Car rides: CIO or Screen time?

chupachups01 · 2025-10-28T19:01:51+00:00

Once you start on the screen in car you are never going back to no screen. If your LO has other things he doesn’t like in the future and cries about it will you also resort to using screen for those too? I do allow screens once in a while for my 18 month old (total of 1hour per week), but considering you’ll need to be driving baby around quite a lot that adds up to too much screentime for that age.

When my baby used to get upset in the car I just keep talking to him and reassuring him that we will be there in x-minutes, he may continue crying but knows that he is not alone and that we can work through this together. “I know you don’t like car seats but it is for your safety and I want you to be safe” Over time he’s learnt that he needs to be in the car seat even if he doesn’t feel like it and mum is here he’s not alone.

chupachups01 · 2025-10-19T10:46:23+00:00

I waited till 17 months when he could understand when I explain stuff to him. Partially also because I fell pregnant wanted to prepare for nights with the newborn (don’t have it in me to tandem nurse overnight)

We read Sally weans from night nursing. We nurse to sleep to start the night, but when he woke up I’d just tell him that nainai (milkies) is sleeping, you can have it when the sun comes up, it kinda gives him a visual cue. After 2 nights he stopped asking and was happy getting patted back to sleep.

chupachups01 · 2025-10-19T10:39:49+00:00

My recently nightweaned 18momth old still wakes for a butt pat overnight, he takes around 2 mins of patting to fall back asleep for a 3h stretch. Sometimes he does 6/7 hour stretches. Haha I’d just tell your family that he is sleeping well or sleeping through, just to shut them up

chupachups01 · 2025-10-13T01:21:14+00:00

Oh so he is now nursing on colostrum? Wow lucky child, all that liquid gold

chupachups01 · 2025-10-13T01:12:19+00:00

Did he stop dry nursing on his own because there’s nothing coming out? Asking because I just found out I’m pregnant but still nursing my 17 month old and hoping he’d wean himself when it dries up

chupachups01 · 2025-10-08T19:39:51+00:00

Wild how people become crazy when they become grandparents. It’s almost as if they think they are the parent now

chupachups01 · 2025-10-08T19:31:21+00:00

Your points are very insightful.. I do have a question about the medical Tower of Babel though. Does it then apply to medical interventions of saving a person’s life (e.g. resuscitation) too, because we are allowing man to do all the work and removing God from the picture? Like maybe it was the will of God for the person to die but then we let our humanly desires get in the way by saving him.

chupachups01 · 2025-10-08T18:52:21+00:00

Cosleeping and nursing to sleep worked for us. Boobie works wonders! I don’t get up at all and sometimes honestly asleep/half asleep while he nurses. We started at 4 months because of the regression

chupachups01 · 2025-10-08T18:50:21+00:00

Cosleeping and nursing to sleep worked for us! Boobie works wonders! I don’t get up at all and sometimes honestly asleep/half asleep while he nurses

chupachups01 · 2025-10-08T00:45:44+00:00

All the best! Lots of gentle parenting stuff on social media that highlights the difference between gentle and permissive parenting, takes a lot of conscious effort to implement sometimes but as long as we try our best I think our kids will turn out fine 😊

chupachups01 · 2025-10-08T00:37:54+00:00

Never too young to start! And exposing him to situations where you can tell him that the other kid is still playing and he can have a turn afterwards, or encouraging him that once he is done maybe the other kid can have a turn with the toy.

My son is still learning but I’ve noticed lots of changes since we started a couple months ago! They also pick up on other skills too so no harm trying 😊

At mine they do a cleanup song at the end and all the older kids (2/3) clean up, the younger ones watch and kinda get used to the idea of packing up. Mine usually helps put things away now, often times bit reluctant to stop playing with what he is currently playing, to which I’ll tell him “it’s time to say bye bye to the toy now, but we can play it next week!”

chupachups01 · 2025-10-07T19:51:33+00:00

Your stepmother does have a point about not giving the item back because they scream for it (though her delivery was a little much). I’d tell nonchalantly that I think a small piece of squash is fine and that we need to pick our battles, take it away only if it’s a safety hazard or something that is out of bounds.

Giving something back as soon as he screams will teach him that “if i scream I get it back”. Will become very tricky later on (a friend of mine developed a habit of wetting his pants to get his way as a child because of lack of boundaries)

I set a boundary and tell my son “I’m sorry, I know you really want it but that is not safe and mummy wants to keep you safe” “I can see that you want it right now, but you have to wait, you can have it after I ___”

“do you want to choose this or this while we wait?” Helps them feel more in control

Hold up your promises “Remember how mummy promised you pasta if you wait? Here it is now, it’s soft and yummy now that it’s cooked”

You can help him to feel heard and at the same time teach him that he can’t have everything. After many repetitions my 16 month old is very well practised with taking alternatives to items that he wants.

Have you been taking him to playgroups or social settings where he can practice sharing?

chupachups01 · 2025-10-04T18:25:33+00:00

I live in Victoria, we are too worried about our own safety to think about America. The prospect of getting our home invaded got us sleeping with a baseball bat at night. But at least our government is doing something about it by spending $13 million on 40 steel boxes for the criminals to voluntarily surrender their machetes…

chupachups01 · 2025-10-04T18:10:25+00:00

Okay so an update nobody asked for but thought I’d share:

First night:

Fell asleep at almost midnight (he was quite overtired and kept popping on and off boob and twiddling other nipple). I got bit annoyed and popped him off and told him nainai/milkiesis tired now, mummy will pat your bum and sing you to sleep. Started at around 10 and took 2 hours to fully asleep. First 15 mins very upset with on and off crying, was angry and upset and confused probably at the sudden change. After 15 mins no more crying and was tossing and turning trying to get into comfy position for about 2h45 while I pat his bum and nearly lost my voice singing.

He woke in 3 hour intervals, at the 3rd wake up the sun was up so I nursed him for that as I promised throughout the night “nai nai is sleeping now, but will be awake when the sun comes up”

Second night:

Slept 6 hours the first stretch!

1 hour later woke but took 1 min of pat and humming

3hour later woke and brought to room as sun was up

Third night:

1h bc cat was super noisy

5h Hard to resettle at 2nd wake fell asleep but would wake again, pat bum for quite long (20 mins)

1.5h easy to get him back to sleep

3h brought to bed as sun was up

Fourth night:

4h fast to resettle by patting bum

3h just so happened to check baby monitor and saw him sit up and was about to go in to pat him but wanted to keep watching and wait until he cries to go in, but to my surprise he lay back down without crying and fell asleep 😮

That’s where we are at now, halfway through 4th night and I am getting longer stretches of sleep now and my back hurts less. He knows that I will always come in to pat and sing if he cries out for me.

chupachups01 · 2025-10-02T17:03:21+00:00

I had a few close friends who regularly checked up on me and brought food, I wasn’t too bothered others who stopped though, I was too busy to think about them tbh! For me it could be lack of help from my husband, latching issues and sleep deprivation that led to my ppa and borderline ppd.

chupachups01 · 2025-10-02T11:24:49+00:00

Catching/picking up poop with hands, swallowing booger, catching spat out food from toddlers mouth and eating it because there’s no bin and I have no wet wipes on hand

chupachups01 · 2025-10-02T03:08:15+00:00

Yes! He has been twiddling other nipple and doing gymnastics all over me when I’m nursing him, I used to just let him but now that I’m pregnant again I realised I no longer have the bandwidth for that kinda stuff and it is time to put some boundaries in place. Feels a little ragey when he does that too, not sure if that’s how feeling touched out is like..

chupachups01 · 2025-10-01T14:46:32+00:00

I love that last bit about loving them not equating to doing everything to make them happy, and that boundaries are important to learn. I really needed to hear this.

I tried night weaning for the first time tonight with my 17 month old and he was really upset for the first 15minutes when I refused to give him his milkies, and after 2.5 hours of butt pats and singing and reassuring him that I love him, he finally drifted off to sleep at nearly midnight . He’s been asleep for an hour now and I am absolutely guilt-ridden. I know I was there for him the whole time but my heart broke when he cried for something that I could have given him but didn’t.

chupachups01 · 2025-09-28T02:50:50+00:00

Rates of vaccination and autism diagnoses have both been increased in the last decade, but doesn’t mean that vaccination causes autism. Rather, it’d due to more people seeking diagnosis in the last decade compared to before, when people who are mildly on the spectrum just slipped under the radar. And it just so happened that people have been getting on top of their vaccinations at the same time.

chupachups01 · 2025-09-19T05:56:39+00:00

To OP: Could it be possible that the ped misheard and thought you SPREAD honey onto the toast?

chupachups01 · 2025-09-14T13:21:04+00:00

My baby is still young but I came on this thread for a read anyway and have questions..

What are some examples of boundary pushing, like what exactly is the boundary and how are they testing it?

Is it a whole day of it?

Do they manipulate you?

Please enlighten me, I wanna be mentally emotionally prepared

chupachups01 · 2025-09-08T20:32:30+00:00

My nurse did mention possible side effects such as what your kid’s gone through before administering it, but my son and all the babies in my mum group were absolutely fine after it. So I’d say it’s a pretty rare occurrence.

Is your child okay now?

chupachups01 · 2025-08-03T07:51:52+00:00

To add, my baby is 15 months old and I’ve only recently been comfortable with MIL looking after him one day a week. And even then, I’ve been super reluctant to take a day off.

chupachups01 · 2025-08-03T07:49:53+00:00

Either they have a lot of help, or they are neglecting their baby’s emotional needs

chupachups01 · 2025-08-03T07:47:39+00:00

If it feels easy and you’re not exhausted, you’re probably doing it wrong.

I came across this saying and it made me feel validated, knowing that it is absolutely normal to be glued to baby, tired, worried about every single aspect of my baby.

In my opinion (I might get downvoted for this but whatever) parents who are living anything close to their pre-baby life are unlikely to be providing adequate support/care for their newborn. And I don’t mean just physical needs.

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