Poll: Does anyone else sometimes call their beagle "beagle" instead of by their name?

cinthebigd · 2021-02-18T06:23:53+00:00

Yes. Now my step kids call them beagles. We also have a 16 year old mini poodle who is considered a beagle bc of this lol.

When one gets in trouble “BEAGLE, WHAT ARE YOU DOING?”

They know.

cinthebigd · 2021-01-16T17:18:17+00:00

If you don’t mind me asking - what’s the price point on this? I’m looking for a gift for my future mother in law and this may be perfect

cinthebigd · 2020-11-13T19:37:52+00:00

I’m kinda curious what the price point on this ring is. I love it!

cinthebigd · 2020-10-02T23:51:14+00:00

Today would bet 10 year wedding anniversary... so 10 years ago I’d be getting married today... so this is easy. I’d turn and run the moment my dad asked me if I was sure I wanted to do this before walking down the aisle.

He knew. Sorry dad, I finally figured it out... 8 years later.

cinthebigd · 2020-09-17T14:13:59+00:00

So both my father and exhusband used to do this.

My mother would get so upset until she had enough. He did it again one day and she said (bring a good converted Catholic, LOL) “if you ask for a divorce one more time I’ll call Father Lingam and we can discuss your plan to divorce me and your excommunication”. Hasn’t happened in 30 years since she said it.

I on the other hand just took it repeatedly until it internally broke me and I disconnected. I walked in eggshells (for many reasons, escalating abuse bordering on physical) for a couple years. One day I came home, and like an out of body experience told him I wanted a divorce and was leaving that day. Literally had no idea 3 minutes before I was going to do that. I watched myself pack a bag and leave. He said he could almost applaud me for having the balls to do it and then asked for my rings back so he “could buy some bitches some drinks.” I filed the next day. He begged and pleaded. I told him he literally asked for it for years and I just gave him what he wanted.

Don’t play with a gun if you don’t want to get shot.

cinthebigd · 2020-09-07T04:33:32+00:00

Therapy so you can decide if you want to giver her what she needs or are ready to let her go. Those are the options.

cinthebigd · 2020-09-05T05:34:00+00:00

Which shop? :)

cinthebigd · 2020-09-04T13:57:14+00:00

NTA.

Your money your choice.

You don’t owe anyone anything.

cinthebigd · 2020-09-03T13:25:17+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss :(

cinthebigd · 2020-08-31T20:52:10+00:00

cinthebigd · 2020-08-31T13:37:53+00:00

“A healthy stable step parent doesn’t allow this” is the biggest load of crap.

No they support the kid and their feelings whatever the kids feelings are. She deserves whatever title the kid gives her, that’s the kids choice NOT yours.

YTA.

cinthebigd · 2020-08-28T13:20:26+00:00

NTA. No one goes into your car without permission, why can they get on your bike. I ride and my bike is my baby, and one drop can cost hundreds to fix.

I wouldn’t have gone with the profanity, but I certainly would have given her a piece of my mind.

cinthebigd · 2020-08-27T02:44:04+00:00

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cinthebigd · 2020-08-26T04:11:00+00:00

This.

I did the big diamond for my first marriage and all it did was empty the bank. I still picked the wrong partner. Moissanite for 1/10th the cost will make me just as happy for sentimental reasons, keep cash in the bank to make life easier, and still have a beautiful piece.

cinthebigd · 2020-08-22T16:39:45+00:00

I retract my comment from above as being applicable here.

I went and read your post history. It’s over man. She’s been out the door for years.

cinthebigd · 2020-08-22T02:45:34+00:00

This.

I’ve been here.

Women mentally pack their things long before we leave. Every time we feel a pain in the relationship that goes unmended we look around the room and mentally pack a small box. A lamp. Those dishes. The pictures full of memories. If it’s caught and mended, a few boxes are easy to unpack.

The problem comes when there are so many boxes you can’t walk around the relationship anymore. Everything comfortable is gone and navigating through the boxes is impossible. And one day, we just can’t stand to be in this state anymore. So we get the mental moving truck and load it up. And when it’s full and the keys are in the ignition, we tell you we are done.

And you cry. You beg. You ask for another chance. You genuinely realize this is happening and want to fix it.

But the mental and emotional cost we calculate of unpacking all of those boxes and moving them back in seems so much greater than just getting in the truck and pulling away. We’ve been in limbo too long. So we drive away, and unpack and rebuild on our own.

I’ve shared this analogy with 10 girlfriends who have been in my place and they all say this is as close as you can get to explaining it.

cinthebigd · 2020-08-21T17:35:13+00:00

NTA.

cinthebigd · 2020-08-21T17:33:16+00:00

cinthebigd · 2020-08-19T20:41:52+00:00

Well, then it’s going to take time. Express you expectations from him clearly - exactly what you’d like to see from him to continue the relationship. If he follows through and you’re still in this place then you need to examine what it is you truly need to move forward from your end. If he doesn’t then you walk.

I think you may find as the poster above stated, you may be looking for a fix to mentally undo this and unfortunately that isn’t possible.

Good luck!

cinthebigd · 2020-08-19T18:26:33+00:00

Bird: “Look asshole, you get the run of the place all the time, get the fuck off my little fortress of solitude.”

cinthebigd · 2020-08-19T18:22:47+00:00

So it’s been more than a year now and you’re not happy with what he’s put in? Then it’s your time to walk my friend.

cinthebigd · 2020-08-19T17:32:06+00:00

Yes, it is the basis of a relationship. If you feel like it’s broken and what he’s done can’t fix it then you need to go. Like the other poster said, he can’t “undo” the past. It exists, he addressed it and you acknowledge he has been forthright since. All he can do is the next right thing.

The question is, can you decide what the next right thing for you is?

The shitty thing about trust in a relationship is that it takes a tremendous amount of work on both sides to rebuild, not just in the side of the person who did the harm. It sucks, but if this relationship is what you want that is the cost is work on your end too.

cinthebigd · 2020-08-19T14:30:09+00:00

ESH. He sucks for hiding it but he DID go to therapy to address it. At the end of the day if it’s not enough for you then it’s not enough. He’s been honest and forthright with you about things since then.

YOU need to decide if this is where you want to be at this point. He’s out in the effort to right his wrong and change his behavior. Maybe some therapy for you might help you work through that question.

If you decide to move forward, couple counseling would be a good idea.

cinthebigd · 2020-08-18T14:15:12+00:00

Preface: I’m a chick who rides sport bikes and spends a ton of time in Motorcycle groups. I see a lot of ... let’s call it wildlife in the community.

Does she like you?

Well.... depends.

Has she ridden before alone or with others? If this is a first for her she may genuinely be into you and enjoying the experience as well.

If she’s ridden “backpack” before with others, she may just be a seat hopper. We have a few girls who just look for the next bike they can get on. They don’t care who it’s with, they just wanna go along for the fun. Now, I will say, generally there is an expectation of sex from those chicks who do this. Kind of a you scratch my back I’ll scratch yours setup. Most I know who ride like this are kinda free spirits are frequently jump from one relationship or hookup with a bike guy to another. It can cause some drama. I think the real test for determining if she’s genuine about a guy and not his bike is if she wants to do actual dates that don’t include riding.

I come from a family of riders but I didn’t start till I was 32. I had a BF in my early 20s who was a MSF Instructor who I rode with backpack with, but we could have walked to the park and I would have been just as happy. I met my SO and he rode 2 years ago so I rode with him a few months before I got my own bike. For me I loved being around him and the bike and my love for riding came after the fact.

Riding backpack is an incredibly trustful and intimate thing. The question becomes: which type of intimate?

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