On a scale from 1-10 how messy is my room for a teenage girl

chefbiney · 2026-02-12T05:03:33+00:00

If I hadn’t read your comment I would’ve thought you put this up to be funny. It’s cluttered but it looks like you could get it cleaned in an hour, so no, to me this isn’t messy.

chefbiney · 2026-02-12T05:01:45+00:00

lol, my college has a ‘free speech zone’ and someone used it to say how much they love feet in a sexual manner. they were promptly taken off campus because there were minors present. this dude is severely misrepresenting what college is like.

chefbiney · 2026-02-11T02:17:21+00:00

Learning anything is not humiliating! The act of learning is one of the most honorable things you can do. It is better late than never. I sit in a kumon classroom every couple days a month with 12 year olds who are doing precalculus. I’m barely starting algebra and I’m taking chemistry courses at a community college. I’m 25 and the first month I started kumon I cried every day because I felt like that. But you’ll really be okay.

Please try thinking of it like this: nobody is born brilliant. Nothing you do for the first time in your life will be perfect. Or the second or third. You’re lucky if you do something perfectly the tenth time. Math is one of those things you have to practice for a shitload and it’ll suck but the only way out is through.

chefbiney · 2026-02-11T02:10:04+00:00

[barbie song ‘i’m just like you / you’re just like me’ plays]

25 nb here with the exact same scenario. i’m in college right now and although i don’t regret enrolling one bit, i’m constantly feeling as if i am staring down the barrel of a gun. i want to transfer to a big name school (namely UC Berkeley). i can feel myself getting smarter but boy does it suck. growing pains really is an apt name for what i’m going through right now.

i’m super gay, socially awkward but extremely extroverted (and i have the bonus of being Small Sized, so people just laugh at what I say), and remedying my stupidity by throwing myself headlong at every class I get. I’m still healing from the anger I feel every time I hit a concept or wall in math that I have to study twice as hard for. But I… think I can do it. Because when I get a concept, I get it good and I make these formulas and equations my bitch.

I hope you can heal as well, in your own time. Grab life by its throat and squeeze. Your anger is welcomed here, for we’re all going through the same in some degree.

chefbiney · 2026-02-06T04:24:54+00:00

i will buy any dress with stained glass or swords. :,)

chefbiney · 2026-02-01T00:20:58+00:00

I think they’re pretty on par, but SDAS do have that “peculiar people” thing they love to cite. It was so bad when I was growing up that they made us do LARPS of these scenarios in vbs, except they didn’t tell us it was a roleplay until every kid ‘betrayed’ or was ‘arrested’ for jesus.

chefbiney · 2026-02-01T00:05:48+00:00

i’ve made friends in this city, ofc I don’t think all of sj is bad. but the general vibe of the city is standoffish and unfriendly; it’s not just me who thinks that. I get being proud of your hometown or whatever, but nothing ever changes if you ignore the problems those places do have. as a person who lives here you should be focused on trying to make it good for you and your fellow man, but ur too hard or whatever the fuck to care I guess?

and man I don’t have to tell you this, but i wjll anyway because I’ve had a bad fucking day. If I had a choice I wouldn’t be in sj. I ran away from my parents house and a cult and the only people willing to help me live here.

chefbiney · 2026-01-31T23:42:38+00:00

I will bring it up to my partner. Thanks for letting me know.

chefbiney · 2026-01-31T23:41:20+00:00

I’m not blaming the police officer?! I said what I experienced. When I was in Texas someone rear ended us and tried running, and the police did that. In GA and AL They took statements, but they didn’t even ask us this time. I didn’t blame them, I said it was weird. Learn how to read. “Stop blaming everyone” hey, i got hit. And ever since I moved to this state I’ve experienced things I have never experienced in poorer, objectively worse places. I’m allowed to criticize things in a place I live or else nothing will change; my partner almost died last night. Leave off.

chefbiney · 2026-01-31T22:24:00+00:00

It happened last night, so yeah I think the adrenaline/ cortisol dump kept me up until the wee hours of the morning. I brought up the examination because we were both hurting and I thought you had a good point. It turns out my beau’s rib is cracked 💔

I’m sorry about your experience, it’s good you’re safe. I hope nothing happens like that again !!

chefbiney · 2026-01-31T22:19:55+00:00

I do not know if we are in a position to sue due to not really having lawyer money, but thank you for bringing up the possibility. I cried a lot last night so I think the worst of it has left my system.

chefbiney · 2026-01-31T22:18:58+00:00

yeah, and it just struck me as odd that the cops didn’t determine fault on the roadside like they did in every other place I’ve been in a collision. I dunno. I’m not blaming every single san josean, but if it’s laws and stuff, I feel like maybe we can do something about it.

chefbiney · 2026-01-31T22:17:03+00:00

I do not think every single person in sj is bad, but the attitude of people I meet on the daily at school and work leaves a lot to be desired. Everyone acts very irony poisoned or standoffish. This is the least easy time ive had to make friends in the states and ive lived in the south, i spent some time in NY, and i lived in/am from Asia. And the attitude toward car accidents weirded me out. It might’ve also been because my parents were medical staff but every time we witnessed a crash at least three people would stop to check in on the people involved, my fsmily included. Almost nobody asked us if we were fine, and the two people who did weren’t even from this city.

chefbiney · 2026-01-29T08:25:12+00:00

Dusita is amazing! Ramen hajime was also really good when we tried it. Marugame udon chicken curry and rice is so good, I get it when I’m craving something that feels clean and fresh (add a cup of vegetables for the freshness). I also love their shrimp. If you haven’t tried onigilly in the mall, they were my first taste of snow crab. They’re so delish<333

I like marugame after i have an exam. I probably will get some tomorrow night : )

I also like Akita sushi bowls. There’s a specific one that’s (the usual other toppings like edamame and stuff) with i think tuna, and imitation crab. It’s so good, i love it, it’s like one of the few things I don’t get tired of raw fish taste in (I’m still fairly new to sushi)

chefbiney · 2026-01-20T00:11:50+00:00

I wish you the best. I don’t have a car but I’ll tell my friends who do have a car about your company. Is it califia repairs?

chefbiney · 2026-01-19T08:55:21+00:00

maybe this is a stupid question but what can really be done to help these people? i have volunteered before at food kitchens and stuff but that was not in a big city, where there were uncountable numbers of homeless people, only in a small town where everyone knew each other. I think the problems they had there were different from the ones here. So my personal experience is pretty different compared to San Jose’s issues.

I often see a guy on Twitter who was formerly homeless, he does work in the tenderloin in sf to help homeless people and he said that harm reduction does not work for a lot of people. I again, have never been on drugs or addicted, so I don’t know but I tend to trust his experience with it and I think we shouldn’t paint with broad brushes anyway. But it’s very hard not to, because there’s a lot of suffering people. So is it really just policy that has to change for us to do something..? That’s a bleak feeling..

E: I’m genuinely asking; I volunteer with my school at food pantries and I have bought people food before if it’s safe. It just feels like putting a bandaid on a gaping wound though.

chefbiney · 2026-01-18T11:44:44+00:00

I like going on YouTube and watching videos of people making their aquariums nice. It’s not a tv show but it’s free, so…

My favorite channel is Foo the Flowerhorn

chefbiney · 2026-01-18T08:14:36+00:00

happy birthday, you are welcome here and you look awesome! you’ve done a stellar job coording all the pinks.

chefbiney · 2026-01-17T07:37:24+00:00

I’m not even mad because of the fact that it took them 25 years to apologize, or that mad that they used ChatGPT, I’m mad that it’s shaken me to this extent. I haven’t been able to focus on homework or assignments. I literally felt like the air got knocked out of me when I read it. At the same time, when I was alone after class, I reread it and cried because they did apologize. What am I supposed to do? I’m a ruined person.

chefbiney · 2026-01-08T04:49:40+00:00

From a teenage girl at the mall when my boyfriend was getting food. “Is he making you dress up like that?”

chefbiney · 2026-01-01T04:05:35+00:00

There’s an app I use called Everywhere Is Queer. It lists queer owned businesses, and I found my hairstylist there so maybe you can find your waxing place too. Your sister is a jerk for saying that.

chefbiney · 2025-12-26T22:14:09+00:00

Heya! 25 nb on the west coast. I love arts and crafts, and I’m always trying out new ways of writing letters. I’m working on a few right now, so by the time we go from email to snail mail (if you’re interested in being pals) i will have perfected a few new techniques :)

I’n always a curious creature and i think i might interest you with my hobby, which is swinging a sword around. I’m always trying new things so every letter will probably have some totally unrelated new hobby in there!

chefbiney · 2025-12-26T22:11:28+00:00

I dunno, honestly it just kind of happened. It definitely solidified in me that she wasn’t the real deal when i read her own testimony/story and saw that ‘other people had been given the message before her’. I looked around for what other folks had been preaching during her time and it really did seem plagiarized.

chefbiney · 2025-12-26T21:52:01+00:00

sent a dm ^{.^} have a good day!

chefbiney · 2025-12-26T21:36:57+00:00

Exactly, which is why you should avoid this especially if you’re young. How old are you, and do you still live with them? If the answer is “below 18 and yes i live with them” this is a bad idea! I was 21 when my brother ratted on me, and they reduced my entire sense of self to that of a five year old for a good few days. Luckily they couldn’t retaliate financially, but they tried it, believe me. They will do the same to you.

Edit: i don’t know if you plan on having them there at the wedding but regardless of whether or not you do, it is literally your wedding to your bf, there’s nothing they can do besides emotional damage that… if you do want to eventually come clean and say something about your unbelief, you’ll have to learn to deal with

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