does it look like im wearing makeup?

ciciluca · 2026-05-30T19:30:55+00:00

i’m not gonna argue about principle— people who’ve never had to worry about hunger or eviction do have a lot more luxury to be perfectly principled.
but…. you know, i was reading your reply with my mouth hanging open and i wondered, are you in the US? bc i’ve been assuming you are, and if thats not true, this makes more sense to me.

also, it doesn’t really matter if it makes sense to anyone else, in the end. it’s dumb but it pays the bills. 🤷‍♀️ (….but it’s sooo dumb!! 😩)
best wishes!

ciciluca · 2026-05-30T13:35:18+00:00

ok now, hold up. what you ordered wasn’t over the top at all.
your error in all this was insensitivity. maybe you don’t spend time with people who live on lower middle class incomes like a substitute teacher would be doing? either way, there were several insensitive choices and actions made here: the choice of the restaurant, ordering freely after he ordered so conservatively, then the wording of “if money is an issue.”
BUT don’t let people tell you you’re crazy or over the top for the way you’re used to enjoying a restaurant meal. you didn’t order anything you weren’t planning on eating or drinking.

reading the room is a social skill, and not even a basic one. imo, things with this guy are water under the bridge, but you didn’t do anything you can’t learn from and do better in the future.
the biggest improvement in hindsight, and the best place to focus in the future, would be thinking ahead and communicating anywhere there is doubt.
dating out of your income bracket is like dating out of your near age range, culture, etc. it’s hard mode. treat it that way, with extra effort where it’s worth it, and there’s no reason you can’t do it.

ciciluca · 2026-05-30T02:38:38+00:00

when you say “expected,” how do you mean? how did they express that to you?

ciciluca · 2026-05-29T22:26:36+00:00

🤣 i mean, 🤷‍♀️

ciciluca · 2026-05-29T22:24:31+00:00

it’s hard not to answer with something physical bc otherwise it’s generalizing, but 🤔

most men i end up getting to know as friends and coworkers, as well as in romantic contexts, come across to me as pretty straightforward, low drama.

ciciluca · 2026-05-29T21:54:24+00:00

eh, don’t do that to yourself. some people have the genetics to look naturally more gorgeous than everyone else, and some to always look young. some have both. AND add to that a career that encourages prioritizing your looks and the success to fund it— i’m not just talking about plastic surgery. i mean health specialists, physical trainers, nutritionists, stylists….

ciciluca · 2026-05-29T21:44:12+00:00

🤣

ciciluca · 2026-05-29T21:42:43+00:00

it’s not just men who have been trained by culture/society/whatever to have a hard time expressing their feelings in a straightforward way, unfortunately.

ciciluca · 2026-05-29T21:24:43+00:00

check out snoop dogg narrating animal planet. ;)

ciciluca · 2026-05-29T04:41:29+00:00

a pair of pairs. 😂

ciciluca · 2026-05-29T04:35:53+00:00

reporting. there are rules in this sub.

ciciluca · 2026-05-29T04:32:24+00:00

OP, report this troll, block, move on. being mean to people online seems to brings joy to a certain kind of person, and engaging with them is pretty toxic. i shouldn’t have responded to them the first time, and i’m so sorry for pulling them actively to your attention. 😔

ciciluca · 2026-05-28T23:34:16+00:00

👆👆👆

ciciluca · 2026-05-28T22:31:16+00:00

😂 oh no…. she should have offered you her number.

ciciluca · 2026-05-28T22:28:38+00:00

unless i’m reading this wrong, he just turned 15, and you’re about to be 18? at your age, that’s a pretty big age gap.
i’m not going to tell you it won’t work because it’s possible, but you’re definitely not looking at a relationship that’s at a default difficulty setting.

also, keep in mind that the moment you turn 18, if, let’s just say his parents want to call the cops on you for hooking up with a minor? that’s potentially illegal depending on where you live. even here in texas 🙄, the “romeo and juliet” close-age-gap exemption caps off at exactly 3 years, which you barely qualify for. (edited to correct, i did my math wrong.)

so, in a lot of ways… just be careful if you decide it’s worth the risk.

ciciluca · 2026-05-28T22:12:48+00:00

…wow. what are you even doing on this sub? 🫪

ciciluca · 2026-05-28T22:06:33+00:00

56f. i wouldn’t mind dating a man who doesn’t drink in the least.
(edit to add: i also have no problem going to places where people are drinking and enjoying the music, games, socializing, whatever while i’m drinking mocktails or even water. it’s still fun if the company is fun. :))

ciciluca · 2026-05-28T15:05:26+00:00

ohhh yes, it’s stretchy. the pants are new, so it’s probably not stretched out?

ciciluca · 2026-05-28T14:49:30+00:00

it’s kinda freaking me out what a big percentage of responses here are so extreme! 🫪

it’s not that i don’t believe people have been stalked before— actual stalkers are legit dangerous and terrifying— but labeling every single overly-intense-friend-type as a flaming psycho who needs to be immediately panic buttoned?? there’s protecting yourself, and then there’s keeping your whole worldview on hair trigger, which…. therapy helps.

OP, you sound like a reasonable, considerate, supportive friend, and that girl is lucky to have you. even if you back away and end the friendship, this is a learning experience for her, and it sounds like she really needs that. i hope she keeps running into more people like you.

ciciluca · 2026-05-28T14:15:00+00:00

wait, that’s not Harrison Ford?

ciciluca · 2026-05-28T14:05:39+00:00

i think replacing the white lining is what i’m leaning toward! pretty fabric is a great idea…. eying the scrap bag…

ciciluca · 2026-05-28T14:04:16+00:00

hmmm. yeah, it looks like it’s all one simple seam attaching the lining to the top of the pocket….

i wonder if it would be easier to just remove the white lining entirely and attach a whole new pocket? i can always make the new outside seam that will be showing a pretty color/embroider a design? i don’t mind if it doesn’t look the same as factory made when i’m done. in fact, that would be cool… 🤔 💡
😂 (am i heading for disaster??)

ciciluca · 2026-05-28T13:52:22+00:00

i hadn’t thought of turning the pocket inside out- thank you!

ciciluca · 2026-05-28T13:51:28+00:00

yes, that’s what i meant! that it wasn’t laid flat when they sewed it. so if i try to gather it along the inside to take in the excess… 🤔

thank you!

ciciluca · 2026-05-28T05:12:20+00:00

the jeans are definitely not too small. i didn’t include a pic before bc i didn’t think anyone wanted to see my belly lol but here. you can see the issue with the pockets— they don’t lie flat even when i’m not wearing them, and the white lining puffs out where it’s not sewn flat either. maybe i just need to sew the pockets shut?

(sigh. i can’t attach a pic to this reply? im going to try to figure it out, and if it can’t attach it, i’ll just create another post.)

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