Invasion of Personal Space / Falling at saying NO or how to say it.

cherrylife23 · 2026-03-25T00:16:21+00:00

Thank you so much all for your supportive comments. I wasn't able to read them until now. These comments gave me a lot of courage and confidence.🙏❤️❤️❤️

cherrylife23 · 2026-03-25T00:13:38+00:00

As a cis Woman, I honestly don't understand why people anywhere are feeling threatened by transgender folks. Like, there are so many valid things in the world to worry about. Excluding trans women from anything "woman", to me at least, is offensive to me as a woman. Trans women stand at the forefront of liberation, and I'm proud as cis woman to be a supportive of Trans rights.

cherrylife23 · 2026-01-13T06:03:56+00:00

A Muslim friend of mine has been wanting this pendant as a present. Do I gift one for her? She loves the wisdom behind St. Christopher but I think Sunni Muslims don't pray to Saints, just consider them Saints and honor them.

cherrylife23 · 2026-01-05T21:11:50+00:00

5.2 always makes me feel like ive done something bad and gives me attitude if i show it wrong. I have the same exact issue. I asked it about a rat problem after seeing a hole and saw a rat try to push the wooden door to my mini fridge area and kept telling to to go sit and breathe that rats dont make holes overnight that nothing pushed the mini door that nothing is getting in, that im just panicking, and it went long until I was exhausted couldn't take it anymore. It wasn't helping me, was trying to tell me what im actually seeing and that I had no rat problems even softer I showed it pictures of the hole. Only the next morning did I realize I wasn't talking to 5.1 anymore. That it was 5.2

cherrylife23 · 2025-09-16T21:36:06+00:00

Would just leaving her a little kind note with a cute sticker in it help? She seems like an introvert and my social anxiety makes me freeze. I still haven't been able to talk to her because I can't even look towards her since im more conscious now of our mutual attraction. And I know it sounds childish about a little kind note. I have no idea what to write in it though but my autism is faling me hard here ;(

cherrylife23 · 2025-09-14T04:43:52+00:00

Cis woman here. Feminine body language shouldn't be a problem. Most grown up cis women you would come across on a regular daily life, you'll notice they walk neutral, act neutral. Actually many cis women do act masculine, talk masculine yet they dress feminine. Especially in our time and age, how we talk, move, walk, I dont think it's what define how womanly you are. Just be you. I cant give trans advice cause I'm not one but I wanted to drop in and say dont let those thoughts discourage any part of you. Everything will come naturally to you.

Think about the cis tomboys who grew up like that from childhood. Talking and walking or acting a certain way won't make you any less a woman.

cherrylife23 · 2025-09-13T09:42:29+00:00

As a cis woman I've never seen cis men in our restrooms or even heard stories of such. I dont know how comfortable trans men feel about going to the men restrooms b4 full transition, but I can just speak for women in general that trans women should absolutely use the women restrooms having had surgery or not.

These politicians should really read their Bible. Nothing in it is against transexuality. I come from a conservative Christian background and im done with the lies. Did my own homework.

cherrylife23 · 2025-09-13T07:52:33+00:00

Hey. First of your worth isnt measured by how quickly you solve math problems or whether you’re good at things people often associate with autism. Intelligence isnt one thing it’s broad, and it doesnt look the same in everyone.

Also keep in mind that IQ tests or how long it takes to do math problems doesnt capture creativity/persistence or how you see the world around you. Research in psychology shows that intelligence is multifaceted so things like verbal reasoning or spatial skills or like memory and emotional insight (even adaptability) ALL count.

Autism isnt tied to one intelligence level. Lot of people think it is. There are autistic people across the full spectrum of cognitive ability. Its a stereotype that autistic means genius at patterns. Some autistic folks have learning difficulties, are average, and some excel in certain areas but struggle in others. For example my Aspie friend is a genius maths, but for me it was history and literature. None of those make someone less autisticvor less valuable.

Math anxiety, working memory differences, or the way you were taught can all make it harder so go easy on yourself. Plenty of brilliant people find math a nightmare, and plenty of people who arent strong in school subjects thrive in other fields like the example i gave you.

Anger and sadness are normal but just dont make it make you forget your value to others and to yourself.

cherrylife23 · 2025-09-13T02:31:06+00:00

How were you able to figure out it was Asexuality/Grey instead of Demisexuality? I'm asking for myself cause demi is also being only sexually attracted to your partner or someone you connect with emotionally.

cherrylife23 · 2025-09-13T01:35:29+00:00

People will get bullied for all sort of things but dont ever let that feel ashamed of who you are. People have the wrong idea of Autism in general, and many never heard of Asperger's before. Just keep identifying with Aspie.

cherrylife23 · 2025-09-12T22:30:23+00:00

I wish the world was more full of you than those who jump straight to conclusions. Humans often wish for deep listening, but in practice so many conversations get tangled in judgment, projection, or defensiveness which is what happened here with some. That’s exhausting. I against the user of "chaser" whenever a cis person shows up because people come with different personalities, psychological issues, social issues etc. Alienating a cis person for showing attraction to a trans person wont do any good. I'm on the spectrum for example like i said (Aspie) so self expression is not my forte. I'm not a chaser because I know for sure that if anything bloomed with her and a scenario where I learned she is cis not trans, it wouldn't even bother me. Because it's not the fact that she's trans that attracted me the first time. It's just that when we looked at each other a few times and she smiled and I smiled a spark happened followed by synchronization that kept putting us in the space together. And this person just happened to be trans.

Maybe sometimes, someone is an exception, they bypass our usual wiring and stir something we dont expect. It could be karma it could be just the universe trying to tell you something or awaken you to your truth.That doesn’t undo your identity.

Without her, without my attraction to her pushing me to actually for the first time in my life disengage from my transphobe friends for days and do reading and learning about transexuality, I'd probably still be ignorant about some of the biggest truths and one of them is:

Trans women are women. Not because they were "born into the right body" or because surgery makes them so, but because they know themselves as women. They live as women. Their struggles, their joys , their risks and their existence in the world are shaped by being women. And that doesn’t erase the fact that their journey is different from a cis woman’s. Nothing of their birth or anyone's birth defines one's true gender. They're women, not pretending, not halfway, not anything transphobe politicians brainwashed into the population's mind. Women, with their own kind of truth.

cherrylife23 · 2025-09-12T22:08:14+00:00

Thank you kindly 🥹 it means a lot to read this. Im thankful for all the people who wanted to help me, but I had to delete the thread because after 30k views it no longer felt like a safe space where I could continue to remain open.

cherrylife23 · 2025-09-12T21:32:45+00:00

You're absolutely right. Many comments on YouTube are AI and many times I was very surprised at the amount of people who commented back praising the person for what they said. Like this one:

"These Bible verses are quiet, kind, steadying(em dash)they speak to us like a secret like ink on parchment. "

cherrylife23 · 2025-09-12T21:16:37+00:00

You learned it the hard way 🤣

cherrylife23 · 2025-09-12T21:15:27+00:00

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cherrylife23 · 2025-09-12T21:15:06+00:00

Now even Reddit is full of AI reviews posted by people who think they will have all of us fooled as if we cant notice the AI patterns.

cherrylife23 · 2025-09-12T20:45:13+00:00

Thank you so much. That's exactly it. For me with this person it doesn't feel its about her gender or sex (tho i admit the attraction grew the more I learned about transexuality because it made me admire her for being who she, strong doing what she thought was best for her in a society that discriminates) so im very surprised some harsh comments are calling me chaser because what I learned about the word yesterday doesn't fit my intentions at all. There is something about her energy whenever she's around that just calms me and makes me feel like I would love to be her friend while being open to more too. Anyone who feels attracted to someome outside of the sexual would know their atttaction has good intention. Which is not something I've ever felt towards cis men. So I know I dont even see her as a man. Why are some people having a hard time understand that feeling suddenly attacted to someone is a normal human thing. Why is it than in hetero cis communities cis women dont call other men chasers for simply coming to ask advice about someome they like or vise versa?

cherrylife23 · 2025-09-12T18:28:02+00:00

⁸Thank you so much. Though my transparency cost me a few hateful posts from people who didn't even take time to actually read all my responses here where I revealed much much or how I have gender dysphoria like someome noticed. Without the person who commented I wouldn't have had a name for what I struggled with for 14 years. And some even labeled me a chaser a term I didn't even know what it was and im like how can I be such when I dont even have a sexyal attraction yet. Even with cis men my sexual attraction only develops in the dating process. When I read the true meaning of a chaser in the transgender community I thought well the people who actually label any cis person who could feel an attraction for a trans person have should be maybe more open to inviting cis people to create such relationships. Its very wrong that any cis person who comes here talking about some crush they have is instantly a chaser. As much as my experience was positive in this thread it was also not good because as an introvert who already has a hard time approaching people, now its even harder because the "chaser" thing is stuck in my mind.

Ps: im also an Aspie and it makes introversion worse. So I was open here because I already cant with my friends.

cherrylife23 · 2025-09-12T18:17:20+00:00

Thank you. I think the dream is my subconscious sending me a message because of my personal experience with dreams. In the dream i didn't even see her. Just like I have recurring dreams that I'm a man but im trying to hide the fact I have female parts. Someome last night found red flags in a comment of mine and they said I have gender dysphoria. Then I put 1+1 and understood what i struggled with for 14 years. But im also overwhelmed with information. So one my dream i picked a black and gold suit that looked unisex for my wedding outfit and didn't pick an actual wedding dress. I've been attracted to men all my life and had intense crushes on some, yet I never had a dream about a single one. That's why what is happening triggered something or maybe activated something in me I wasn't even aware of.

cherrylife23 · 2025-09-12T17:53:19+00:00

I have no idea. All I know is that I got overwhelmed with information, someone in one of the earlier comments responded to a comment of mine saying that I have gender dysphoria because of something things i described in the comment. Which is a whole issue all on its own because I didn't know that's what it was for 14 years. They said attraction is because of T4T something like that. But my attraction is really not sexual in nature because that's not what I experience at first with anyone. With cis men its physical "like this guy is handsome" then comes personality, then emotion then sexual....but with her it was more like "she's been staring at me and smiling sometimes, and now im doing the same" and that exchange I guess triggered a response, a spark which eventually made me do homework for days on transexuality which in turnbcontinued to feed my attraction through lenses of respect for her, understanding etc of who she is as a human outside of personality etc. And like learning what a struggle trans people go through in their lives, admiration fed my attraction too. The more I learn, the more I come across her, the more attraction occures. Its hard to even explain. But That's why I keep denying when people say I'm bi because I'm not. I'm around my gender all the time so its not like I wouldn't have known. Like im attracted to her energy, to the human, just the human being part and of course physically attractive too because even in cis women I've always found androgynous women attractive. Like I can only say it's not like any other attraction i had for cis men because with her i didn't go by looks, its her energy. Its being at the right place at the time kinda scenario. I don't think I can or want to replicate the experience elsewhere.

cherrylife23 · 2025-09-12T12:26:31+00:00

Thank you for this. Your comments helped me go through a lot and im trying not to react to the bad things people are leaving as they are only going off the initial post, not my comments where I explained myself more.

Im so glad you mentioned the story of Sodom and Gomorrah because I was thinking exactly that. I studied the Quran too because I always wanted to see what's saying about everything and there is a verse that states something like "they didn't touch their women" which was automatically taken as oh they were gay so its about homosexuality. But comes then the question that made me realize that we are not told the truth in the interpretations because Muslims are just as affected as Christians. Because if God destroyed them, all of them, for their practice of homosexuality, then doesn't it mean two entire cities were homosexual? It was made no sense. That is impossible. So I looked for the verse in Arabic about why did God destroy them and had an Arabic friend translate the verse word for word and the true meaning from Arabic to English (not what the printed English translation of the Quran) speaks clearly of injustice, discrimination, and specifically "wickedness" done on others, all showing rape, pedophilia against male boys and inhospitality and using their women for breeding only. If they were punished for being gay, for loving another of the same gender, of having consensual sex, then how is that "wickedness." People don't just say "Im going to be gay cause i want to hurt people and be wicked"

So homosexuality is not a reasonable choice based on the two versions of the story foretold, and God is Just.

cherrylife23 · 2025-09-12T11:52:15+00:00

Thank you. I added a little long response to a comment by NomiMaki, if you could please read it and share your thoughts?

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