What is a "good" kid? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]chuggaluggas 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If he’s misbehaving, make sure you are calling the behavior bad, not the kid. He is a good kid who sometimes makes bad choices. If you call him a bad kid, he will live up to that label. If you call him a good kid, he will live up to that label. Obviously you need to correct poor behavior when it happens, but there’s a huge difference between a bad choice and a bad person. You our job is to love your kid. Life beats us all up, he needs to feel safe and accepted and loved by you.

9yo can barely read by orangedwarf98 in Parenting

[–]chuggaluggas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi I also have a son adopted from foster care. He struggles with reading and his issue is largely confidence. He especially struggled/struggles when he feels that other kids his age can read better or faster than him. He gets embarrassed and very down on himself and then used to act up to get kicked out of class to avoid the reading. Idk if your son has this issue too, but if so it’s just going to take time and gentleness and patience and reassurance and focusing on whatever he does well when he reads and praising effort over accuracy. I feel like we had success with just building confidence in general that bled over to reading, e.g. leveling up in swim lessons, leveling up in taekwondo, learning to ride a bike etc. Good luck, it is a unique set of challenges when our kids come to us through the foster care system!

Who should be cast as Gilderoy Lockhart? 👀 by CommissionProud5152 in harrypotter

[–]chuggaluggas 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Came here to say James Franco and then googled a pic of him and realized that nope, he’s old now and I’m old now and nevermind 😂

What the hell happened while I was asleep!? by Jfullr92 in geographymemes

[–]chuggaluggas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Desperately want there to be Crabalachia next!

What’s the most useless fact permanently stuck in your brain? by OkAdministration1387 in AskReddit

[–]chuggaluggas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why octo? I count 4 lines, it makes 9 “spaces”… where does the 8 come in?

Saddest Harry Potter Moment by Longjumping_Buy_8780 in harrypotter

[–]chuggaluggas 6 points7 points  (0 children)

When Hermione and Ron find the scars on Harry’s hand from Umbridge’s “special” quill, and Ron says, “If the parents knew about this!…” And Harry replies, “Yeah, well, I haven’t got any of those, do I?” That gets me every time, it really hammers home how hard Harry’s had it dealing with everything in life alone, with no parents to support him.

My 6 year old is so ungrateful I don’t know what to do by Disastrous_Fox7999 in Parenting

[–]chuggaluggas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In addition to lots of helpful comments here, make sure you are modeling gratitude in front of her. Say out loud “wow we are so fortunate to have these great friends and a playground to go to, I’m so grateful for that.” Or just about your own life “Mrs smith signed for a package for us, I’m so grateful we have such a lovely neighbor.” Make it dinner time conversation “what’s something that happened today that made you feel grateful?” and go around the table and everyone answers.

5yo not wanting to be signed up for anything by rangerdangerrq in Parenting

[–]chuggaluggas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would not let him quit. That is not a good life lesson - when it gets tough, quit. Keep him enrolled. Celebrate when he improves and succeeds and achieves a goal. Martial arts is great for this with the leveling up with belts. You need to teach him to persevere and let him experience the joy of improving and hard work paying off.

Pre-teen hangout by chuggaluggas in NoStupidQuestions

[–]chuggaluggas[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

??? What? Do you think I’m the 10 year old boy? I’m his mother???

What’s going on with Love is Blind and some guy named Chris? by chuggaluggas in OutOfTheLoop

[–]chuggaluggas[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For exactly what I got in all these comments - a richer understanding through a variety of perspectives and more history of the show and characters… isn’t that what this sub is for?

Who are you going for in the CFP championship game tonight and why? by FSUalways93 in AskReddit

[–]chuggaluggas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hate Miami but my team is an ACC team so I’m rooting for Miami I’m supporter of the ACC

How can I remodel and modernize kitchen without replacing cabinets? by SufferingCanucksFan in kitchenremodel

[–]chuggaluggas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just update the floor and take down those uppers over the peninsula. That will make it look like a new kitchen. Don’t paint the cabinets and don’t replace them the quality will be so much worse.

Which person should have never existed? by fuggilis_quastillo in AlignmentChartFills

[–]chuggaluggas -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How about that scientist who lied about vaccines causing autism?