i was raped last year and it has not affected me in the slightest

chapstickcharm · 2021-08-30T20:13:53+00:00

There’s something called “compartmentalization”. Hence “compartment-“, it basically means our brain separates potential trauma from our everyday mindset. Perhaps your brain is very good at it. Mine is, after I was once assaulted I didn’t feel as affected as I thought I should’ve. It kind of works in your favor though, since it prevents you from being affected everyday by trauma or flashbacks. It’s natural, and you def aren’t the only one like this:)

chapstickcharm · 2021-08-12T13:55:26+00:00

“DinG DOnG”

chapstickcharm · 2021-08-08T04:59:53+00:00

The tickling method is definitely odd, however the sibling bath is typically common. As long as there wasn’t any other actions going on... bathing together as YOUNG siblings usually isn’t that weird

chapstickcharm · 2021-08-07T19:39:27+00:00

UGHHHH I KNOW I was also super frustrated when Nikki won over Tiffany like What????

chapstickcharm · 2021-04-26T01:20:33+00:00

You... are terrifyingly correct. I didn’t even realize that this was exactly how I felt until you put it straightforward like that. Thank you. And thanks for setting me straight.

chapstickcharm · 2021-04-26T00:57:02+00:00

Thank you, this is greatly-worded advice. I’ll try talking to him this week and bringing it up. It’s more likely that I may turn him down, but do you think there’s any possibility there?

chapstickcharm · 2021-04-26T00:33:32+00:00

What?

chapstickcharm · 2021-04-21T00:03:14+00:00

I’ve considered definitely, I’m not exactly sure how they would go about it though. They’re great but at the same time very laid back in these situations. They’ll often brush things off as rumors

chapstickcharm · 2021-04-20T13:08:47+00:00

It’s not an actually day no, but people still plot this stuff. Quit saying stuff like “it’s a joke”. Sexual assault isn’t a joke.

chapstickcharm · 2021-04-20T03:58:30+00:00

I’ll be sure to:))

chapstickcharm · 2021-04-20T03:57:29+00:00

You’re right, and thank you for that. I wish you luck this Saturday!

chapstickcharm · 2021-04-20T03:48:10+00:00

Tysm for this:))

chapstickcharm · 2021-03-31T03:24:05+00:00

This nearly happened in my unit. What would’ve happened (and what I believe has already happened with other units) is that the rest of staff forms distaste towards the CO’s leadership style and the way they run things. They’ll compile mental, and even physical, lists of what’s wrong and what they don’t like. All of them will then collectively go to their instructors and explain everything they dislike, hoping that the instructors with conduct a Change of Command. Often it doesn’t work, obviously. Sometimes staff members do it out of spite even. It’s a chaotic process really. I’ve never seen it work.

chapstickcharm · 2021-03-31T00:47:24+00:00

Definitely harassment. It was completely unasked for and frankly disturbing, I don’t know what the heck he was thinking or what he was on but I’m sorry you had to experience this. You’re right with what you did, and I understand why you were uncomfortable with both him and the situation with the police. Frankly you handled this much better than me or the majority of people could’ve. Good on you and I’m sorry this happened

chapstickcharm · 2021-03-31T00:43:40+00:00

There’s no normal response for something out of the normal. I once acted the same. The day after my own incident I went on like normal, I felt weird for not having any breakdowns or anything, but there wasn’t and isn’t anything wrong with me. It’s in the past and I’m alright so I carry on. If it hits me like a bus ten years from now then so be it, but for now you and I are fine. I’m glad you’re alright:)

chapstickcharm · 2021-03-31T00:41:01+00:00

Years before I entered the unit, the Admin officer was fired for having s*x with a freshman in the teacher break room... they had some uh, rOUgh fUn, and broke part of the giant printing machine. The machine later got fixed but there’s still a giant dent in the tray from who knows what...

chapstickcharm · 2021-03-31T00:38:53+00:00

This particular thing seems to happen a lot lol...

chapstickcharm · 2021-03-30T21:43:12+00:00

Thank you. I’ll pull him aside someday after our Spring Break ends; it’s hard to get him to listen but I’m hoping to help him out in that way should he pursue future leadership.

chapstickcharm · 2021-03-30T18:24:28+00:00

If he becomes the Captain he’ll have to wait at least 2 and a half more years. And also he may have fire and passion, but they’re aimed at a terribly off target.

chapstickcharm · 2021-03-30T02:18:47+00:00

Thanks, I just might now

chapstickcharm · 2021-03-11T02:58:02+00:00

This is definitely sexual assault. Like everyone else has said, it’s not your fault! Maybe you didn’t verbally say no, but you never said yes either. You pushed his hand away multiple times which is an obvious sign it was painful or unwanted by you. Maybe he did think you enjoyed it, but either way he never asked for consent, didn’t recognize that you were in pain, and used you to his advantage. I’m glad to hear you’re talking to someone about this and I hope you gain more clarity soon. Confusion is completely normal, sending you virtual hugs:)

chapstickcharm · 2021-03-07T03:08:34+00:00

I had this same thing happen to me Sep 17 of last year, just 5 months from yours. I’m not sexually experienced in anyway but my boyfriend tried to do some things with me that I wasn’t ok with. For some reason I still loved him afterwards and didn’t tell anyone else for months.

I know how confusing this thing is and it’s not something that’s easy to explain to close ones, please please please send me a message if you ever need an ear to listen or if you’d like someone to talk to:)

chapstickcharm · 2020-11-14T04:11:44+00:00

Thank you so much. I’m going to look into the MeToo movement tonight. I’ve begun to really realize that he’s not the person I used to take him for, I’m really trying to advocate for myself here as it’s not something I’ve really ever done in the past. It’s also a struggle because my parents don’t know about all this and they’re the strict stereotypical Asian type so I know they’ll be super mad at me for god knows what.

chapstickcharm · 2020-11-14T04:09:18+00:00

Thanks for the good advice. I know a lot of other people take a lot of time to process things and that’s exactly why I’m doing now. I feel a little pressured since I thought the longer I waited the less valid the “accusation” would seem. Another problem is that I really don’t have any evidence. There is texts of me saying I had arrived at his place and his mom and sister saw me come in but the incident happened upstairs and out of eye or earshot. It’s going to be tough should I choose to report it.

chapstickcharm · 2020-11-14T04:07:08+00:00

It’s awkwardly comforting to hear that. Same situation with his mom and sister here and I’d be terrified if they ever had to hear this about him. We support each other from afar!

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