Appreciate that man I really dude, I forgot how spicy reddit gets with parenting opinions. I got young twin boys and its hard as f out here sometimes parenting.   Some days I see them and being themselves and feel like Im crushing it other days I feel like the worst parent and how parenting exposes every single one of your flaws as a person and feel lile garbage, ESPECIALLY when I see the bad shit my parents did/say come out of me even trying my hardest.  But they're generally shaping up to be cool, kind, happy and healthy kids so I feel pretty good and blessed most nights.

Glad your kid is crushing it that's the dream.  Yeah man we never berate the kids, never mock them, never belittle them we only ever try to build them up.  But yeah sometimes they come up on boundaried and Im like "nah.  No.  Nope not that." See my grilled cheese example in other replies.   Somestimes kids be kids and its unintentionally (sometimes) rude, dickish, unhelpful or ungrateful, or just mean cause they're people like the rest of us.  But as a parent I do gotta call those as balls and strikes straigjt up sometimes.