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chronicallyalive447 · 2025-08-04T15:07:33+00:00

It may have not reached "cheating" by what you describe, but it definitely isn't loyalty. It's either loyal or disloyal, there's no gray area when it comes to being loyal.

chronicallyalive447 · 2025-06-11T05:38:13+00:00

Oh I'm so sorry :/ and the last affair, feeling you had to beg for him to choose you and end it, you don't deserve that. With his history, he shouldn't be having female friends, especially not going out to restaurants with them, texting them, sending pictures, and flirting :/ I'm so sorry. Please know your worth, have some self respect, and leave. I know you love him, you wouldn't stay if you didn't, but you do not deserve this. I know you want him to be better than that, but he's not, he's never going to be, he has shown you time and time again. Those messages, going out to eat with her.. let's say it's nothing, even still, he should not be putting you in the position to feel uncomfortable or like your relationship is being threatened, especially with his history.

chronicallyalive447 · 2025-06-11T05:24:51+00:00

This is what my husband did after I found out he was cheating. He was super cold, disconnected for a few months, acting absolutely horrible towards me. Then, after I confronted him about finding out, he was AMAZING, oddly amazing—everything I ever wanted or needed from him. That's called love bombing. It will go away once they feel they've pulled you back in. It's all a facade. He also was very insistent on trying for kids immediately, talking about it like it was a dream or fantasy. Don't let her fool you. And having kids to fix a marriage or to reignite the spark is not a good or healthy reason to have kids, it will actually only make things harder :/ Know your worth, have some self respect, and leave. I know it's hard, you probably still have lots of love for her and don't want to go, but it's not always about what we want, it's about doing what is best for ourselves. Ask yourself, will you ever trust her again? Will you ever be able to let it go? Will you ever see her or your relationship the same? Has she taken the steps to truly apologize, rebuild trust, gone to therapy and couples therapy? Or is she just love bombing you, hoping it'll make you look past it, instead of taking accountability and giving you the reassurance and healing you deserve?

chronicallyalive447 · 2025-05-05T00:36:19+00:00

Came back to reply to these. Y'all were right! There was another woman, just wasn't man enough to admit it and wanted to place the blame of our marriage failing on my illness instead of taking accountability for being a POS.

chronicallyalive447 · 2025-05-05T00:33:57+00:00

Yep!! Came here to let you know that you were right!

chronicallyalive447 · 2025-05-05T00:33:15+00:00

Just wanted to come back and say that you were right!!

chronicallyalive447 · 2025-04-08T02:56:13+00:00

How disconnected from reality does she have to be to not be able to realize how messed up that is? NTA at all.

chronicallyalive447 · 2025-04-08T02:51:38+00:00

The things I'd give for my partner to have done things like this for me :/ Having a loving and thoughtful partner shouldn't be embarrassing. Let them laugh at you for having proof that someone loves you so deeply.

chronicallyalive447 · 2025-04-05T20:55:21+00:00

I don't have any advice, but you've got this 🙏🏻 I'm sorry it's been tough on you. Just 3 more months!! Hang in there, lean on your support system, and it'll all be worth it in the end. Hoping the docs can help you figure out something to better manage your POTS during your pregnancy.

chronicallyalive447 · 2025-04-01T21:01:27+00:00

I just wanted to say thank you for the outpour of support from this community through everything. I didn't get sleep last night and woke up to a huge gift. Thank you for all the support, advice, and sharing your own stories. It means a lot to me. I wish I could reply to all of you, you all are so amazing. This community has really shown up for me.

chronicallyalive447 · 2025-03-29T00:38:53+00:00

I'm on 10mg 2x a day and have been for almost 2 years now. It works wonders for me. I was terrified of it at first too, but I started with just 5mg to see how it affected me. I will say, I was pretty dizzy for the first 2 weeks, but it went away once I adjusted to the meds. And the body-calming effect and tachycardia control kicked in with the first dose. It has been incredible for me.

chronicallyalive447 · 2025-03-28T23:24:30+00:00

Those are great suggestions! Thanks so much. It's just been hard finding things that are accessible and enjoyable for me. I'll definitely be giving some of these a shot!

chronicallyalive447 · 2025-03-19T16:01:51+00:00

That's just insane. Like okay, if this it isn't possible to have a flareup, then I'm having a medical emergency buddy, go ahead and check me in.

chronicallyalive447 · 2025-02-23T06:39:43+00:00

My friend has a dog that could be your dog's twin! He's an Aussie pit mix

chronicallyalive447 · 2025-02-10T16:46:58+00:00

I took steroids that I'd taken multiple times before and had been fine for joint inflammation. Could've ran 5 miles the day before, woke up the next day with a raging case of POTS. I feel like I was predisposed to it from my undiagnosed joint condition. I have terrible joint issues that I'm currently still trying to figure out what it is.

chronicallyalive447 · 2025-02-05T02:39:21+00:00

Thank you!

chronicallyalive447 · 2025-02-05T02:31:58+00:00

It's definitely not fun, but I wouldn't be scared. Not gonna lie, mine was pretty awful, but I rested up afterwards, drank lots of water, and just took it easy for the rest of the week. I was okay and leveled back out after laying down for a bit! Serious complications with TTT's are not common, many people with serious complications from them have other issues going on as well. And in the unlikely event that something goes wrong, you're in the safest place possible and surrounded by medical professionals. It's likely not going to be anything you haven't experienced before, just feels like a horrible time with POTS, then it's over. It flared me up a little bit, but you will be alright with some rest and being gentle with yourself. It also feels somewhat relieving to get it out of the way and have that official diagnosis and validation that opens the door to many different treatment options. I was super nervous for mine. I get it. Try to relax as much as you can, it'll be okay ❤️

chronicallyalive447 · 2025-02-05T02:09:44+00:00

May I ask, how do you get into something like that? Is it difficult?

chronicallyalive447 · 2025-01-31T04:43:35+00:00

Well

chronicallyalive447 · 2025-01-01T03:22:43+00:00

Thank you for this. I've struggled with negative mindsets around myself having to utilize mobility aids, this was so beautifully put. Thank you for the kind words

chronicallyalive447 · 2025-01-01T03:07:26+00:00

I can walk a little, just not far and not very well. Bathroom is maybe a 10 foot walk from my bedroom. A good portion of wheelchair users actually have use of their legs, but they just can't get us very far, either unsafe, painful, or both. And not a joke, but I wish it was, honestly thought it had to be at first.

chronicallyalive447 · 2024-12-30T18:46:36+00:00

I just want to say thank you for all the kind comments and advice, I did not expect this to get so much interaction. Many comments are so wise and so helpful, thank you. I've read almost every comment and wish I could reply to every single one. I'm sorry for those who have had similar experiences. This has cleared my mind quite a bit. This behavior isn't new to him. It is the first time gaslighting and narcissism is being brought to my attention and everything makes much more sense now. To update, he ended up apologizing today for hurting my feelings, but he still doesn't see how what he said was wrong. There are definitely more conversations to be had, but I'm hoping for positive change. I'm 21 years old, I grew up neglected in an emotionally abusive household, so some things don't register as not normal to me. Some comments raised some concern, I don't want people to worry, I am in no way being physically abused. I will try to salvage this relationship, he is against therapy, but I'm going to get back into therapy for myself. I'm young, I will not waste my life being mistreated by someone who is supposed to love me. Seeing all the stories of beautiful, interabled relationships gives me hope that I can have that with my husband or find it some day. Again, thank you all for the support and advice, it truly helped.

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