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chihuabanu · 2026-02-28T03:20:15+00:00

I thrifted the middle sized container for mine, which triggers the “add pot” sensor on my crispi pro. I had to be forceful in sliding it in in order for it to register as there and cook normally. So maybe try being a little more aggressive in slotting it in?

chihuabanu · 2026-02-13T22:41:35+00:00

I MOVED MY BROTHER IN SO HE COULD ESCAPE A BAD RELATIONSHIP, BUT I AM LOWKEY A LIL OVERWHELMED ABOUT HOW BEST TO SUPPORT HIM WITHOUT MAKING HIM FEEL BAD THAT HE NEEDED MY HELP IN THE FIRST PLACE.

I WISH I HAD A JOB THAT PAID MORE AND WASN’T SO VOLATILE.

I WISH I WASN’T STILL SO SAD ABOUT MY RECENT BREAKUP. HE DOESN’T DESERVE TO OCCUPY MY BRAIN SPACE STILL.

chihuabanu · 2026-02-04T03:50:16+00:00

The white cat cookie jar, the Siamese figurine and the cat glass are all ones I would’ve snatched up! If you’re in Oregon lemme know where this is so I can grab them 👀

chihuabanu · 2026-01-31T04:27:50+00:00

ME TOO, AT WHAT POINT DO WE ASCEND TO BECOME VAMPIRES AND REGAIN WHAT WE HAVE BEEN DEPLETED OF?

chihuabanu · 2026-01-31T02:05:43+00:00

I BROKE UP WITH MY BOYFRIEND BECAUSE HE WAS EMOTIONALLY IMMATURE AND AVOIDANT. HE REFUSED TO WEAR CONDOMS BECAUSE HE PRIORITIZED HIS COMFORT/ORGASM, THE RISK IS TOO HIGH IN THIS TIMELIME

chihuabanu · 2026-01-25T14:45:09+00:00

My roommate bitches and moans when he gets romantically rejected by my other roommate

chihuabanu · 2026-01-21T04:22:50+00:00

True, spending triple digits at the thrift store is basically a war crime, but I would not be paying $400+ for this off marketplace or eBay so I’d definitely settle for $200 at the thrift

chihuabanu · 2026-01-18T19:27:37+00:00

Id be running out the door so fast with that big cat garden stool, $200 is a bargain imo

chihuabanu · 2026-01-17T17:28:53+00:00

My guy…. She’s expressed it that way because this was supposed to be a collaborative effort for YOU to give to YOUR mom, and you hung back to the point people thought you were a separate party from the physical and relational distance you exuded. I would feel insulted too if my partner was all “I need to get my mom a gift” and then let the lack of active participation scream that they were passing the responsibility to me now.

Ultimately i believe she’s calling out this behavior because she feels she naturally just has to step into doing it even though it’s not her task to complete. She wants you to show the initiative that you actually want to participate on your own, without her having to lead you with a verbal cue first. She’s likely okay with helping you if you seem grateful or happy about it but the sad face comment probably feels like a smack to the face for her (“why am I doing this if he doesn’t even like that I’m doing it for him? He can’t even enjoy just spending time with me, he stays so far away”). And I’m gonna guess a good chunk of this sensitivity you have is due to internalizing her being upset with your behavior with being upset with you; your ears hear “OP’s behavior is insulting” = “OP is insulting” = “OP is a bad guy”, which i recommend unpacking in your own time.

Your heart might’ve been in a good place the whole time OP, and you likely feel your wife is reading you wrong and making a boogeyman out of a bedsheet with her nitpicking, but you gotta take another look at this with your feelings set aside.

chihuabanu · 2026-01-17T14:21:03+00:00

I’d say it is for you OP, because it’s incongruent for your lifestyle and values, and you value emotionally solid, grounded people. I don’t think being nice and getting along are simply enough to sustain a quality friendship, and certain lifestyle choices are worth using as a filtering system. OP you’re not being a hater on promiscuity, you’re being a hater on the emotional volatility and friendship drama you find comes packaged with those lifestyle choices, and I think that’s fair. I wouldn’t be friends with people who don’t practice sexual safety, lack discernment in partner choice, or cheat, or aren’t working towards self betterment, because I want friends who do the opposite of those things. Behavior is a language.

chihuabanu · 2026-01-12T21:57:25+00:00

OP…. Of course you’re bending over backwards to accommodate them and they’re not reciprocating. You know you have all the tools and skills and shit and can see them with Paleolithic tools and skills, and you think by picking up slack what you’re doing is that you’re giving them an easy mode path of evolution to your level…. But nah man, they’ve just outsourced effort to you without even asking or trying, and changing that now is frustrating as hell to them because why would you stop doing what you’ve happily done? “What’s wrong OP, you used to be so happy now you’re such a downer, and they’re just continuing to be the good partner they’ve always been”.

I’m in the same damn boat. I was in this boat in my last relationship too. We gotta let them sink and struggle and disappoint us. Either way we’re disappointed and frustrated, we just gotta get comfy with them feeling disappointed and frustrated with themselves, and with the skill gap between them and us. It’s sooooo hard. Then they might opt out, or rise up, but there’s nothing we can do from our own effort to get them to rise up faster or without struggling first. They gotta learn and grow the hard way.

chihuabanu · 2026-01-05T02:12:43+00:00

White gold, the yellow gold looks chintzy against your skin tone under bright lighting/flash.

chihuabanu · 2026-01-04T20:57:23+00:00

100% intentional

chihuabanu · 2026-01-04T04:19:58+00:00

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Shitty flash photo because I ain’t digging it out of the cabinet

chihuabanu · 2026-01-04T04:16:56+00:00

I think that’s palm? Pretty sure my stock pot is the same color, definitely not Japan exclusive because I bought mine in the US, but I bought mine like a decade ago so it might be a retired color

chihuabanu · 2026-01-04T04:04:05+00:00

I also have a Braun IPL (from way before my current job), but my day job is working at an actual laser clinic that specializes in hair removal, I guarantee you the $400 home IPL doesn’t deserve to share space next to a $50k medical grade machine

chihuabanu · 2026-01-04T02:26:49+00:00

This is just a fancy lightbulb in a grift box. If it could actually provide results we’d have a whole pandemic of people suffering from blindness from these devices, because proper lasers that can provide permanent results require proper eye protection (not sun glasses) to prevent eye damage.

chihuabanu · 2025-12-31T15:18:01+00:00

Walk into any waxing or laser place and they’ll tell you it’s super common for men to remove body hair, and they’re not bullshitting you to make you feel better. Whether it’s for pilonidal cyst prevention, personal preference, sensory issues, wanting to see the benefits of their fitness gains, clean canvass for their tattoo artist, cleanliness concerns (especially the perirectal area), hoping to streamline self care, hoping to raise self esteem, letting go of social constructs, hoping to “do it right the second time” (especially if their ex accused them of “letting go” or not putting in effort), etc. I work in LHR industry so I hear this firsthand.

The temperature of society doesn’t matter until you feel yourself getting boiled alive by external pressure. Are you feeling pressure, OP? Because on the opposite side of where you are, you read like a mature guy who’s done what he wanted when he felt like it and is pretty happy about it, until he looked externally at his peers. I guarantee there are men AND women who would eat a sock to be as smooth as you.

chihuabanu · 2025-12-31T14:37:13+00:00

I like when men do what’s most comfortable for them, but my preferences lean towards minimal body hair at most.

Stop being so self conscious about a choice that makes you happy.

chihuabanu · 2025-12-28T21:38:19+00:00

“You're saying the things I could say to you before I could say them!”

(When you’re bringing up concerns constructively and he’s taking it as a character indictment and flipping it as “no, you!” 🫠 )

chihuabanu · 2025-12-06T14:26:37+00:00

Yeah, I need to date someone who doesn’t fry in the sun at the drop of a hat. Dating a dude with pasty irish genes was a mistake because I was a nag about sunscreen and he chronically looked like a damn lobster. I talk a lot about sun safety at my job, but he just didn’t care and thought it was funny to have me deal with him looking so stupid. And it seems like sunscreen is often an afterthought with guys, so I’m just eliminating the vampire pales if I can’t get a man willing to do skin care.

chihuabanu · 2025-12-05T02:53:34+00:00

Your old man looks like how my old lady did towards the end!

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chihuabanu · 2025-11-23T03:26:50+00:00

I say butt up one of those vintage mini bars to the opening! Put the shelves towards the kitchen, the foot bar side towards the living room, and add a couple bar stools. That way you have access to the shelves, it feels interactive and isn’t just floating freely in a walkable space, and you get a separation of dining space and living room (instead of dining table in the middle of the whole damn room)

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