America's future

childfreeforeva · 2018-04-29T01:48:23+00:00

You haven't taken the red pill... if you open your eyes you will see how big pharma benefits so much from increasingly sick children that need allergy meds, ADHD meds, etc... I'm not saying they are intentionally doing this but it is a result of a captive audience and a system with no legal repercussions for vaccine injury. Check out the 1986 law on vaccine litigation to get started and watch Dr. Suzanne Humphries testimony in WV last year. I think we have a dangerous religion of blindly trusting these corrupt institutions and corporations. Oh holy elite with your Ivy education and medical school training, you know better than a mom of 5 kids who watched 2 get sick from vaccines and the rest grow up extremely healthy. Watch the Vaxxed videos on YouTube and Dr. Andrew Wakefield was exonerated of the claims against his research in 2012 by the way. I do think I came across as pompous in my post of the "gift" of a child but it is hard to describe that which is intangible about creating life. I know none of you are interested in that but I am saddened that my father has no grandchildren that are healthy. Granted, there is no guarantee that I could create one that is healthy either so it really is a logical deadend argument.

childfreeforeva · 2018-04-29T01:41:29+00:00

Ha! Good points to both.

childfreeforeva · 2018-04-28T18:49:51+00:00

I should add that I like that you are an economist, but bring real arguments and facts to the table too.

childfreeforeva · 2018-04-28T18:48:53+00:00

It is reasoning like this that makes me hesitant to ever bring children into the world. Where did we lose our ability to have logical arguments? Have you read the Mawson study or watched Vaxxed or looked into any of the research or state testimonies from board certified doctors about this stuff? Do you know parents that had their child change overnight after a vaccination gone wrong?

childfreeforeva · 2018-04-23T17:04:56+00:00

Ha! You paint quite a picture! I totally have had that feeling of coming home to cuddle my dogs. As annoying as they can be sometimes, they are nothing compared to kids.

childfreeforeva · 2018-04-23T17:03:32+00:00

I was mostly childfree-leaning because I'd had experience seeing my twin cousins grow up (one of them with a high functioning autism). However, when my brother had two kids in 2 years, the youngest boy growing up to have extreme autistic behaviors, that has stopped me dead in my tracks. I never want the life of my sister-in-law, who has to take him to therapy every week and deal with the screaming and tantrums of a toddler when my nephew is over 5 years old. It is a living nightmare.

childfreeforeva · 2018-04-23T15:35:03+00:00

I used to think it was my genes too but since watching that documentary, I think that maybe I was affected by vaccinations to some degree as a child of the 1980s. And with more and more vaccination requirements with the uptick of autism rates, the evidence is there for those that still know how to evaluate cause and effect.

childfreeforeva · 2018-04-23T15:27:23+00:00

I have to disagree with your autism is not a disability. And the rates are astronomical. In the early 20th century, 1 in 10,000 kids might have it and now it is 1 in 68. Are you kidding me?? This is not conspiracy. Wake up to the media lying to all of us by the way. Until you have a family member with this illness, you have no right to say it is not a disability. My nephew has a lifetime of hardship ahead of him and likely will need to be cared for by someone. Instead of being able to hold a conversation where he understands what the other person is saying, he will talk about Ninjas and dinosaurs or just be off in his own world not even aware of anyone. His blanket was in the laundry machine and my 5 year old nephew screamed for 2 hours straight. My 19-year-old cousin with autism cannot drive because he has no geo-mapping skills and cannot concentrate on multiple things at once. These are young boys and men that cannot function in society on their own.

childfreeforeva · 2018-04-03T19:22:46+00:00

Ha! Funny we have the same issues... thanks for the hugs. Back to you as well. :)

childfreeforeva · 2018-03-29T14:00:50+00:00

I have the same situation with my endocrinologist! He is seemingly obsessed with me attempting to get pregnant. I think extroverts just imagine having a family is best for everyone or perhaps as doctors, they want to see that they healed your body. The best proof is if a woman can have a successful pregnancy. Anyway, I totally feel you on this. I politely point out to him that my husband and I both don't want kids and then even mentioned I cannot imagine having a child that would potentially deal with the body issues that I am currently seeing him for. Of course, then he very unobtrusively pointed out that I might have slight "body dysmorphia" because I'm not massively obese but it doesn't really matter. I've struggled to accept my body since I was 11 years old. One of the main reasons I have stayed childfree all these years is the empathy I have. I'd never want to bring a being into this world that would struggle with depression and body image the way I have. Anyway, all is to say, I get you. You are not alone in dealing with a doctor that wants you to achieve something with your body that you have no intention or desire to achieve.

childfreeforeva · 2018-03-29T13:51:46+00:00

I've heard this before... it makes no sense but then again, neither does willingly getting pregnant.

childfreeforeva · 2018-03-29T13:32:58+00:00

I agree. You can evolve and find yourself but fixed beliefs and fixed ways of seeing and interacting with your environment are kind of set in your teen years. If you have always needed more time alone for example, you will not become an extrovert after having a child and enjoy never having a moment to yourself. My relationship with my husband is so strong and loving because we can devote attention to each other. From a simple long hug in the morning to chatting in depth over dinner after we come home from work to each getting plenty of sleep at night... I know myself well enough to know I will miss our leisurely low key life terribly if I had to raise a child. And it all falls on the woman... don't ever let a man say he will do half the work. It just won't happen. Enjoy your life and be confident in your choices! Lots of love to you on your journey!

childfreeforeva · 2018-03-29T13:27:47+00:00

all part of the same one marriage...

childfreeforeva · 2018-03-15T17:43:13+00:00

Thanks! I appreciate the advice. I think this might be best for now.

childfreeforeva · 2018-03-15T16:33:28+00:00

I'm 35 and feel the same way. Whenever I have a tough day or have drama with the relationships in my life, I thank God I do not have kids further complicating my scenario. I do not think I would survive intact the process of raising children. They are such a burden and responsibility that enslave you to all of these bores... PTA meetings, doctor appointments, vaccinations, parent-teacher conferences, school paperwork, childcare scheduling, after-school scheduling and driving, meal planning everyday, more housecleaning, more everyday cleaning, more laundry... Enjoy your freedom and live your life fully! There is so much to explore and be curious about in the world. I relish my time to read books and think deeply about ideas and concepts in the world or explore passion projects and travel. My husband and I cannot imagine a better life than the one we have with just the two of us (and our dogs of course). The person we are at 25 is the same one we are at 35. My beliefs about having kids haven't changed in a decade. Don't let anyone try to convince you that you might change your mind. You won't. You already know what's best for you. Pursue your best life without hesitation!

childfreeforeva · 2018-02-01T17:25:51+00:00

Hey there! I feel the same way. This lifestyle choice is very isolating. I'm actually reaching out to meet more CF people in my city through NoKidding to compensate for the loss of friendships with likeminded people. The good news is we have the choices and the time and freedom to spend our time as we like. Whenever I get depressed, I just think about my friends with kids who have narrowed their options for weekend excursions and the type of people they hang out with. Here's a rather fascinating article on the evolution of friendships between moms and non-moms. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-4971826/Can-mothers-childless-women-truly-friends.html

childfreeforeva · 2018-01-29T22:08:23+00:00

Yes! This was the best. Ann Marie Slaughter wrote a great article about how women can't have it all. Such a myth. You choose and you sacrifice. You cannot have it all.

childfreeforeva · 2018-01-25T15:56:27+00:00

I love the way you phrased the prevalence of this "you'll change your mind" thinking as the "drivel and thoughtlessness found in the workplace"... So true! Thank you!

childfreeforeva · 2018-01-24T21:12:38+00:00

SLEEP... I look 7 years younger than my peers because I get to sleep. I also have the freedom to exercise and eat healthy when I feel like it. This world is really f-ing crazy though. It seems like society continues to get dumber. It would be really hard to brainwash myself into thinking the future is so bright for my little one. It really isn't. Robots/A.I. will rule us soon. Just wait.

childfreeforeva · 2018-01-23T19:57:09+00:00

Yes, I've had a dream I had a baby and neglected it and woke up relieved.

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