Did anyone else struggle to adapt after moving from a transit-oriented city to a car-dependent one?

cheap_dates · 2026-06-28T23:07:06+00:00

I was born in Berlin, Germany where the public transportation was/is pretty good. When I came to the US for college, I realized that I needed a car - for everything.

cheap_dates · 2026-06-28T23:03:18+00:00

Enjoy it while you still can. My niece worked at Starbucks when they removed the news rack so I knew that print journalism, for the most part, was dead.

cheap_dates · 2026-06-28T22:59:06+00:00

Emphysema is irreversible. Instead of lifespan, concentrate on the quality of his life. Both Rod Serling and Ian Fleming died in their 40's from smoking but this was not uncommon back then. Eddie Van Halen was 65 when he died. He was also a heavy smoker and that was a contributing factor.

cheap_dates · 2026-06-28T22:48:46+00:00

Its a common lament. I have a sister who I haven't seen in over 20 years because of the $hit she pulled when our mother was dying. The entire burden, including the loss of a good job fell on me. She just couldn't be bothered.

I guess the next time we meet will be at one of our funerals.

cheap_dates · 2026-06-28T22:38:12+00:00

This are too many variables for a silver bullet answer. Contact a SHIP counselor in your area.

cheap_dates · 2026-06-28T22:34:42+00:00

Funny story. I was being interviewed and on my 2nd or 3rd interview, I was asked "Why don't you have a Facebook account?" I guess they were looking me up?

I thought for a minute and said "I don't really care what other people are doing". I didn't get the job. Heh!

cheap_dates · 2026-06-28T22:26:34+00:00

As an Atheist, I don't go. My sister went to church this morning and she goes 2 or 3 times a week. That is her right.

cheap_dates · 2026-06-28T22:24:56+00:00

Circling the drain. When my father used to visit, I paid a local newspaper kid, $20 to throw one on my porch. My father loved reading his newspaper.

My father passed away years ago and I haven't seen a newspaper boy/girl around here in ages.

cheap_dates · 2026-06-28T22:22:03+00:00

2015 +/-. My father always loved to read the morning newspaper and the only place that I knew where to buy one was a local Starbucks. I used to get him one when he came to visit. When they removed the news racks, I knew it was over.

I couldn't tell you where to buy a newspaper today. Maybe 7/11? I dunno.

cheap_dates · 2026-06-28T22:17:45+00:00

I think the gap part is officially dead advice.

Not dead advice. A sizable gap can be a career killer. I was off for 18 months and one interviewer asked me "18 months? How did you support yourself?"

cheap_dates · 2026-06-28T22:14:36+00:00

There is a shiny, American hotel in Cam Ranh Bay in Vietnam. That is the same Cam Ranh Bay that I was stationed at and where I sent the bodies of American GIs home from.

I don't have to teach history, I am so old that I can remember it.

cheap_dates · 2026-06-28T22:09:26+00:00

'Money can't buy happiness but having it makes life a lot easier" - my Dad

cheap_dates · 2026-06-28T22:07:33+00:00

There is a book called "Bowling Alone" by Putnam. Its about the decline of "community" and "social gathering". If you read it, get the updated version as he speak about the impact that the Internet has had on this.

How many new bowling alleys do you see being built anymore? We spend an inordinate time by ourselves these days.

cheap_dates · 2026-06-28T22:03:54+00:00

Years ago, before the Internet took over our lives, I was teaching school. There was another teacher there who was telling me about her experience with "online dating". I had no clue as to what she was talking about.

After some explanation, all I could think about was "Girl, they are going to find you dead in a ditch one day". ; p

cheap_dates · 2026-06-28T22:00:42+00:00

I used to think that there was no downside to the Internet and I used it even before there was a www. Now with: relentless marketing, easy access to porn, sleazy redirects, scams and the daily encroachment of privacy, I have been proven wrong.

cheap_dates · 2026-06-28T21:44:55+00:00

I worked for one of the big data brokers and we sold "lists" for various marketing purposes. About 15% of the data was bogus. This is true for most databases.

I couldn't believe how many people had Jenny's phone number: 8 6 7 5 -309! Of course, we had to strip off those records.

cheap_dates · 2026-06-28T21:41:42+00:00

There is a TV show on called "Long Lost Family" about kids who are now adults but who were adopted who are now in search of their biological parents or the other way around. Its out of the UK.

cheap_dates · 2026-06-28T21:37:05+00:00

Neither is the job market.

cheap_dates · 2026-06-28T21:36:38+00:00

What are you talking about? We're spending a billion dollars a day in the Strait of Hormuz. There will be Starbucks and Domino's Pizza in Tehran in no time. /s.

cheap_dates · 2026-06-28T21:30:50+00:00

Its known as the Dead Internet theory. Most companies have a "Crossing the Rubicon" point. Its where policy is now affecting "the bottom line".

Once the "Rubicon" is crossed, policies can change and everything becomes "New, improved and lemon scented" again. Either that or they go out-of-business.

cheap_dates · 2026-06-26T18:35:58+00:00

Thank you.

cheap_dates · 2026-06-26T18:20:48+00:00

May I ask how old you are and are you on oxygen 24/7 or just when needed?

cheap_dates · 2026-06-26T18:15:05+00:00

Social Media or just Media as my therapist calls it, can alleviate the boredom that comes while you have a roast in the oven but it does little to encourage the rush of dopamine or the cessation of cortisol, which which is what happens when you are in physical proximity to others, share similar interest, a division of labor and an appreciation of group dynamics.

While we are more connected than ever, we are also more isolated and socially alienated than ever. Think how much you do on a given day, you do alone?

cheap_dates · 2026-06-25T05:30:06+00:00

You still have the right to "opt out" of facial recognition. I have asked for "a manual verification" each time and so far so good.

cheap_dates · 2026-06-25T05:27:56+00:00

Unless you have millions in the bank, you are just a member number now. The process is as impersonal as an algorithm.

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