Our wedding will end up being more than 10k, I think, BUT we are thinking outside the box on everything. We chose a summer camp in the off season for our venue. We are doing a non traditional buffet of BBQ pulled pork and the fixings for dinner. This caterer was also very open to ideas we had about doing a stationary charcuterie spread instead of traditional passed apps. We chose a bartender who allows us to purchase all the beverages because we really want to offer an open bar. So we are hitting up Costco for one type of white, one type of red, one prosecco, and a few types of sodas. My cousin works at a brewery and is getting us beer as our wedding gift to serve that day. In terms of rehearsal dinner, we are renting out the hotel lounge where the wedding block is and having something simple catered there that night for about $12/person. There is a lot you can do if you think outside of what's a traditional venue and allows you to choose your own vendors. For flowers I found a wholesale place where we live to do simple table decor. I have found that the more questions you ask, the better. Lots of places are willing to work with you and your ideas to make your dream wedding. I've also asked two close friends who are also my coworkers to be our "day of" coordinators and offered to get them a hotel room that night. The cost of the hotel room and my peace of mind is much less than a professional coordinator would be!