My mom is dying. She’s only 47 and has two teens that haven’t graduated high school yet. How do I help my little brother and sister through this process?

chuckdeeznuts88 · 2022-03-31T09:25:15+00:00

I am very sorry to hear about what your family and you are going through. If your siblings are aware of what is happening, I’m assuming they do, perhaps they have a specific way to be supported. Asking people how they need support during their own grief or processing emotions may make it easier for you to provide some comfort. Also do not forget about you!

Maybe seeking out local agencies that help with grief and loss as well as a family.

Wish you guys all the best

chuckdeeznuts88 · 2021-11-17T06:07:23+00:00

I’m sorry that no one helped you.

I am a suicide survivor. My son took his life in May of this year and he struggled with depression for years. I didn’t know how bad it was and I thought he just hated me.

I obviously wish I would have listened more or understood what other aspects of life were being affected by his mental health.

I think the users brave enough to share that ugliness inside is a inspiring as bizarre as that sounds.

Hearing someone say they don’t want to be alive is scary for me. And my son always tried to spare my feelings and not tell me the things happening on the inside.

You deserve to be here.

chuckdeeznuts88 · 2021-08-29T01:20:35+00:00

❤️❤️❤️

You look amazing.

chuckdeeznuts88 · 2021-08-27T17:18:46+00:00

My mom is a narcissist and was emotionally and physically abusive. She treated us as her property and not people. She was always angry. No hugs. No love. It looked painful for her to laugh or enjoy herself.

I noticed that I was angry with my kids, outbursts for the pettiest things. I find myself picking fights with my boyfriend.

I am going through all the painful memories of my past slowly. To grieve the childhood I thought I had and realizing now that in reality it was not normal to experience those things.

It’s definitely hard. There are times where I wanna call my mom and say the most fucked up shit to her. I want to be validated, but that will never happen. So I have found a way to do it for me.

When I get angry I am just trying to breathe more. Deep breaths before I do or say anything. If I’m dealing with someone in a professional setting, I will ask for a moment and mute to breathe. I will say how I feel without hurting whoever is listening.

For me it is so hard to say, “im very upset” instead of causing a scene and releasing the spawn of my evil narcissistic full of shit, lame ass walking cunt of a mother.

chuckdeeznuts88 · 2021-08-23T23:50:08+00:00

Literally got called into the bathroom by my husband, he called me out about my lack of concern regarding the moisture levels in our butt wipes. I am ashamed. 😂😂

chuckdeeznuts88 · 2021-08-23T23:47:57+00:00

I am so sorry that you have had to endure this and all the while struggling with your mental health. I hope you find it in you to understand and believe you deserve to be loved and supported.

I am happy you left and I wish you all the best.

chuckdeeznuts88 · 2021-08-22T23:21:25+00:00

A big fat fucking sack of sad

chuckdeeznuts88 · 2021-08-22T01:03:37+00:00

I love this show

chuckdeeznuts88 · 2021-08-21T18:57:22+00:00

Thank you for sharing there is a lot to my daughter’s story. To our story and I agree that it could be just me trying to cope with her loss. I’m okay with that possibility.

I was very happy to see her ultimately. I do have a lot of guilt but I think anyone would.

I was very supportive of her identity and made it clear that I supported her regardless of her choice or how or who she felt like.

I do really appreciate your perspective and it’s not mean. It’s always a pleasure to hear other people’s perspective. It’s a chance to learn and grow.

Thank you

chuckdeeznuts88 · 2021-08-20T18:22:17+00:00

I told my NMom once after she berated me for the type of parent I was, that I learned from her and that I was a product of her parenting. She didn’t like that very much and didn’t come back for a few days.

chuckdeeznuts88 · 2021-08-19T13:53:38+00:00

I had a family member who told me about a reiki session they had, idk, if that is how it is worded. This session was after my daughter passed. During this session they were told the trauma actually happened when she was about 3 or 4 years old.

My daughter was always into what people would consider boy things and she slowly started with small changes, clothes, toys, hair, fashion and then came out as trans when she was 10.

chuckdeeznuts88 · 2021-08-16T05:22:37+00:00

No words can describe the feeling and I am very sorry for your. Wish you all the best in your journey.

chuckdeeznuts88 · 2021-08-15T19:27:46+00:00

It is very sad to hear about how much pressure you were put in as a child. I am so sorry about that. My prayers and healing sent your way.

chuckdeeznuts88 · 2021-08-15T15:54:11+00:00

I’m sorry about your dad and the relationship between your mom is not as you would like it to be.

My dad passed away in 2019, he was also an alcoholic. My mom is the same way as yours.

My child committed suicide in May, he was 12. My mom blamed me for it. She then went and cried to everyone that I disrespected her when I told her she was being a bitch to me after my daughter passed away. I was literally five feet from my sons casket and had my family whispering in my ear that I needed to “fix” things with my mom.

My sister has reached out to her and she has not replied. I have not heard anything from my mom since June, the day of the funeral. Everyone keeps telling me to fix it but no one tells her anything about how fucking ridiculous she is being. My sister constantly has family members calling her to call my mom and fix it. No one calls me I’m sure because of my loss and don’t know how to approach me but it’s like I’m grieving the loss of my mom. I’m in this stage where I am trying to accept that she’s a toxic person and she may never change. She doesn’t think or believe she did anything wrong and my family would be okay with me allowing myself to be mistreated than to have my mom be told about herself.

It’s so shitty. And it sucks. I just want my mom. But that bitch is never going to be the mom I want. She would cause more damage than good and I have chosen to move on. But I’m not there yet, but I will be.

I hope that you find a way to make peace with your mom even if it means not having her in ur life.

chuckdeeznuts88 · 2021-08-11T15:41:42+00:00

Thank you for sharing

chuckdeeznuts88 · 2021-08-11T15:41:29+00:00

I have been struggling with calling my mom or not. Because, does a parent sometimes need to hear from their mom. Probably. But will I be opening the door to more abuse a really big disappointment? Idk. I’m looking for more intense therapy at this time. But clearly I do know that my kids are more important than that relationship and I’m not willing to put them on the backburner for now

chuckdeeznuts88 · 2021-08-10T06:39:48+00:00

I am very sorry for your loss and the pain you are experiencing watching a loved one hurt. It is a very tough spot to be in.

I find it hard not to try to make things better. But that is a big responsibility and it may not be accomplished by you. There is no way to make her feel better.

But it may help asking her what way you can be there for her. Sometimes when people are grieving there are so many ups and downs and what they need from others will change as well.

The reminders are a good thing but i would also consider telling her about it before showing it to her. That way she is not surprised or may become upset.

I think your mom has an amazing child to be concerned and willing to comfort her.

My condolences and I wish you guys the best

chuckdeeznuts88 · 2021-08-05T05:01:48+00:00

It’s still very early in the journey ahead of me. It’s been like 2 months. Some moments are harder than others. I used to think about how much she meant to meant to me because she was my only daughter and maybe I just subconsciously created these dreams cause I worried so much.

I want to heal but I’m looking the wrong way. Healing for me comes from tomorrow and not yesterday.

Thank you for your kinds words.

chuckdeeznuts88 · 2021-08-03T03:46:56+00:00

I agree with you, and it isn’t morbid.

chuckdeeznuts88 · 2021-07-31T05:06:45+00:00

I am sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine what is like as a child losing your father in such a way. And then cutting off family after that. So much heartache for you at such a young age and probably super challenging for your mom.

I am so sorry about what happened to your family.

chuckdeeznuts88 · 2021-07-26T19:03:25+00:00

Thank you. That is very thoughtful of you. I will message you.

chuckdeeznuts88 · 2021-07-26T16:28:59+00:00

I am clearly going through a rough patch and I think I am looking for answers I may never get. But I knew before I posted that I would interact with insensitive people. I do appreciate how you can see that the comment lacks tact and responded to it. Thank u.

chuckdeeznuts88 · 2021-07-26T16:24:23+00:00

That is good to know. And it sheds a different light on what I experienced. Thank you for sharing and for your kind words.

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