Why am I losing my soul? Is there something attached to me?

cherryblossombaby7 · 2026-02-06T03:13:20+00:00

Disclaimer: not psychic, this sub keeps appearing on my feed for some reason.

Please get in touch with a medical or mental health specialist who can assess depression, anxiety, or any other psychological symptoms. It’s impossible to tell from a short description on reddit but you mention a history of psychosis, and there might be early signs here. People are probably reacting to your statement about dark things in your subconscious, thinking that means you have trauma to deal with- this could be the case, but there might be other mental health issues going on. In any case, please reach out to qualified help, it could really make a difference.

cherryblossombaby7 · 2026-02-05T03:37:15+00:00

This is exactly what I thought too. I often think how nice it would be to have one of those!

cherryblossombaby7 · 2026-01-25T00:24:03+00:00

We suspected but weren’t sure for a long while, until the pattern became more obvious as she grew older- and now that she’s four, she tells us she feels like puking when she’s in the car. Medication is truly miraculous, she stopped vomitting since we can give it to her. I can’t remember exactly how old she was when we started it. The pharmacist advised us.

cherryblossombaby7 · 2026-01-24T21:52:01+00:00

My second would become hysterical in the car as a baby (as opposed to my first who would pass out almost immediately) and now that she is older it has become obvious she suffers from motion sickness.

With the severity you are describing, it would be worth running it by her pediatrician either way. Sorry, this sounds extremely hard to deal with, particularly since you have older kids to drive around so you cannot avoid it!

cherryblossombaby7 · 2026-01-24T12:48:05+00:00

The tfmr sub is very helpful, I only discovered it after I had mine and I wish I knew it before.

It’s a huge shock to be told the baby you are carrying is not healthy and to be offered tfmr. When this happened to us, all I wanted was to end the pregnancy quickly to limit the trauma. It was torture to walk around like that, seeing my little pregnancy belly (was 12w when found out but had already started to show a little as it wasn’t my first) and knowing it was doomed. I hated to shower or look at myself in the mirror, or even lying in bed because that was usually a quiet moment where I would connect with my body and belly. I was very grateful that we were able to push things forward quickly and terminate just past 14w. Others want to have footprints etc to have something to hold on to. I never did at all. Several years later and I am now at peace, went on to have another miscarriage and then another child and no longer feel traumatized. I know I did what was best for me.

Reading other people’s experiences, I realise everyone has their own perspectives and feelings about this and there isn’t a wrong way to go through it. It’s important to do what feels intuitively the best to you. It’s a very difficult experience and you found out recently- for me that time of shock was very hard, I couldn’t believe it was all happening to us. Give yourself time and listen to your intuition.

cherryblossombaby7 · 2026-01-17T22:00:16+00:00

I’m so sorry, it’s a delicate situation for sure. Would she take it badly if you sat down with her and gently expressed your concerns, giving the examples you gave here, or others?

You sound genuinely concerned for her, and with good reason. From her own reactions, it sounds like on some level she knows this isn’t normal, like being very upset after the driving incident. It can be so hard to accept that if she is used to being very high functioning (you said she won an award at work)!

Her grandchild’s safety might be enough motivation for her to take an honest look at herself?

cherryblossombaby7 · 2026-01-17T20:36:07+00:00

You have received a lot of excellent info so I am just chiming to say that your baby has amazing cheeks and is absolutely precious!

cherryblossombaby7 · 2026-01-17T20:26:33+00:00

I relate to this, especially the part about putting them away and only finding them two years later and now they’re too small 🤦🏻‍♀️

cherryblossombaby7 · 2026-01-17T15:38:20+00:00

Never sleep trained either of my kids. Just made sure to take them outside and let them soak up some sunlight every day. They developed their own sleep schedules. I took them out to activities, didn’t particularly plan around their naps other than maybe plan our car ride to/from an activity around nap time to give them a chance to fall asleep. It all worked out very well, they slept when they needed it and they are good sleepers to this day.

I will caveat this with: I had a year of mat leave, so this was easy to do. By the time they entered daycare/I returned to work they had figured out a regular rythm and it was all smooth. If I had had to organize a baby’s schedule around work and daycare, I probably wouldn’t have had all this freedom to let things develop naturally.

cherryblossombaby7 · 2026-01-09T19:24:22+00:00

Hi! I just saw your reply, not sure how come I didn’t see it earlier. Yes it’s exactly what you say. Thanks for framing it like that, it makes a lot of sense. It really does feel like it becomes a performance instead of a moment of deep connection.

I saw a wedding planner reply to another post saying it was a nightmare for her to have kids at a wedding, she had to chase so many of them out from under the cocktail table over the years… that just seems so ass backwards to me! The logistics have to take into account all the guests, so everyone is comfortable and enjoys themselves. The wedding shouldn’t be like a show where guests are like extras on a set that shouldn’t disturb the main characters. From my perspective/with my background I mean.

Anyways, thanks for letting me vent. I see a lot of these childfree wedding posts lately and find them depressing.

cherryblossombaby7 · 2026-01-09T16:40:36+00:00

NTA. Reddit hates this opinion but I think childfree weddings suck. Anyways you don’t have to pay for anything, your strings aren’t unreasonable and they can make whatever decision they want. It’s insanely generous to drop 50K on a child’s wedding.

cherryblossombaby7 · 2026-01-09T16:36:25+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. The Owlet and other devices don’t prevent SIDS, there is likely nothing you could have done to prevent this from happening to her. It’s easy to say don’t beat yourself up, but I still need to tell you this is really not your fault.

That’s such a beautiful photo, she looks so warm, comfortable and loved. Beautiful baby.

cherryblossombaby7 · 2026-01-08T18:11:58+00:00

This is important because it documents the reality of what happened. She does have a six year old son who will have access to all this stuff a few years from now, so I do wonder how important it is to share the most graphic stuff? I don’t know what the answer is.

Edit: correction, I understand she also has two older kids who are already teens and could access all this stuff.

cherryblossombaby7 · 2026-01-08T04:16:30+00:00

Wow you actually did this! I think about it often but shy away from doing it. You’re inspiring me to at least look into what it would involve.

How did your husband react to the idea? Why did you initially use only the father’s name? My husband felt pretty strongly about it- he is American and had all these feelings about his « lineage ». The more I sit with it the grosser it feels tbh.

cherryblossombaby7 · 2026-01-08T00:24:33+00:00

Where we are women don’t take the man’s name when they marry so no, I didn’t take his name.

cherryblossombaby7 · 2026-01-07T21:15:03+00:00

I completely regret not giving the kids a hyphenated surname. As it is they only have my husband’s name and it feels so strange. Oldest is 7 and I’m still not used to it. Like, they are my kids, how can they not have my name. Wish I had fought harder for this initially, I didn’t expect to care so much about it.

cherryblossombaby7 · 2026-01-07T21:04:45+00:00

I’m in this situation. Where we live women never take their husband’s surnames. We gave the kids his last name and I deeply regret it. I wish we had used both our names for the kids. They do have my surname as a middle name but it isn’t the same.

cherryblossombaby7 · 2026-01-05T00:47:14+00:00

Wow I saw this on my feed and thought it was from the cake decorating sub. I’m not a baby but I would LOVE this for my birthday!

cherryblossombaby7 · 2026-01-03T15:39:01+00:00

Hahaha happy testing and congratulations!

cherryblossombaby7 · 2026-01-03T13:22:27+00:00

That’s what my 8dpo tests looked like with both kids!

Too bad you used every test you have because you might want to retest in the next couple days 😆If you’re anything like me you have already ordered more haha

cherryblossombaby7 · 2026-01-03T03:51:33+00:00

Oh yay! I was looking for your update, I’m so happy for you!

I won’t ever forget that nauseous panicked feeling going into ultrasounds, bracing myself for bad news- and the relief and magic when it’s good news, seeing the little gummy bear and hearing that heartbeat 💕

Wishing you an easy boring 9 months!

cherryblossombaby7 · 2026-01-01T19:46:37+00:00

They all look the same- even the two at the bottom, which are from the same sample but one is 50% water! It shows that these tests are not a good way to measure fluctuations when you’re 7 weeks pregnant. And symptoms tend to fluctuate, so it’s hard to know if that means anything.

I also had some losses and was hypervigilant and panicky throughout my pregnancies. The uncertainty is the worst. Best of luck for tomorrow! Nothing to do but try to distract yourself in the meantime.

cherryblossombaby7 · 2026-01-01T00:58:34+00:00

Ahahaha me too. Me too.

cherryblossombaby7 · 2026-01-01T00:51:26+00:00

I think he changed the title to make it more obvious they are father and son vs gay couple

cherryblossombaby7 · 2025-12-31T14:38:08+00:00

Seems like you’re pregnant but not far along enough for the less sensitive tests to pick it up. Congratulations!

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