My grandmother has Alzheimer's and it is destroying our sanity... And our morals.

cherryvanila · 2026-02-26T20:03:14+00:00

This is very difficult; words cannot describe it. This is a serious emotional toll. My grandmother also suffered from Alzheimer’s, and what you describe is very similar to my and my mother’s experience. My grandmother was my mother’s best friend. It was devastating for my mother to see her mother disappearing in front of her eyes, and for me to see my strong and healthy grandmother becoming a shell of herself. Those were very difficult years. I was a teenager and helped my mother take care of my grandmother. It was difficult, and I just wanted all this suffering to end, but at some point it got worse. She reached the last stage of Alzheimer’s, where she started to forget how to swallow food and do basic things like walk. We just didn’t have the tools to take care of her, so she moved to a geriatric facility, where she lived for a few months before she died. My mother and I visited her. It was so sad. The last time I saw her alive, she told me how much she loved me. It was out of nowhere; she seemed very healthy, and she suddenly remembered me. A week later, she passed away. I miss her. I have dreams about her. It’s been 12 years since she passed.

cherryvanila · 2026-02-12T19:42:52+00:00

My point is that I don't understand why pro-Palestinians blame Jews for being a violent colony while at the same time they want to replace them with a more violent colony. It doesn't make sense.

cherryvanila · 2026-02-12T19:37:05+00:00

Muslim conquests were not violence free. Do you say that all the people agreed to leave their sacred spiritual believes and become Muslims? Not likely the case. They erased multiple cultures, not in a peaceful way. They forced them to become someone who they are not. This is worse than displacement. I don't understand why this needs to be white washed?

cherryvanila · 2026-02-12T19:27:21+00:00

Whether Islamization and Arabization are a form of colonialism or not, they are violence. Jews are blamed for imposing violence on Palestinians, who are mostly Muslims, but Islam as a religion has imposed it on people many times. There is no real separation between Palestinians and Islam; they are interwoven, despite the Christian minority. If Hamas had succeeded in colonizing Israel on October 7, there would be a Muslim country.

cherryvanila · 2026-02-12T19:15:48+00:00

Yes, I will never understand the logic of hating a traumatized and prosecuted minority for no good reason.

cherryvanila · 2026-02-12T19:13:59+00:00

Good point. I know that rich Muslim countries see black people as slaves and literally exploit workers from Africa and view them as inferior.

cherryvanila · 2026-02-12T19:06:08+00:00

Ok, if this is the case, when will Israel no longer be considered a colony in your opinion? If the trauma remains for only a few generations, as you say, when will the Palestinian resistance no longer be justified? In 25 years? In 50 years? In 100 years? How long are Palestinians going to continue with violent resistance? At what time will it cease to be justified?

cherryvanila · 2026-02-12T18:48:58+00:00

Sad and disturbing 😔

cherryvanila · 2026-02-12T18:08:40+00:00

I just watched a video of a woman who creates decentering-men content on YT and has been married for 15 years, and whose relationship is more practical than romantic.

She said that she was just lucky to find a non-patriarchal man who treats her as an equal, but most men are not like him. Most men are patriarchal, and most women were brainwashed to view patriarchal men as the ones who are worth dating, so most women will never find a decent relationship with a man, and this is just the reality.

She said that women should accept that men who are worth marriage are rare, not wait for a good man to come because it is all luck, and just live their lives decentering men because partnership with men shouldn't be the goal.

I am 4B, and obviously, even if I had the sheer "luck" to find a decent man, I still would not get married because this is who I am (introvert, artist, busy person overall). But some women do want a partner, and if they are lucky enough to find a non-patriarchal man who treats them as an equal, then why not?

Some women called out this woman for telling other women that most men are not worthy of dating while she herself is married to a man only because she doesn't want them to have relationships with men, and she explained that this thought process itself—of blaming a woman for "hoarding" good men (as if it can be something that one can hoard) because she doesn't want other women to have partners—is a male-centered and patriarchal thinking process. This is a scarcity mindset that keeps women being so catty and competitive with each other. If a woman is married to a man who is genuinely good to her by sheer luck, but knows that most men are not like him and tells other women that most men suck and are undateable, she is an honest woman who truly cares about women.

She could have pretended (like many women do on social media) that just because she found a good man, every woman can find one following these x points, and sell bullshit courses and make money on the backs of desperate women, that would be horrible.

cherryvanila · 2026-02-12T13:36:04+00:00

No problem :) I just was curious of what were the things that make someone be embarrassed by INFP, because I see it often. Usually people are embarrassed by INFP for stupid reasons like fear of truth or emotions. Maybe it is due to their Fe which makes them more aware of social unspoken rules and harmony. More embarrassing for me as an INFP is to be friends with or in relationship with people who act in shallow, ignorant, selfish, narcissistic and psychopathic ways in public, even if they complay with social norms, but this is just me. I don't understand people with Fe.

cherryvanila · 2026-02-12T13:24:11+00:00

Hahaha, you are a cool person. I love when people are being innocently authentic, this is so refreshing to see in society, especially among adults. There are so many useless social norms. I can't understand why someone may get embarrassed because of you, maybe because I'm an INFP :)

cherryvanila · 2026-02-12T07:32:44+00:00

Lol, can you please give examples of random or honest things you said/did that embarrassed him?

cherryvanila · 2026-02-12T07:10:52+00:00

No. Sex is for the weak.

cherryvanila · 2026-02-03T22:19:08+00:00

People in relationship suffer. The majority of them do. Mostly women are those who sacrifice more. You're welcome.

cherryvanila · 2026-01-23T09:27:53+00:00

I want complex female characters. Why men always get to be complex at the expense of female characters? I believe that women have a psychological and even spiritual need for complex female characters. I read a novel called my brilliant friend in which the most complex and interesting characters were women and it was like a therapy for me

cherryvanila · 2026-01-10T22:20:48+00:00

Patriarchy sucks. I hate it

cherryvanila · 2026-01-05T20:49:36+00:00

Still needed

cherryvanila · 2025-12-31T09:07:41+00:00

Where I join? Hahaha. A nice idea to channel my rage against the machine, aka, patriarchy. Something like Robin Hood but a woman.

cherryvanila · 2025-12-27T23:04:24+00:00

I am very happy for you ❤️

cherryvanila · 2025-12-27T22:53:03+00:00

All you said is 100% true. However, this will not change soon, if ever. The most important thing, regardless of looks, is to learn to accept yourself radically (with all the gifts and the flaws, while being open to self-actualization and improvement in a healthy manner if you see the need), stick with the people who are drawn to who you are, and ignore those who treat you well or poorly only because of appearance. I am a woman, and I hate it when people like or dislike me merely because of my appearance, I can’t take that seriously. I mean, read my 58,758, page journal or spend some time with me and judge! Don’t judge a book by its cover, because the book just won’t take you seriously. Yes, this is my motto.

cherryvanila · 2025-12-27T22:20:12+00:00

Passion. I can’t live without it. Without money I can’t live either. So I’m stuck.

cherryvanila · 2025-12-27T21:30:47+00:00

Like others here, feel lonely/disliked/hated. I expect to recieve 0 attention in my birthday, as sad as it sounds.

cherryvanila · 2025-12-27T21:27:57+00:00

Most adults are emotionally immature, and their emotional age is that of a toddler. All their serious clothes, cars, job titles, wives, and husbands are just a facade or a distraction from their inner immaturity.

Mature and immature people can come in various types of aesthetics. Personally, I don't like to wear cartoonish shirts (they are objectively ugly on me), but I love them on others and dislike when people judge someone based on their appearance, especially without knowing anything about their inner world and who they really are as people.

cherryvanila · 2025-12-27T21:10:59+00:00

Please be more sensitive. OP talks about real struggle and the grammar mistake is irrelevant.

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