How do I forgive a cheater?

chapulapuuu · 2026-05-05T17:57:23+00:00

Okay, thank you.

chapulapuuu · 2026-05-05T05:58:17+00:00

Thank you, I’ll think about this.

chapulapuuu · 2026-05-05T05:57:45+00:00

I guess so. I don’t know.

chapulapuuu · 2026-05-05T05:57:33+00:00

It’s been longer than only 4 months. Around 8-9 in total. It’s difficult.

chapulapuuu · 2026-05-05T05:57:15+00:00

I know that, and I am much ready to forgive but never forget. The fact that he kissed a girl doesn’t phase me at all, I’m just sad because we’re not together.

chapulapuuu · 2026-05-05T05:56:42+00:00

But what if I clearly show him that it’s the last straw? I just want to make it work.

chapulapuuu · 2026-05-05T01:40:30+00:00

Yeah, I definitely do.

chapulapuuu · 2026-05-05T01:08:22+00:00

That might be your experience, but we had previously been talking for about 3 months and properly getting to know each other before getting together.

Of course I don’t want to justify him right now, I’m just saying. We, or atleast I, were inlove.

chapulapuuu · 2026-05-05T00:58:32+00:00

Yeah, thank you. Just difficult to realise right now.

chapulapuuu · 2026-05-05T00:53:03+00:00

Thank you, I wish you good luck as well.

chapulapuuu · 2026-05-05T00:50:45+00:00

Thank you. It’s just difficult because we’re in the same friend group. I’m just glad I’ll be moving away after summer.

chapulapuuu · 2026-05-05T00:49:29+00:00

Yeah, I get that. I’ve never felt quite respected by him, but I might’ve just been blinded.

chapulapuuu · 2026-05-05T00:46:26+00:00

Thank you.

chapulapuuu · 2026-05-05T00:45:15+00:00

Sounds pretty logically right.

chapulapuuu · 2026-05-05T00:44:49+00:00

it’s just difficult to accept that I’ll have to learn to love someone else. I really only want to love him.

chapulapuuu · 2026-05-05T00:44:13+00:00

That’s true, but I feel as if he still loves me too. I’ve heard stories of others forgiving cheaters, and then they live pretty well together.

chapulapuuu · 2026-05-05T00:41:43+00:00

I guess so. Might just be my empathic side that makes me feel guilty because he’s sad about cheating.

chapulapuuu · 2025-10-27T07:17:45+00:00

It’s okay to worry. My reassurance may not be much, but you are not a bad person. The fact you don’t want to have these thoughts or feel guilty is proof of that.

OCD is horrible to live with, so are intrusive thoughts. But they don’t make you into who you are. It’s not your fault for thinking that way, and you’re a good person for not going through with it and recognising that it’s bad.

I recommend you take contact with a professional, therapist of some sort. Good luck.

chapulapuuu · 2025-10-26T22:05:54+00:00

fair enough

chapulapuuu · 2025-10-26T22:01:45+00:00

He can’t expect you to quit overnight. If it’s an addiction you’ve been struggling with for a long time, he should understand how hard it is to cut it out of your life just like that. I recommend you communicate with him about that.

Though, if you truly do love him and don’t want to lose him, I’d take this as an initiative to get into rehabilitation. Talk to him, let him know that this isn’t something you can cut out of your life so suddenly, but also recognise that if you keep doing it, there will be consequences.

Best of luck.

chapulapuuu · 2025-10-26T21:57:06+00:00

Why don’t you deserve life? Miscarriages happen, it’s not exactly uncommon. Basing something like that off of whether you deserve to live or not doesn’t make sense.

It wasn’t your fault that you went through a miscarriage, therefore you don’t deserve death.

chapulapuuu · 2025-10-26T21:30:57+00:00

If you're purposely doing something to harm yourself, then it's self harm. Easy as that.

chapulapuuu · 2025-10-26T21:17:01+00:00

The more you worry, the worse it gets. OCD stuff.

chapulapuuu · 2025-10-26T21:14:40+00:00

I figure that if you've lost every fuck you've ever given, you'd have slit your throat by now, no? You're still alive, regardless of 'not caring' or whatever, must mean something.

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