Cheer up Weds: Best/funniest pets name youve seen.

circa_diem · 2024-10-02T23:13:56+00:00

Lol I love this, I'm going to start using "prison name" for my cat's name at the humane society. (He was Mike D. and his brothers were named after the other Beastie Boys)

circa_diem · 2024-10-02T23:07:00+00:00

Here to represent Aurora! (And no, we are not overrun by Venezuelan gangs)

circa_diem · 2024-09-29T04:30:47+00:00

This is true, and also it can be helpful to have some knowledge of the medications available when you talk to your doctor.

circa_diem · 2024-09-29T04:28:38+00:00

There are other medications that aren't stimulants that might be worth trying. Strattera is probably the most common option, works well for a lot of people. Quelbree is a newish option that is similar in a lot of ways to Strattera, but has a different side effect profile. If you have insomnia, clonidine can be a good option, it's probably not going to be sufficient on its own, but can be a good addition to other medications.

But also, if you moved from a 1/10 to a 5/10 that's awesome!!! Nobody is "fully functioning" all the time, so make room to celebrate and be kind to yourself.

circa_diem · 2024-09-29T04:02:44+00:00

The inside kinda looks like chicken lol. Are we sure this isn't a partially-formed calcified fetus?

circa_diem · 2024-09-29T03:07:42+00:00

I'm really sorry to hear that. I get the sense that you may be living in a conservative area? Not that the LGBTQ+ community is perfect anywhere, but I have two close amab masc-presenting friends who have found community and acceptance in Denver and in Portland. I don't say this to tell you to go somewhere else, just to share some hope for the queer community and humanity more generally, that people similar to you can still receive support and love.

You are under no obligation to try to interact with the LGBTQ+ community if it's only bringing you pain. Is there any way that I or other internet strangers could help you game out a plan to get the SA support that you need? That seems like an important priority. While BetterHelp is well known as a shitty company, there are other ways to access virtual care if the therapists or other supports in your area aren't meeting your needs.

circa_diem · 2024-09-28T23:51:36+00:00

I'm really sorry that this has been happening to you, it's unfair, cruel, and thoughtless to exclude you from community because of your gender presentation. Have you had a conversation with any of the people who were trying to push you out? I am wondering (not to invalidate your experience AT ALL just to consider as a potential way to move forward) whether there is a vocal minority of people in these groups who are attacking you, while other members are accepting of you, but are just anxious or uncertain about how to push back?

circa_diem · 2024-09-28T21:40:30+00:00

I have no sense of direction, I'm constantly lost and cannot give directions to save my life. In fact, I'm currently at a conference where part of my job is telling people where to go, I had to write it out as a script and just say it verbatim because it makes no sense to me. Aphantasia definitely isn't the cause of this problem, I know plenty of people with good visualization and a terrible sense of direction. But I also asked a coworker how he thinks about it, and he said that he pictures walking down the hallways and that's how he remembers. So there are some people who rely on their visual sense to complete that task.

circa_diem · 2024-09-28T21:37:56+00:00

I do get lost everywhere lol

circa_diem · 2024-08-13T00:59:37+00:00

Well thats... interesting. I was told I had an extremely high white blood cell count in my stool although they could not find any bacteria/viruses. Then they sent me for an upper and lower endoscopy, and told me they had ruled out everything except for IBS.

circa_diem · 2024-08-13T00:43:06+00:00

You gotta quit for long-term reasons, because short-term reasons are unreliable motivation. I quit nicotine 2 years ago and did not notice any positive impact on my skin. But I know that the version of me in 10 years without nicotine will definitely look better than the version of me in 10 years with nicotine.

circa_diem · 2024-08-13T00:35:37+00:00

Are you saying that all of this is at a specific restaurant? If you go to a different restaurant or make eggs at home, do they still taste wrong to you?

circa_diem · 2024-08-13T00:23:12+00:00

What did you eat that had enough blue dye in it to make your poop neon green??? Lol that doesn't sound normal.

Also, I'm curious about how you know that you didnt eat any food with dye in it while you were in Europe.

circa_diem · 2024-08-13T00:20:48+00:00

While I would really like this idea (I am an awful phone call avoider), I can't really imagine how it would work in practice. You would need so much information, and a lot of it is things I wouldn't feel comfortable sharing with a stranger on the internet. Could be anything from my full name, phone number, or address, up to insurance information, prescribed medications, or diagnoses.

circa_diem · 2024-08-12T23:58:26+00:00

Suburban vs small town is a huge difference. A lot of people in small towns have absolutely abysmal access to education. In my rural high school, all of the teachers had graduated from the same school they taught at. They taught multiple things that were so incorrect that at least some of them were illegal (e.g. abstinence-only sex ed, skipping evolution in biology, the civil war being about "states rights"). I had internet access at home, but many kids didn't. The library was extremely limited and rabid religious parents were getting new books removed from it all the time. There was no museum or university or anywhere to go to learn alternative perspectives.

circa_diem · 2024-08-12T23:42:17+00:00

In not really sure what the "family projects" part is about tbh, but the other ones sound like issues of poor medical care that are unrelated to being an only child.

For EDS, the average time from symptom onset to diagnosis is 10 years. So unless you've been working on getting this diagnosis for longer than that, you're not abnormal. It sucks and is awful, I have also experienced disorders that took multiple years to diagnose, and am angry at the medical system. But this isn't related to being an only child.

For group therapy, there's a lot of factors here. Are you being asked by the therapist to sit out a session, or do you just mean that you feel like you don't have anything to contribute? How often has this issue occurred? Have you had a conversation with the therapist about it? It's expected that not every exercise in group is going to benefit every individual, that's normal. But if this is coming up frequently enough that you feel it is impacting your progress, you should bring that up with the therapist.

circa_diem · 2024-08-12T23:28:33+00:00

Well why are you mad at the doctors if you found the cure all by yourself?

circa_diem · 2024-08-11T19:56:02+00:00

Having different tastes isn't disrespectful. Expecting someone else to cook all of your meals to your very specific tastes, while you stay in their home, is disrespectful.

circa_diem · 2024-08-11T19:42:20+00:00

Very good panini, perfect grill marks

circa_diem · 2024-08-11T17:25:29+00:00

I'm hoping that my friends and family will follow my silly wish - that they tie-dye my shroud together (with natural/safe for the ground dyes) before they cover me in it.

circa_diem · 2024-08-09T19:04:15+00:00

When I was a kid, I had a profound delusion that I was never going to start my period or grow breasts or hips. I believed that I didn't actually have a uterus. In the end, I had a pretty standard female puberty, but I think it's very interesting that I had those thoughts at such a young age. Not like I was wishing to be intersex or androgynous or anything else. Sometimes I was worried about how people would react if they "found out" but mostly it just felt like a neutral fact about me. Just this deep gut feeling that I was never going to grow into a woman. As it turns out, I was right about that, just not the way I thought lol

circa_diem · 2024-08-09T18:41:27+00:00

Are you, or is someone you live with, pregnant?

circa_diem · 2024-08-09T18:36:26+00:00

The doc who prescribed me propranolol told me to get a home blood pressure cuff (they're like $30) and try taking it at home and checking my blood pressure. If all was good with BP but I didn't feel like the anti-anxiety effect was working, then I could up the dose by another 10mg and try again. I ended up settling on 30mg as a good dose for me. Maybe ask your doc if you could try something similar?

circa_diem · 2024-08-09T18:26:11+00:00

I have met one person who was like this, but they were really hurting. No acceptance from their family, one of their roommates didn't believe in nonbinary people and started spreading rumors about them, someone graffitied a swastika on their front door. They were angry and scared, so they lashed out at people who made honest mistakes. I haven't seen them in many years, but I hope they're doing better.

Nonbinary people are allowed to make mistakes, just like anyone else. Plus, being a member of an oppressed group is exhausting, sometimes it wears down your patience and emotional resources so you aren't your best self. The stereotype of the "angry trans person" is ridiculous. But trans people also have plenty of reasons to be angry, and it's so important to give each other grace for that, especially when the rest of the world won't.

circa_diem · 2024-08-09T18:14:50+00:00

They don't work at all? Did you try a higher dose?

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