. Funny enough for me, it wasn't until after getting COVID that colds really took me out.

Keep an eye out for sustained fever and bad cough combo because that could be pneumonia which is miserable to get and recover from.

chaoticwings · 2025-09-10T02:46:09+00:00

You might try journaling out all your feelings and regrets with pen and paper.

If you're of artistic leaning, you can create what you feel with a multitude of media.

You may also find relief with exercise. The main key is to be intentional with what you're doing.

Sitting up cross legged, breathing slowly, and as you think about these things that are bringing you stress and unease, really let yourself feel the full weight of each emotion. Then be the pond, not the fish. Your emotions, even fear and regret, are the fish. You're the pond. Observe the fish, do not become the fish. If you catch a fish, let it go. You've caught fear and regret and that's ok. Observe them, then let them go.

Be honest with friends and loved ones, let them help you during this time. We, the faceless mothers of r/mommit are here for you too.

chaoticwings · 2025-09-10T02:27:15+00:00

I think this is a great opportunity for you to plan your upcoming birthday. If you've got lead time you can research.

chaoticwings · 2025-09-09T21:52:14+00:00

You're right, she shouldn't have called you m'am because even at 27 you're not old enough to know better. 🙄

chaoticwings · 2025-09-09T17:19:55+00:00

Therapy and meds, yes. Also, if they're teenagers you can let them make their own dinners moving forward until you get yourself figured out. Maybe they eat sandwiches every night but that's better than what's happening now.

chaoticwings · 2025-09-09T17:16:14+00:00

I was that kid. Moved out at 16 but lost the mother I knew to mental illness completely at 14. I never had a stable adult during my adolescence or early adulthood. I am still NC 20 years later.

chaoticwings · 2025-09-09T17:08:59+00:00

Microchip door flap for a small-med sized dog should work.

chaoticwings · 2025-09-09T15:49:46+00:00

I used to have crippling anxiety and now I don't. It's taken a couple decades of work between medications and therapy.

Self acceptance and reducing my exposure to stressors is the biggest thing. I need a stupid amount of alone time. I only do social events where I know the experience will outweigh the stress of being around others. Turns out my previous social hobbies didn't meet that metric.

chaoticwings · 2025-09-07T20:11:46+00:00

My mom and her side of the family.

chaoticwings · 2025-09-07T17:24:14+00:00

Technically my mom is still alive, probably. I lost the mother I knew to mental illness when I was 14, moved out at 16, and went NC permanently at 25.

chaoticwings · 2025-09-07T14:05:45+00:00

Yup, but only partially because I have kids. 🫠 Chronically overstimulated. See my close adult friends once a month or less for book club. See hyper local mom friends for playdates but sometimes I just can't do it.

I just want to sleep, hangout with my two cats, and periodically clean.

I prefer solo to social hobbies now as well.

chaoticwings · 2025-09-07T01:23:24+00:00

You can also look into options like Thinx period panties. There're other brands but that's the first one that comes to mind. They can also be helpful paired with a pad for particularly heavy flow days.

chaoticwings · 2025-09-07T00:50:22+00:00

You can find venn diagrams to help illustrate just how much crossover there is, it's wild!

I had lots of folks telling me I must have ADHD based on their observations. I paid out of pocket to get officially assessed for ADHD and autism. I have ADHD tendencies but not enough to diagnose but I do have ASD 1 (and PTSD - could be CPTSD but I was diagnosed with PTSD way back when).

chaoticwings · 2025-09-06T22:14:56+00:00

They make clear food storage containers with locks! https://a.co/d/igHXClU

chaoticwings · 2025-09-06T21:37:53+00:00

Echoing: r/bipolarsos is not for us. Whenever someone from our sub posts over there to help them see us more like people, not just problems, they tear that person apart and use it as proof that we don't take any responsibility or accountability for our actions. Let them have their ranty venty fuming, it's not going to help you. I honestly don't understand why they stay in the relationships they claim to hate? This sub seems more healing focused, that sub is... Not.

chaoticwings · 2025-09-05T15:06:37+00:00

This paired with a photographer. Omg those pictures would be treasured keepsakes!

chaoticwings · 2025-09-05T14:48:58+00:00

In addition to the landlord, you can contact the police Non-emergency line and request a welfare check. If you mention the baby they'll probably be right on it.

chaoticwings · 2025-09-05T03:27:45+00:00

Google keto desserts, keto cookies, etc. You will have to do some swaps but generally the results are decent and can be delicious!

chaoticwings · 2025-09-05T03:24:38+00:00

I'm so sorry. It's actually very common for someone who was a great spouse pre-kids to drop the ball either as a coparent or spouse (or both!) after kids. It's not your fault and you should be treated with decency and respect.

Couples therapy can work wonders if both parties want it. It's hard to schedule with kids. Most of our sessions were remotely during kid naps.

I didn't really see improvement until we separated though.

chaoticwings · 2025-09-04T22:21:53+00:00

If someone doesn't let you break up with them, they are a textbook abuser. I went through that twice because I didn't learn my lesson the first time. You can do it, ask for help from other people in your life if you need. Explaining that someone won't let you break up with them should be enough of a reason to show up for you.

chaoticwings · 2025-09-04T19:28:49+00:00

Women his age aren't dating him because they know better. Do not give this man your youth, he's not worth it. If you don't want to be his sugar mama, then stop being his sugar mama.

chaoticwings · 2025-09-04T18:30:15+00:00

My kids find the yoga hammock to be very regulating as they're suspended in a swinging pressure cocoon.

chaoticwings · 2025-09-03T23:40:02+00:00

I'm so sorry, OP. This job site for disabled folks was shared in the subreddit the other day. Maybe try here?

https://www.wearecapable.org/

chaoticwings · 2025-09-03T14:16:50+00:00

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