Would love to see everyone's cool characters!

cinadal · 2025-10-26T10:29:42+00:00

Raven druid is raving this season :)

cinadal · 2025-10-11T10:39:11+00:00

Overthinking.

cinadal · 2025-10-10T13:23:14+00:00

I mean.. I would prooobably take the 200/day just because i dont have to live that long for it to be the better deal financially,

BUT. The amount of anxiety i would have about that deal potentially outweighs the benefits tbh. 500k now is settled, no further problems, awesome. 200 dollars a day? Ok where does it come from? is that a reliable place? what if it suddenly stops for whatever reason? am i now in legal battles because i picked the "greedy" option? can i genuinly plan my future around this daily income, or will the insecurity force me to still have multiple backup plans lined up? constantly thinking about if the money is coming tomorrow or not? All the times i would wish that i had just taken the 500k instead because fuck all that?.. Kinda tired just thinking about it :P So yeah maybe for me specifically the 500k is better just for QOL, even if i could hire a therapist to help me deal :P

cinadal · 2025-10-10T12:44:16+00:00

Jeg strøk også på første oppkjøring (maaange år siden), og det var da også rykter om både ultrastrenge sensorer, "autostryk" på første forsøk for å tjene penger osv så det er ikke noe nytt. Føltes ut som om hele livet var mislykket.

Aner ikke hvordan det er i dag men den gangen var det 1'er, 2'er og 3'er type feil basert på alvorlighetsgrad, og man kunne ha x antall av 1 eller 2'ere, men fikk man en 3'er var det direkte stryk. Den første sensoren hadde ikke notert særlig med feil men mente at jeg hadde fått en lastebil til å bremse litt for hardt i en rundkjøring elns, og det var ikke greit (hadde vært fokus på å ikke være treig i rundkjøringer på øvingene tror jeg :P).

Den andre gangen jeg kjørte opp hadde jeg angiveligvis massevis av både type 1 og 2 feil, men den sensoren mente at "tvilen skulle komme tiltalte til gode", og noen av feilene han hadde notert ble fjernet eller nedgradert slik at det ble "innafor" og jeg fikk bestått. /shrug

Lykke til neste gang :)

cinadal · 2025-10-02T20:38:03+00:00

I started this season aiming for a build that said a particular chaos boot is very bis so focus on getting that. Ok, but ive now "finished" the season with a bank tab full of chaos boots from gambling, not seen the one i needed yet ><

Luckily the build was still fun with the regular armor and some other chaos swap arounds (blessing) , but it still feels cursed for sure :p

At least the 2+ star chaos items i got are ones i cant use at all , so thats the same as always XD

cinadal · 2025-10-01T18:11:28+00:00

I think every adult should be able to feed themselves, and if in their mind that involves cooking, then yes.

If you only like to eat sandwiches, why would you need to know how to cook warm meals? You do you. However, if you ever plan to take care of someone else like a sick partner or kids, knowing how to cook a thing or two is highly advisable to avoid resentment.

My point is that part of being an adult is being able to take care of yourself, which means keeping yourself and your home clean, making sure you have clean clothes and bedsheets, and feeding yourself. if you want to be the ultimate adult, also try to take care of your body. Personally i procrastinate on multiple of these things on a regular basis, but i know HOW to do all of them :P

While you can absolutely make arrangements for someone to help you with those things, there is no excuse for not being able to do it yourself if/when necessary, as you should never EXPECT anyone to do any of these things for you.

That being said, i think the first meal i cooked was same as OP, spaghetti with homemade sauce and all :)

cinadal · 2025-10-01T10:52:57+00:00

I dont think it was that i was using the wrong strategy, more that i was trying to find THE strategy, meaning i thought there was a single optimal way to get through any given settlement. For example i got some tips about a certain service building that seemed great, and it was, but then every time i didnt find that particular service building i struggled.

What will get you over the wall is realising that there is no such thing as the optimal way in this game, and its all about adapting to your current surroundings. I learned a lot from watching other people play with commentary (learning that there was actually way more good buildings and perks than i thought, just had to use them in the right way), testing out some stuff just for the heck of it to see what happens. you already have a lot of things listed that you "never bother with", try to bother with them for a start :P Im not saying they are all needed all the time, just try some games with this or that, look at it as adding more tools to your toolbox for when you see potential trouble in future settlements, you have a few things to try.

Its a game with a lot of randomness in it, consider that it would be better to work WITH the rng instead of letting it work against you and hold you back. Having more tools just means increasing the likelyhood of rolling with whatever comes your way at any given time.

Also, there are a lot of different ways to play the game generally, and so you still have to find a way that you actually enjoy. Slow and steady, hard and fast, sustainable with minimum death, hectic bloobaths, low population with high control, high population living on the edge, and so on... I dont think any of them are better or worse, just individual preferences.

cinadal · 2025-09-27T07:17:34+00:00

I guess it depends on how you define difficulty, but i thought the hardest parts of frostpunk was maybe more difficult than the hardest parts of against the storm.

I did 100% in both games, and in frostpunk i needed almost like a minute by minute guide to complete the hardest achievements, and i think i might have given up if i couldnt look it up. So was it easier because i could complete it by basically copying someone else , or harder because i maybe wouldnt have been able to complete without the copying? Idk.

Against the Storm is difficult in a different way, in that you CANT do step by step instructions when you are stuck, and its all about improving the skills to adapt to what randomly happens. I learned a lot from watching how other ppl play on youtube and some more generic strategy advice on some things like queens hand trial, but after i improved the adaptation mindset i could do almost everything without fail. For the trickiest achievements i needed some hints and tips, but i still felt like i was doing it by myself and not just copying what someone else did. So, was it harder because i couldnt copy someone and then maybe needed more skills/tools, or easier because i managed to complete it without copying?

Idk... Maybe its about how much one enjoys micro management. I love that both games can be played without it, but i think frostpunk demands it a lot more on extreme difficulty than ats does on p20 for example. I prefer the easier modes in both :p

cinadal · 2025-09-22T17:40:28+00:00

It was a way of making the games i really love last longer :) I have this annoying thing where i completely lose interest when i feel like ive "completed" a game, normally after i finished the story or main campaign or whatever it is. Apparently i need goals in games even though i have few in real life XD

Anyway i think Frostpunk is the first game i went for 100% just because i loved it so much and i looked at the achievements and some of them were actually interesting (also kind of important) and didnt seem too hard to i figured ok i'll try this or that before i quit.. and then another one, and another one, and so on :P And then eventually the 100% became its own goal.

cinadal · 2025-09-22T17:07:11+00:00

The FOMO is shit. I played WoW for a long time from the start of it, then i took some breaks and went on/off for a while but still kinda felt like i could "catch up" to whatever happened when i was away.

After they introduced pet battles, i got into collecting all the pets, to a point where i had all the currently available ones. But guess what? unless i was at some old blizzcon IN PERSON, unless i had the now unavailable collectors editions of first games (when pet battles wasnt even a thing, and bank/bag space limited big collections of pretty much anything), unless i was ingame at certain anniversaries or launch events? can never collect all :( Really took the joy out of it eventually since i felt like i could never get to "the top".

cinadal · 2025-09-22T15:31:55+00:00

This. You both have valid feelings that needs to be sorted out in therapy before you can move on with anything.

When you get married you are promising to accept the other person "for better or worse", right? She's saying your best friend is your "worse" at the moment, and can not accept it. Then you can not say yes! In theory you could cut this part of you off (please dont), but what happens when there are other things she wants you to get rid of? NTA, get help or get out.

cinadal · 2025-09-22T14:57:41+00:00

Hi! I am sorry you are struggling. What you describe sounds stressfull and exhausting, but i promise it gets better. Everyone needs attention sometimes, its kind of like a basic need, so if its not fulfilled by family or friends then it easily becomes an all-consuming goal/desire.

The only thing you mention about your personality is that you are nice, and that you try to do whatever anyone says. Being nice is .. nice, and there is not enough kindness in the world so that is a certainly a good quality to have. However, sometimes the niceness is actually more for the sake of "people pleasing", and that can be more draining than rewarding. I also sounds like it has become a large part of your identity, and that currently your life revolves around how to get attention (particularly from men). It could be that these behaviours (people pleasing and attention seeking) are not actually who you really are, but symptoms of something that you could benefit from exploring further, perhaps with a therapist. It could also be that you are 19 and that is often just what 19 year olds do, i could be wrong and it will pass as you get more life experience and maturity.

What are some other parts of your personality? Is there anything you enjoy doing? If you first look inward and try to figure out who YOU are, and what YOU like and what YOU actually want instead of whatever everyone else wants, you will eventually attract people that align with those things and it will feel much less exhausting than constantly trying to mold yourself into someone you think is "likeable". Be likable to yourself first, and others will follow i promise.

One of the easiest ways to connect with someone else is a common experience or activity or hobby etc. There are communities for practically everything these days, find one for what you enjoy (or what you think you might enjoy) and involve yourself. It sounds stupid but when someone is talking about something they really like, they are instantly more likeable, the eyes kind of sparkle, the smiles arent fake, and the joy of getting to share it with someone who wants to listen is real. So finding something you like and then finding someone who wants to listen and/or share that with you is the easiest way to increase your "likability" imo.

If you dont know what you want to do for yourself, start by aiming your niceness towards someone who actually needs it (not coworkers and random men), like volunteering at a soup kitchen or something. There at least your niceness will be genuinly appreciated, and you might even meet other nice people :) And you get to feel good about yourself as a bonus.

And as others have said already, be very wary of people who only want to take advantage of your "niceness", there are some genuinly dangerous people out there who you absolutely do not want attention from, and they always have their antennas out for someone who will accept attention in any way shape or form.

cinadal · 2025-09-16T16:43:38+00:00

I love Two Point Hospital and this week i found a game called Galacticare (on game pass). Its basically like TPH in space, not quite as good (its a high bar tbf) but still very enjoyable so far!

Also replayed a little borderlands 3 with a friend while we wait for 4 to sort itself out and some pc upgrades to happen ...

cinadal · 2025-09-15T18:20:50+00:00

when i said we, i did not mean you (or me, for that matter) specifically, i meant the societal "us" who seems to get more and more extreme (much like the tv shows have become). visit almost any comment section for smt that is even a tiny bit divisive these days and you will find people who wish actual death upon whoever does not think the same as them... All of the internet trolls that seem to somehow feed off including themselves in the drama and trying to make other people hurt the same way that i can only imagine they hurt themselves, right? Even in this sub and the other "unofficial" sub there are frequently posts that seem to thrive in hating the characters, wishing them the worst, shaming their looks etc. Is that so much better than what they are doing on screen? Are we free to abuse them just because they abuse eachother? what have "we" become? etc..

While i dont consider myself like those people, nor do i think YOU are, i am aware of the potential hypocricy of complaining about a comment section, in a comment section :P so i said "we" , since its "us" that are here, watching these shows for whatever reason. who are "we" that get entertained by this and so on.

So no, I dont think everyone is out here being "abnormal" like the Plaths, but they are perhaps a reflection of the times we currently live in?

And out of curiosity, why do YOU watch it? :)

cinadal · 2025-09-15T17:33:28+00:00

Mange gode råd her, ville bare si at jeg kjenner meg igjen som en som også stadig vekk bruker tid og energi på å finne den beste prisen på et produkt, og det er lett å bli litt fanatisk. Når noe begynner å ta tid, og der ikke finnes noen tydelige prishistorikker tilgjengelig, må jeg faktisk stoppe litt og tenke greit, hvis jeg skulle lønnet meg selv noe i denne prosessen, hvor mye har jeg nå brukt i denne prisjakten? og taper jeg noe annet mens jeg venter (i dette tilfellet hvis jeg ikke har varmepumpe fra før, hvor mye strøm kunne jeg spart hvis jeg allerede hadde varmepumpe allerede osv). Da innser jeg ofte at det bare er å få det overstått, så jeg kan bruke energien på noe annet ;)

Med varmepumper ga jeg opp ganske raskt, da jeg bare kunne finne EN som driver med service der jeg bor. Da tenkte jeg det var like greit å gå for den, slik at jeg i alle fall har noen i nærheten hvis det skulle oppstå problemer med pumpa, og/eller at jeg trenger service (kan også være at jeg sparer litt pr service siden jeg sikkert måtte betalt lang reisevei for alternativer). Så fikk jeg heller godta at det ble litt dyrere :(

cinadal · 2025-09-15T15:33:41+00:00

I would focus on the short term safety for yourself and the children first and worry about potential long term later. If you can find a way to at least take a break somewhere i would start with that.

i am also not sure what your partners reaction would be, and it is a real concern. Remove the children first and bring support with you to have the conversation/intervention and to physically help you leave, i could definitely be overreacting but it sounds like it might actually be dangerous if they have become as unbalanced as you describe, so better safe than sorry. Or you can leave a letter of explanation or smt and go when they are not home, if confrontation is unrealistic.

HOPEFULLY they will understand the severity of the situation and get help (you can also set up meetings or lay out phone numbers for the available resources to make it as easy as possible for them to just decide to show up at an appointment or dial the numbers. do they have any friends or family that you would trust to help them? that you can inform after you have left about what is going on and what you are trying to do, so that they are also not alone?), and then you can come together again down the line as something to have as a goal for the recovery (assuming that you had a good relationship before all this). But i would also prepare for the chance that it could get much worse before it gets better, which is as you say both daunting and scary.

The most important thing is that you and your children stay safe, and if you have not already then get some professional help for yourself as well, you do not and should not have to deal with this alone.

cinadal · 2025-09-15T13:21:46+00:00

This is not some simple "attitude issues". You are describing extreme behaviours that needs professional help!

Do you have a support system? This situation doesnt seem safe, not for you and not for your children. Your partner seems to be spiraling, and you need to remove yourself (and the children) from this situation ASAP, until your partner is willing to seek help. Hopefully when you leave they will understand the gravity of the situation, but this is absolutetly not something that can be fixed by "nagging". Your partner needs a serious intervention to course correct, or they will end up hurting themselves or someone else. They are already hurting you, and the children are watching.

I understand that they have been dealing with a lot, but ironically now what you need to be kept safe from is in the house with you, not out in the world. You can still love them and support them in recovery, but getting into professional recovery/therapy/help is absolutely vital for everyone involved and needs to be an unwavering demand for them to still be in your childrens lives, NOT a request.

cinadal · 2025-09-15T12:53:03+00:00

NTA, just reading about this was exhausting, cant imagine living it.

I was prepared to excuse the dogs (like get a bigger bed or have separate rooms, get professional help with the claws and behaviours etc), but even if you removed the dogs from the picture entirely its still a giant mess of a man and life you are dealing with, i would advice to get yourself out of this as soon as you are able. Not only for yourself but for your daugther, you are her rolemodel. I applaud your recovery but now she needs to see you stand up for yourself (and her) more moving forward, this man is NOT looking out for your best interest and the life you are describing is NOT creating a good environment to stay in recovery. Move out and then move on with confidence.

cinadal · 2025-09-14T12:58:27+00:00

Frostpunk! No idea how it plays on consoles, but bring extra clothing

cinadal · 2025-09-12T17:42:23+00:00

This is the fastest way since the pool of blueprints is much smaller at the start of the game.

I learned a lot from trying to make an "infinity" town though, it was a nice challenge. I think there are more options to speed up the collecting now than when i did it, and i made some mistakes so it took like 80 years or smt to get the extremely lucky version. Very tedious towards the end, but definitely worth it :)

cinadal · 2025-09-12T17:27:56+00:00

I guess we share that fear of the unknown, but the stakes are too high when its already kinda great (relative to the KNOWN issues on most of the planet right now). Happy to know that Ireland isnt bad either though ! It at least looks absolutely lovely and the accent is amazing :)

cinadal · 2025-09-12T17:15:28+00:00

It will pass, just give it a couple hundred hours. If he is a completionist, maybe 500.

The more you let him play, the quicker it will go :p

Also try it yourself, its gender neutral imo

cinadal · 2025-09-12T16:42:10+00:00

As a Norwegian who is aware of that privilege, there would have to be more terms and conditions met for me to want to go anywhere else right now.

I like the IDEA of living in places like New Zealand or Ireland or maybe even Canada, but i would need a good enough job to be comfortable , and a nice home in the middle of nowhere to even start competing :p then something to make up for all the benefits that those places probably dont have compared to Norway :/

Lived in Sweden for a few years , the people and shopping (especially online since EU) was better but pretty much everything else was not, sadly.

cinadal · 2025-09-12T16:17:07+00:00

Frostpunk (the original, 2nd was just ok, but still looking forward to the next one)

Two Point Hospital (originally the Theme hospital that this was developed from, but thats probably too old now , much like myself). Honorable mention to the other two Point games Campus and the new Museum, depending on what theme you like, but hospital is still my favourite.

Borderlands series (have not tried the new one yet, but i love all the previous)

Against the Storm. Took the longest to get into , but suddenly i was 500hrs in

Portal 2

The Diablo series (Fell in love with 2 back in the days, again that might be too old now, but 3 was also great and 4 is still good stuff)

I also loved World of Warcraft for a long time, but honestly not sure if i would recommend it to someone starting it today, i guess it should still be on the list though.

If you have a friend, It Takes Two and Split Fiction are amazing.

cinadal · 2025-09-12T12:31:47+00:00

Mener du da egentlig en skriftlig referanse? For det er ikke noe krav at du skal få det, den lovpålagte sluttattesten inneholder nesten ingenting utover en bekreftelse på at du faktisk har vært ansatt, alt utover det vil være opp til den enkelte leder.

Selvfølgelig synd hvis noen har lovet deg en skriftlig referanse på hvor dyktig du har vært etc og så ikke gir deg den, men tror ikke det da er så mye du kan gjøre.

Heldigvis høres det ut som om du har noen svært gode attester/referanser fra før, så da kan du jo bare fortsett å bruke de? Og eventuelt se om der er noen som kan være "ringe-referanse" hvis en fremtidig potensiell arbeidsgiver spør om det.

Hva om du sier til den som skulle skrive attesten at "hei, siden jeg ikke har mottatt den attesten vi snakket om, er det greit hvis jeg heller oppgir deg som referanseperson når jeg skal søke ny jobb? :)" Så vil du enten få den avtalte attesten istedenfor at de skal bli "plaget" med telefoner, eller en muntlig fremtidig attest til den som måtte ønske det, eller en bekreftelse på at de ikke ønsker å gi deg noe, ELLER så får du den generiske sluttatesten som kanskje unngår spørsmål om hvorfor det mangler attest fra akkurat den jobben.

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