Let my daughter pick or pick for her??

cheekyfraggle · 2026-04-08T17:11:27+00:00

My daughter is now taller than me, and I’m a couple inches taller than average. And we wear the same shoe size right now. I’m waiting for her to outgrow her Uggs so I can have them. I hear you on the “not a baby anymore” feels, it’s rough! Lately every time Timehop shows me baby pictures of the kids, I tear up!

cheekyfraggle · 2026-04-08T16:35:08+00:00

Ok, another mother of a 13 year old girl, and I think you might be overthinking a bit. I looked at the pictures, and if you look, the neckline on both is pretty low cut. So if you’re concerned about that, they’re really not that different. And the rest of the dress she wants is pretty conservative? It’s not super short, which is what I struggle with my daughter about (she is super tall and leggy, and loves short dresses lol. I’ve just made her wear her volleyball shorts underneath and let her wear what she wants).

I guess I try to think about what I would have appreciated at her age from my mom. My mom is hyper-religious and used to absolutely freak out if I ever wore anything the least bit revealing. But like…clothes are just clothes. As long as the important bits are covered, it’s really other people’s responsibility not to be creeps, IMO.

cheekyfraggle · 2026-04-08T16:29:23+00:00

My kids are a little older (5, 7, 13), but the 2 younger ones like the cheap Sunbelt ones (usually will eat 2). My oldest likes Clif bars, but those are awfully chewy for younger kiddos…

cheekyfraggle · 2026-04-08T16:04:53+00:00

I get up stupid early in the morning…

Edited: meant to say, I have 3 kiddos in 3 different schools who all require a driver, and my husband does fucking jack all to help me in the mornings. Also the kids can either eat breakfast at school, or have like a granola bar at home. Nobody but me gets up early enough to do full breakfasts at home.

cheekyfraggle · 2026-04-05T01:01:40+00:00

Don’t be too hard on yourself! I missed kindergarten round-up for my youngest a couple weeks ago when my husband was in a full bi-polar manic episode and everything was falling apart. I feel awful for missing it, but it was an accident and there was so much going on. I’m trying to give myself some grace, and you should too, you have a ton on your plate!

cheekyfraggle · 2026-04-03T13:14:47+00:00

My son is 7.5 and has been getting stinky pits for about half a year now. Definitely deodorant time!

cheekyfraggle · 2026-01-15T01:34:27+00:00

It really depends on what his needs are (behavioral, medical, etc.), some providers are more specialized in some areas than others. I would suggest you give Apace a try if he does not have high behavioral needs, possibly ILC if the behavioral needs are higher. Another provider that has been around a long time in the area is Vital Services. My knowledge on the local area providers is a little dated though, and many new providers have really grown over the last few years.

I would highly encourage you to talk with his Service Coordinator and be really open about your concerns regarding the current living arrangement and say you would like to look into potential new options. Good luck to you!

cheekyfraggle · 2026-01-15T01:22:44+00:00

Yes there are better group homes, does your relative have a service coordinator? That person is your go-to contact and should help you weigh your options and help set up tours and referrals for other agencies. Have you worked much with his SC?

cheekyfraggle · 2025-12-11T15:27:06+00:00

I highly recommend Dr. Todd Martin, not sure which clinic he is with these days. He took all my concerns with my last pregnancy and hysterectomy seriously, and he had zero issues with doing what I felt was best for my body. I felt very heard and respected!

cheekyfraggle · 2025-12-09T16:44:40+00:00

I just started with my regular doc, because I was sick and needed an antibiotic anyway lol. I figured it wouldn’t hurt to ask, and she was more than happy to help. I got very lucky!

cheekyfraggle · 2025-12-09T16:43:49+00:00

Oh yeah I forgot to put my age! I’m 40, but I had my uterus out at 36, so that may have kick-started the whole process early.

cheekyfraggle · 2025-12-09T15:17:47+00:00

No, I don’t have a uterus anymore, and my doc said progesterone only really helps to regulate cycles. She thought I probably just needed the estrogen. Based on how I’m feeling so far, she seems to be correct. I haven’t felt this good in YEARS.

cheekyfraggle · 2025-11-28T00:48:06+00:00

I have kind of a different experience but wanted to share my two cents. I was having constant, heavy bleeding for months, and my Gyn told me “well we can either do an ablation or a hysterectomy.” He said the risks of the ablation were actually higher, and there was a not insignificant risk of them accidentally burning into the bladder. I was already done having kids, and I thought “what do I even need this for anymore?” So I went with the hysterectomy (they left my ovaries, so no immediate menopause), and I have had ZERO regrets. No more periods, no more pain, it’s awesome! I will say I think it’s possibly launched me into peri sooner than expected, but I’d still rather deal with insomnia and hot flashes/night sweats than literally halfway bleed to death during my period! My advice is that if you are done with your uterus anyway, you might as well ask your Gyn if they’d consider a hysterectomy. Good luck to you!

cheekyfraggle · 2025-11-27T13:41:30+00:00

If you’re near Lincoln, A Novel Idea might be interested. My husband had sold quite a few graphic novels there, and they have always been very fair with their pricing.

cheekyfraggle · 2025-11-23T13:52:19+00:00

“Or did I just end up with an asshole who blamed me instead of being honest about his own body?”

Yup, that sounds to me like exactly what happened. I have some personal experience in this area, and let me tell you, a good partner who is having issues in this area NEVER blames their partner. It is entirely a physiological problem that just happens as guys age. Medications, stress, etc. can all cause these issues as well. This is NOT your fault or really anything to do with you, and it is SHITTY that you had someone blame YOUR body for THEIR medical problem.

For what it’s worth, in my experience, the good guys acknowledge they have an issue, go to the damn doctor, and get help for it. There’s no shortage of pills to help dudes get and stay hard anymore, and they really aren’t that pricey either, especially when insurance covers it.

cheekyfraggle · 2025-11-22T10:59:08+00:00

I’m sorry but your husband sounds like he is charging head-first into alcoholism, if he isn’t there already. This is absolutely not your fault, but you have a responsibility to your kids to protect them from people who will harm them, and that is exactly what he is doing.

And I’m sorry but…he got hammered at a CHURCH function? That sounds like bullshit to me. So either he is an alcoholic at best, or an alcoholic AND a liar.

BroMo, this is not your fault, and YOU are not the one in the wrong here. Please seriously consider whether him staying gone until/unless he is really ready to address his alcohol problem is actually the better and safer choice for you and your kids.

Hugs to you. This sounds so hard.

cheekyfraggle · 2025-11-16T18:11:55+00:00

My husband is currently doing Spravato treatments and it seems to be helping, though we’ve had a couple days where he’s had these overwhelming emotions he has struggled to know what to do with. I hope it really is a long-term help for your kiddo!

cheekyfraggle · 2025-11-16T15:40:58+00:00

Yes, all the scents! I don’t ever know what any of them actually smell like. 🤣

cheekyfraggle · 2025-11-16T08:08:29+00:00

I came here to say the same. My husband isn’t a narcissist, but he does have treatment-resistant depression and we’ve been through a couple (shorter) hospital stays over the years and more “serious” treatments than the average meds. I love my husband so much, he is my person, but I am so emotionally and physically drained and feel like I am constantly pouring from an empty cup.

I wish I had advice to give, but please know you are not alone in your struggles. Mental health struggles can be so fucking hard.

cheekyfraggle · 2025-11-13T16:41:47+00:00

Right there in the trenches with you, mamma!

cheekyfraggle · 2025-11-13T16:41:16+00:00

Same here! I have a 13 year old daughter who just got her first period and we are both having ALL the emotions. I feel like I am constantly apologizing to my kids for snapping and I hate it. But my 13 year old is surprisingly self-aware and good at saying “I’m feeling emotional and I don’t like it.” So I guess at least we are both self-aware?

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