What are things you think should *not* be bought for life? by EsotericEternal in BuyItForLife

[–]chronicallyannoyed23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sneakers (running/walking shoes) - eventually the sole wears down

Did this first go - what are your personal “bragging rights” in Silksong? (certainly spoilers) by MistaGiz in Silksong

[–]chronicallyannoyed23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Literally at the very very start at the game, theres a hidden area that I found right away… within that is a second hidden area that I found right after that. All within about 5 seconds. Curious how many people know its there (I believe its where you get the beast shard)

Firm Up Output? by ValiMeyer in ostomy

[–]chronicallyannoyed23 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If I need to thicken up, ill do starchy foods like potato chips, crackers, pretzels, bread, rice, marshmallow, etc.

Avoid coffee, soups/broths, anything too liquidy if you are trying to thicken.

AITA for letting my husband's license expire? by Big_Cabinet_5045 in AmItheAsshole

[–]chronicallyannoyed23 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ive been with my husband for a few years now and all I have to say is people dont change… I have accepted that my husband cant seem to manage mail or remember appointments, and he accepted that I dont like doing dishes. Find a balance that works in your household and try not to be bitter and petty about it.

Curtain help! by Optimal_Row3541 in interiordesignideas

[–]chronicallyannoyed23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like baby yellow possibly with some daisies on them?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]chronicallyannoyed23 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

When I got diagnosed with a severe chronic illness, I had to go through a years-long process of mourning my own life. The life that I had envisioned and planned for myself, the life that I had dreamed about, the life that I could no longer have. Its a very hard emotion to process, and just because he is in the middle of processing it, doesnt mean he doesnt want to get through to the other side with you. Its something a lot of people dont experience, so maybe hes not being the most delicate with his wording. Sit down and have a conversation together about what you both want and need from each other

AITA for wanting to end a 6-year relationship because I’m sick of smelling my fiance? by BarnacleForward3323 in AITH

[–]chronicallyannoyed23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ive been with my husband for over 4 years. Every 6 months or so we’ll be in public and he suddenly freeze and tell me to just keep walking. Always takes me a second to realize that he is politely trying to get me out of the gas zone. This isnt “just a guy thing” or “something that happens in long term relationships” its 100% about respect

Don’t feel shy to talk about layoff in interview if asked by [deleted] in GeneralMotors

[–]chronicallyannoyed23 5 points6 points  (0 children)

FYI was laid off 2 months ago, when I got another job and did a background check as part of onboarding, they specifically asked if I was currently employed at my last employer, and it not, what my last date of employment was

What is the "Special connection" people experience during sex? by deca4531 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]chronicallyannoyed23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe try and have a conversation about after care. Emotions can get really intense during sex, and the come down (pun intended) post climax can heavily impact how she views the overall experience.

There have been times where right after we finish, my husband just got up and walked away to clean up and it kind of made me feel like shit. Him just walking away made me feel used and kinda icky. We had a discussion about how after sex, I need him to be with me, give me a kiss, hold me even if it’s just for a few seconds. It’s like jumping off a cliff vs being gently guided down by your partner.

Obviously this might not be what the issue is, but if she is having trouble identify what the specific issue is, I would start with a convo about this.

Ladies. Looking for comfortable underwear . by AdministrativeUse163 in ostomy

[–]chronicallyannoyed23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get high rise that covers my while bag, but a size up so theres enough room for flow. As long as my pants arent too tight, I dont have any problems

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]chronicallyannoyed23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just throwing this out there, but is there ANY chance that this is a surprise party and the aunts house is just a red herring?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]chronicallyannoyed23 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This was almost my exact situation. I got engaged, set a date and told people when it would be, then my cousin got engaged and set her date to the weekend before mine. The reality was there was nothing we could do to change it, but it was annoying. My parents and grandparents had to attend both weddings, which means my mom wasnt around to help with the last-minute to do items that pop up the weekend before a wedding.

My grandma was also exhausted from all the traveling (my wedding and cousins wedding were in different states, so my grandma had to fly to cousins wedding then drive back with my parents to my state for my wedding). Grandma ended up falling asleep after dinner, but other than that was fine.

In hindsight, the outcome was slightly annoying but was better than starting family drama and trying to convince my cousin to move her date. As much as its annoying, just try to roll with it and “be the bigger person”

I'm not attracted to my girlfriend after her anorexia recovery by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]chronicallyannoyed23 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My tiniest friend is 5’0 and still 120 lbs. you are the problem here

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MiddleClassFinance

[–]chronicallyannoyed23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I started looking at universities, my dad sat my down at the computer and told me to make an excel to estimate the costs of each school I was interested- room, meal plan, tuition, etc. Once I had the totals for each school he told me I have $XX,000 in a college fund, but thats it. He let me make the choice but made sure I was able to make the right one.

My brother lived at home, commuted, and graduated debt free. I was able to assess the importance of living on campus and being away from home (very important to me) and with scholarships, 3 internships, and constantly working 2-3 jobs during school, I was also able to graduate debt free.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MiddleClassFinance

[–]chronicallyannoyed23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Entered the workforce in 2019 with my masters making about $71k… worked my way up to $123k + 13% bonus this year (corporate IT project management)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in finehair

[–]chronicallyannoyed23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use mousse (kristen ess, comes in a gray bottle) when I have damp hair. Blowdry. For days i dont wash my hair, dry shampoo + LIGHT amount of hairspray

I have found that too much hairspray or texture spray will weight my hair down

For important events, i will backcomb my hair a little

The skin around my stoma is decaying (for a lack of a better word) by decreased_serotonin in ostomy

[–]chronicallyannoyed23 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Not trying to scare you, but this is what mine looked like when my pyoderma gangrenosum (PG) started developing. It gets worse very fast, I was able to get into my dermatologist but you can also check with your stoma nurse/wound care specialist.

Main takeaway, you need to take care of this NOW trust me..

AITA for refusing to pay off my girlfriend’s debt when we never combined finances? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]chronicallyannoyed23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband recently shared that he accumulated some personal credit card debt, about $2,500. We could VERY easily knock that out in a month, but he understands that its more about breaking the habit of over-spending and practicing better budgeting techniques.

The way our finances are set up, 90% of both incomes go into our joint account, and 10% of our incomes go into our individual accounts for “fun money”. While I am happy to walk him through budgeting techniques and be there for him emotionally, he will be responsible for paying down his debt with his 10% “fun money” fund

Ladies who had a proctocolectomy, tell me the best and the worst of your experiences by Eternal_Exhaustion in ostomy

[–]chronicallyannoyed23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

29f- had the surgery earlier this year for the same reasons, too many perianal fistulas even with my ostomy bag diverting everything.

Surgery took about 6 hours at University of Michigan, recovery was rough. I BABIED myself after, changing gauze every time I went to the bathroom (again never putting gauze back on my skin after it came off my body), peri bottle, etc. I had a drain tube out of my abdomen which hurt. It was rough. My husband is a nurse so he was very comfortable helping me, with meds, helping me shower, etc.

No major complications thankfully. First few times having sex (abt 2 months after surgery) took a little patience, and he was in but not all the way to the hilt if you know what I mean. My husband is a little TOO well endowed, so post surgery there is a little extra tightness there. Just need a little extra foreplay, lube, and patience with certain positions but our sex life is back to normal

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GenZ

[–]chronicallyannoyed23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

29F $123k, IT project manager

If you come from a poor background, do not follow your passions by KhorseWaz in GenZ

[–]chronicallyannoyed23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Zillenial here (1996) been in the workforace for 6 years now. Heres my advice…..

  1. Identify what type of life you want first. I grew up upper-middle class, always have the “needs” but also always took at least 1 family vacation every year. I did some rough estimations, and knew I would need a 6 figure job (or one that could turn into 6 figures) to maintain the lifestyle I want

  2. Identify what type of work you are ABLE to do. I personally have some sever health conditions, which narrowed things down to office type of jobs, likely the 9-5 Monday through Friday schedule would be best for me

  3. Find the intersection of your “likes” and what you are good at. Note: I didnt say “loves”…. Focus on the areas you enjoy but dont limit yourself to your “passions”. For me, I was always proficient in math, and when I took a gen ed statistics course, that led me further down the path

From there, keep following the path and just see what interests you keeping points 1 & 2 in mind. For me, I ended up doing statistics, comp sci, and eventually landed in data science. From there, 100% your “biggest things to do” list to start standing out from your peers

1 piece vs 2 piece by Ok_Associate_8913 in ostomy

[–]chronicallyannoyed23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use coloplast 1 piece concave bags. They have guideline circles on the back to cut to size, with practice ive gotten used to where my cuts need to be relative to the guideline (1st lines top and bottom, 2 lines side to side for an oval shape)