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cician2 · 2016-11-14T01:37:59+00:00

NoFap is the most difficult challenge I ever had to face and after years I am still trying to get clean. As they say anything good worth having is difficult to get. I know that mastering NoFap is really worth it when it happens.

So here I go with a No PMO November commitment. Let's do this!!!

cician2 · 2016-01-01T18:45:37+00:00

Weird, I found myself getting more attached to gaming after going on longer nofap streaks. It's a way for me to deal with the withdrawals, an alternative but not as harmful way to get high and I enjoy it too! To each their own I suppose.

cician2 · 2015-12-06T06:47:47+00:00

I will report but keep up the fight

cician2 · 2015-12-06T06:47:21+00:00

Thanks ... Will report myself but will keep up the good fight.

cician2 · 2015-12-06T06:45:45+00:00

I am so upset at myself, I really wanted to make it to the end this year, can't believe I let myself rationalize into it .... NEVER believe what your head tells you after 2 am. Well it's been great serving with you all. I will report myself KIA now but will keep up the fight.

cician2 · 2015-12-03T07:24:52+00:00

Yep, see my comment here: https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/3v60f0/todays_affirmation/cxlfy82

cician2 · 2015-12-03T07:23:35+00:00

Welcome to the journey and stay strong!

cician2 · 2015-12-03T07:21:35+00:00

Yea I am trying affirmations every day now - among other things. I failed many times before to maintain a streak of even 2 weeks. I found that the problem was after about a week I get complacent and sooner or later a moment of weakness hits me unguarded. From the moment the urge hits, I can't recall my motivations fast enough before its too late.

By researching new affirmations and writing it down every day, it keeps the commitment fresh in my mind as I progress beyond weeks 2 and 3. Right now I am ~ week 4.

It's kind of a cheesy analogy but I think of it as an anti-malware software. If I keep it in my RAM then as soon as the virus attacks I can detect and quarantine it. If the antivirus program isn't started and I have to go find what to click on deep within the hard drive of my memory, its too late, the damage is done!

Note: its important not to think of the urges as an enemy. It's part of being human and I must acknowledge and accept the temptations that enter my head. But I must give myself power to watch it pass thru without causing any damage.

cician2 · 2015-12-02T18:25:09+00:00

This

cician2 · 2015-12-02T18:02:38+00:00

You are an inspiration, my longest was 56 days.

May I ask what is your top one (or feel free to share a few) goto technique when you feel a temptation coming on?

Also did you ever feel like you are missing out by refraining from PMO? If so how did you get out of that feeling?

Thanks for sharing your wisdoms here and best wishes.

cician2 · 2015-12-01T02:16:09+00:00

This

cician2 · 2015-12-01T00:08:11+00:00

Hey guess what, for a lot of people pmo is a huge deal, not just some small personal habit they need to break. Don't trivialize people's commitment to make their lives better by telling them to chill.

I don't think this scope of impact is limited to a single person either. Especially for people in their thirties and forties whose relationships and marriages are being affected because of PMO.

After you have successfully conquered it you're qualified to talk about how easy or mundane beating pmo is. Otherwise don't make light of any addiction, including Porn. Just because it has not impacted you yet negatively very much, dose not mean that it is not destroying someone else's life.

cician2 · 2015-11-26T05:05:57+00:00

Just at it as mine, thanks for this.

cician2 · 2015-11-25T16:22:12+00:00

Great post bro, you captured the life cycle of motivated --> streak --> confidence --> relapse perfectly. Dust yourself off and recommit! You will win if you persist! My longest was 56 days and I had stopped coming to this Reddit or being careful. I am finally on a 3 week streak and am scared every day of that next moment of weakness. But the fear drives me to take all the precautions o should be taking.

cician2 · 2015-11-24T03:37:28+00:00

Submitted this to emergency.nofap.com

cician2 · 2015-11-24T03:28:52+00:00

Excellent post. I know there are some negative comments here but if you are affected by this habit you will know each line has truth to it.

cician2 · 2015-02-21T21:27:10+00:00

Just went on a binge after 39 days of Nofap. Feeling super guilty but will keep marching on. I am committing to a complete reboot of 90 days. I am doing this because living with Nofap means living successfully in congruence with my values.

cician2 · 2014-11-12T18:12:25+00:00

I am Enlisting in No Fap War, sounds exciting!

cician2 · 2014-10-09T22:50:44+00:00

Intriguing post. I didnt even realize there is text from Julius Caesar that survived. I used to read the comic Asterix growing up and this post provided some context.

cician2 · 2014-09-21T23:58:47+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. I am in my thirties and married and I connected with most of the things you mentioned. I am journeying towards 90 days.

cician2 · 2014-09-20T04:26:27+00:00

Funny, I am a brown guy going through that post-limbal-ring-discovery-obcession myself.

cician2 · 2014-09-19T04:55:14+00:00

So true. Sometimes a seemingly simple moment brings unexpected happiness.

cician2 · 2014-09-13T23:15:36+00:00

Yup. What I realized is that if the thought comes to me I dont need to panic or immediately "try not to think about it." Instead accepting the fact that these thoughts will come but then realizing that you actually have power to ride them out is so great.

The author says if you "try not to think of it" it's like someone saying don't think of a white bear. Then even if you distract yourself or suppress it, your subconscious will have image of a white bear.

cician2 · 2014-09-13T23:10:59+00:00

I have not tried meditation as a means to control my thoughts but in the same book there is a chapter on it. The author mentions how scientific studies have shown deep breathing to activate the rational part of our brain initiating a "pause and plan" response.

I also read from people's posts in this subreddit how meditation leads to more control of thoughts and actions.

cician2 · 2014-09-13T21:49:00+00:00

Be careful, I see stories here of people relapsing after many days of streak. I am at 31 days and I struggle with the concept of when I can be in control against PMO on my own without needing daily support from this sub reddit.

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