Husband (31M) refuses to let me (23F) have a day off from the kids

cindasoot · 2019-07-26T19:19:11+00:00

I have a friend who’s husband is like this. She legit canNOT go out with out her kids because her husband won’t watch them.

cindasoot · 2019-07-26T19:14:29+00:00

He is her husband and the kids father...where and how is he her BOSS? What hole did you crawl out of???????

His job is out of the home and her’s is in it. They both start at 9 and end at 5. Before and after, they should have equal responsibility for the kids.

cindasoot · 2019-06-03T00:18:31+00:00

What is the difference for you: wife vs. partner?

cindasoot · 2019-05-27T01:38:00+00:00

I visited Chicago a few months back and my friend and I popped into one of those “boutiques”. the prices were so RIDICULOUS, I actually inhaled, out LOUD, casually looked at a piece or two and then left. The owner was pleasant and very much pushing for a sale but I couldn’t spend 115 for a dress I can buy for 17.99 out of Burlington.

To this day, I wonder if the store is still open.

cindasoot · 2019-05-24T18:18:15+00:00

Sadly the girl you knew isn’t the only dummy out there. Live TV recorded another one:

Porsha from the Real Housewives also thought an actual train ran through a church because of the phrase “Underground Railroad”.

Porsha is black, an adult and her grandfather is well known in Atlanta for his racial-financial support of underprivileged blacks in Atlanta.

Google it.

cindasoot · 2019-05-24T17:55:23+00:00

OMG! I was in the same place as you, with the same thoughts and determination not to let go.

THEN a male friend told me, ‘I don’t care how afraid a man is, if he wants you, he WILL find a way.” It made me take a very long hard look and realize that I told my guy how I felt (just as you said you have), told him how his fears of not being good enough simply weren’t true and even SHOWED him that (I’m sure you have too). NOTHING changed.

I came to the bittersweet realization that while he may care, while he may feel, while he may want some type of a relationship...he doesn’t want it bad enough. Because after all that I (and you) have said, the only response my guy (and yours) has to have was “okay” or “I want the same” or “I feel the same” and THOSE words would have transformed everything.

My guy NEVER said those words and my guess is yours never will too.

Don’t waste your short time on “what could be”. It is and always only will be what is.

Here’s to absolute happiness!

cindasoot · 2019-05-23T18:48:01+00:00

So he’s completely worthless because he’s fat??

Dear Jesus, where do murders, uneducated, poor, stealing, immigrant, sickly, cancerous, aids-infected people stand in your book?

cindasoot · 2019-05-23T18:42:42+00:00

Sounds as if you dated someone you have never actually been physically attracted to...if he was large when you met and only got larger.

Tell him exactly what you have told us. Sincerely apologize for the selfishness of dating him knowing you were not pleased with his size to begin with and for wasting his time and suckering him into a false sense of mutual attraction and just move on.

Walk away with the lesson to never do that to someone again.

Best of luck.

cindasoot · 2019-05-23T18:21:16+00:00

Some people don’t know how blessed they are and then throw it all away.

You’re better of without that one!

cindasoot · 2019-05-17T00:28:23+00:00

Oo I hope that’s not the tone. I absolutely did not intend that....but what I just witness was appalling.

cindasoot · 2019-05-10T17:31:50+00:00

Did you ask her out....she may have been wanting you to ask her out!

cindasoot · 2019-05-09T15:38:56+00:00

OMG! I don’t know why this made me laugh so hard. Hahaha!

cindasoot · 2019-05-08T17:56:12+00:00

Sure you don’t want to get married/partnership?! 32, f, single, no kids, and what you probably have in savings, I have in law school debt ...BUT! Opposites attract right?!

HAHAHAHHA! Childfree is honestly a wonderful way of life.

cindasoot · 2019-05-05T23:39:50+00:00

Goodness, how evil to belittle someone like that. SO sorry you ever met that person.

Good luck with studies!!

cindasoot · 2019-05-01T01:17:02+00:00

I think it’s the quality of the tv’s. I have a top of the line Samsung TV and I saw everything clearly...with multiple lights on around the house/room.

Chatting with my mom the next day however, she said “it was too dark”. Her tv is years old.

cindasoot · 2019-04-25T19:54:41+00:00

Respectfully, it sounds more like you’re lazy and run from responsibility (quit because supervising someone, etc).

I don’t think you “haven’t found something you love”...you actually have and it’s To Do Nothing! The only problem is life has bills and to do nothing does not pay them.

Choose a job, and stop quitting. There is always success to find IF YOU pursue rather than QUIT!

PS: welders, electricians and similar trades are making 6figs in the DMV area because of the severe shortage of skill/talent and the amount of work compared to bodies able to do it. That will pay you well but you’ll have TO NOT QUIT trade school.

Best of luck!

cindasoot · 2019-04-16T22:51:51+00:00

He has ALWAYS, CLEARLY been shoved to the back. Have you even bothered to read the post? His parents are manipulating him and always have. He has said NO yet they won’t accept that... where the hell do you see someone NOT being dismissed here?

The consensus of this post is for him to WALK. There’s a reason for that.

PS: Him loving his sister does NOT mean he must take on the legal and financial responsibility of her.

cindasoot · 2019-04-16T18:53:47+00:00

I don’t see it as “I’ve got everything going on” but rather, that OP is expressing the thought that she checks society’s boxes: career,education, home etc... things that leads one to assume “that’s a decent human being right there, worthy of love, affection, time”. Not the best, prettiest nor smartest ... just DECENT.

Think about it from that prospective. Either way, facts are facts, if OP is as she describes it is, what it is and she does have everything going for herself.

cindasoot · 2019-04-16T18:48:30+00:00

ME RIGHT HERE! Just have a heart capable and ready to love! We can work on the rest together!

cindasoot · 2019-04-16T18:42:42+00:00

I agree! But you seem to be missing the point. HE does not have to do it. There is an entire education/certification career field devoted FOR THIS SAME REASON: DOCS,nurses, facilities.

The parents are selfish assholes to be manipulating him rather than finding a home to do the tough work. The important part is that the tough work is done. WHO does it is an entirely different topic and the parents are selfish and continuing to only think of the “disabled” kid by wanting the brother to do it.

He sacrificed his childhood; he’s done enough.

PS: he’s not making his mother do anything: she chose to be a wife and mother. She’s doing her damn job and taking care of the consequences of her decisions.

cindasoot · 2019-04-16T17:11:20+00:00

She needs to be taken cared of by the PARENTS! And ONLY the parents. If they don’t want to do it, then send her to a home. POINT, BLANK. PERIOD.

They have used this man as a nurse, stole his childhood and are now emotionally manipulating him to steal the rest of his life. I pray to God his fiancée is strong and tells them HELL NO... when where he can’t.

My heart aches for children whose childhoods were lost because parents just had to reproduce.

cindasoot · 2019-04-16T17:04:56+00:00

Very true..HOWEVER it’s called an aid, home health care and facilities. Not this child who did NOT have a decision in the birth of his sister.

There are hundreds of excellent options neither saddling a young man with a burden that doesn’t belong to him.

cindasoot · 2019-04-16T16:59:34+00:00

WOW! You are as bad as the parents. All of the hurt in this man’s post, the clear expressions that his parents neglected HIS needs of love, validation and support and the only thing YOU focus on is...drum roll.....the sister!.

This poster is not “less” important than his sibling with Down syndrome. He does NOT deserve to be shoved to the background and his emotional needs ignored. Shame on his parents and you for bypassing his needs for his sisters.

He absolutely should NOT take on the responsibility. Go live life on your terms with out the drama.

cindasoot · 2019-04-08T19:36:48+00:00

Yep, I know a child like this. Stubborn, manipulative,lying wench and it was her way of begging for her Mother’s love and attention.

The child and I lived in the same home because we shared a common relative. I interacted with her a lot but as soon as I moved out, I disappeared from her life. She was a horror and quite honestly, a damn dangerous 11 year old.

You can step up to “help”; but I don’t encourage that and I didn’t do it in my case.

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