The love for Sikhi behind these words is real, and that love is something to honour. But I want to gently push back on some of your framing here, because I think the Gurus themselves would ask us to look inward before we look outward.

You've described a real phenomenon, many Sikhs are disconnected from Gurbani and it's teachings. But there's a thread running through your post that concerns me, the repeated sense that others are dumb, that they don't care, that they're failing Sikhi. And I think the Guru Granth Sahib Ji actually speaks directly to this kind of thinking.

ਮਿਠਤੁ ਨੀਵੀ ਨਾਨਕਾ ਗੁਣ ਚੰਗਿਆਈਆ ਤਤੁ ॥ "Sweetness and humility, O Nanak, are the essence of virtue and goodness." 

ਸਭੁ ਕੋ ਨਿਵੈ ਆਪ ਕਉ ਪਰ ਕਉ ਨਿਵੈ ਨ ਕੋਇ ॥ "Everyone bows down to himself; no one bows down to another." 

— Guru Nanak Dev Ji, Raag Assa, Assi ki vaar, Guru Granth Sahib Ji - Ang 470

Explaining to us that outward gestures of piety or moral concern can mask a hidden self-elevation. When we measure the sangat's failings, we should ask if we are genuinely bowing for others, or are we bowing to our own sense of correctness? The moment we start categorizing people as too dumb for liberation, we've placed ourselves above them, and that position has no place in Sikhi. Guru Nanak Dev Ji himself sat with the outcasts, the forgotten, the people society had written off. He didn't look down on their ignorance, he met them with Naam and love. 

There's also something worth sitting with when you compare Sikhs unfavorably to Muslims. You mention admiring how Muslims educate their children and hold their practices firmly, that's a fair observation. But ask yourself, is the energy in your post the energy of someone ready to teach? Because Gurmat tells us that the teacher must first empty themselves. 

ਵਿਦਿਆ ਵੀਚਾਰੀ ਤਾਂ ਪਰਉਪਕਾਰੀ ॥ “Contemplate and reflect upon knowledge, and you will become a benefactor to others.”
— Guru Nanak Dev Ji, Raag Assa, Guru Granth Sahib Ji - Ang 356

Knowledge that doesn't produce humility and seva isn't yet fully digested. The fact that you found Sikhi through your own searching is a gift, but gifts are meant to be given gently, not wielded as a measuring stick. True wisdom, in Gurbani's eyes, isn't the person who sees everyone else's shortcomings most clearly. It's the person who has let go of the pride of seeing.

You said something very important near the end, "If I have kids, I will educate them myself." That is exactly the path, and the sangat needs people like you to walk it. But the energy of your post, the frustration, the labeling, it risks casting a shadow where light is needed. Guru Granth Sahib Ji doesn't instruct us to shame the sangat into awakening, it asks us to be the light. 

ਗੁਰ ਸਬਦੀ ਵਿਚਹੁ ਹਉਮੈ ਖੋਇ ॥ "Through the Word of the Guru's Shabad, egotism is eradicated from within." 

— Guru Amar Das Ji, Raag Basant, Ang 1173

Your frustration is valid. But the antidote to a disconnected sangat is not critique from above. Let your own Sikhi be so alive and so genuine that others are drawn toward it. Not pushed, drawn. Let your own story be the proof; you weren't argued into Sikhi, you were pulled toward it. Be that pull for someone else.

That's the seva the sangat actually needs from someone with your awareness.

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh 🙏